Fight clubs on mumsnet

[TensionWheelsCoolHeels]

Is it just me or has there been a significant shift in the ethos of this site where 'fight clubs' are now tolerated wherever they spring up? There is a real nasty undercurrent running through a few parts of this site & it's just unpleasant to read through.

Are the mods all barricading themselves in bunkers or something, hoping it'll all blow over?

[R4roger]

Every bleeding time I post I am pulled up by somebody for saying the wrong thing
tis horrible.

[NickiFury]

No just one poster wishing you'd "pipe down", me. Don't say "posters" to imply you're bring attacked. Nothing said there that hasn't been said here. It's obvious that you're going to read it.

[everydayvalue]

If posters are being discussed on threads, and those posts have been reported.Then MNHQ should delete those posts.

Discussing other posters on threads has always been a no no on MN.

[everydayvalue]

MNHQ could start by deleting posts that are discussing named posters.

[Mintyy]

TensionWheelsCoolHeels - I think you have been completely foolish to start this thread, however HQ should not allow bitching about other posters to stand on ANY thread, no matter what the arguments have been, and I suggest you continue to report those posts until you get some satisfaction. At the weekend they don't seem so quick to delete ... probably due to less manpower.

[zippey]

I think this thread is a lot about nothing. The OP has agenda that he needs to take up with MN.

[everydayvalue]

If you were being bitched about on another thread,Zippey. Would you think that was nothing?

[NickiFury]

There's another thread going where I am being slagged off extensively. Guess what though? I don't care. I won't report it because it means nothing to me. There are things said on a particular board, here on MN that are beyond the pale, things that would be unacceptable on any other part of the boards yet on it goes. I'm not going to stop posting and questioning that and be driven off a particular part of MN despite repeated and strenuous attempts to do so. If things like that being said about me, well great, I am glad because it means that they've noticed that there are people who think it's not ok to be vicious and unpleasant.

[everydayvalue]

I would think that slagging off other posters is against talk guidelines.

Maybe it's acceptable now though. It seems anything goes these days.

[TensionWheelsCoolHeels]

Just for clarity, the thread isn't about me, I've just been added today for posting this thread.

I've not said anywhere it's 'all over the boards' I've said certain boards/threads/posts.

All of this has been highlighted to MNHQ and they are aware of what's going on. Posters on this thread have already said it's been dealt with& MNHQ don't have a problem with it etc.

As I've already stated, I question the wisdom of that stance, given the posts/posters/threads being discussed there & elsewhere, and the fall out elsewhere.

Foolish I may be, but can't stand seeing bitchy unnecessary stuff which simply stokes bad feeling & does the opposite of help/support anyone. I posted here to question what was going on as the posts/threads are numerous & if be here all day reporting everything.

Fact is, I didn't even mention the threads/boards involved & still it's been identified by those involved & other observers too. Hardly indicative of 'nothing' is it?

And Nicky if you really weren't affected by what's being said about you, and that you are fine with it standing, you wouldn't feel the need to then retreat to your other thread to say what you think/want to say but can't 'cos it'll breach talk guidelines. That's my point.

[NickiFury]

I am fine with it. Hence my not starting a whiny thread like this one or reporting any of the posts about me.

What I do do is discuss the ongoing situation with other like minded posters and am quite happy with my choice to do that, not to mention the fact that I am addressing you directly on here, so not retreating at all, being quite open about my thoughts, both here and there AND on numerous other threads.

[AmyMumsnet]

Hi everyone,

Wish I'd watched Fight Club so I could make a humourous entrance.

We think we've got a handle on which 'Fight Club' is being referenced on this thread, and we gave everyone involved a bit of a nudge a few weeks ago to try and make certain boards a more friendly place.

If you think it hasn't worked, please drop us a line, or even better, report a post to show us what we've missed.

Mumsnet is a blardy big place and we can't always see everything being posted all of the time (even if we pretend otherwise).

.

[TensionWheelsCoolHeels]

Well if that's the case, why ask MNHQ on your other thread to go onto the bingo thread & chastise those posting there about you? If you feel that's warranted, why claim here you don't mind/won't report to highlight how whingey you think I am?

Which ever way you try & frame this Nicky, the overall picture is that people are posting unpleasant digs about you/other posters, and you/other posters are doing the same. Ad infinitum.

[NickiFury]

I'm addressing the OP saying that I "retreat" to my thread to bitch. This is untrue, anything I have to say is said openly and is available for anyone to read as evidenced by my posting on this thread and many others. There is nothing on that thread that I have not openly said to the posters in question. I wish I could say the same about the things that have been said about me. It is also worth noting that I have only rarely been deleted while others who have attacked me have numerous deletions.

I think the OP should have contacted MN privately to discuss her issues with the threads and I think her motives for starting this thread are questionable. Hence my referring to her thread as whiny, maybe it isn't very nice but then nearly everything about this ongoing debate isn't very nice and that's why tensions are running so high.

[NickiFury]

I'm not trying to frame it anyway, just putting the facts out there, which is something you failed to do in your OP and just making it clear that the thread in OTBT is not the only thread running along these lines.

Perhaps if posters made it their business to address the viciousness, abusive attitudes and name calling towards children so often found on the step parenting board then these battle lines would never have been drawn. Take a look over the people, you may find yourself quite surprised what is considered acceptable over there and how anyone who even gently questions the status quo has been attacked and chased out by a small cohort of individuals who have a real poisonous presence there.

I'm not posting here anymore, if you're desperate to find me to carry on the debate then you know where I am

[RandallFloyd]

Don't worry, Amy, you're missing nothing. It's over-hyped rubbish. I was sorely disappointed.

As regards the other stuff, it seems there is a whole world of stuff I know nothing about so I'll quietly back away I think.

[HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen]

This thread hasn't helped because the op has been quite rude to perfectly reasonable posts.

As I'm questioning her interpretation on here, I'm certainly questioning her take on what she says have happened else where.

MNHQ have said twice they are dealing with it.

Twice to report it.

What more does the op want. If they've acknowledged the reports and left posts than the op has to deal with that.