Can we please have a ruling on how unsupportive of other parents it is permissible to be

[twittymummyofnone]

within site rules, particularly, but not only, in reference to this thread;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2094153-To-think-that-a-lot-of-the-time-having-someone-in-the-family-with-a-disability-does-mean-being-long-term-poor

Have NCed obviously, but MNHQ can obviously see who I am and maybe we can get this cleared up one way or the other.

Somewhat but not entirely sock

Laziness and fecklessness are her main themes really

but I'm feckless truly I am, just the other day I had rude thoughts about a married man(Robbie Williams) and I'm not sorry about it.

And I'm sure what he did to me in my head was a criminal offence!

Well you might want to post an AIBU about it marked FAO HMOO?

You know very well the only interest that would get would be are you intending on sponging off him,getting any help or support from him

And heads would implode as well yes because it's really not possible for me to get into any sort of interesting position without my legs being moved for me so chances are his butler would need to be involved.

Then I would be horrible for not offering to pay the butlers wages

I wish hmoo had a different acronym, i keep reading it as mitmoo

@ so chances are his butler would need to be involved.

That'll push the hit rate up

@ beyond

Beyond!

Beyond - me too! Made me go for a minute.

Hi everyone,

We're sorry if it appears that we are wilfully ignoring an issue, but we can assure you we aren't. If something isn't reported to us we just don't see it most of the time.

This is a good case in point - since this thread has been started there hasn't been a significant amount of reports about any particular poster's posting history or tone on any other thread. If something isn't being reported then we don't tend to look in to it, which is why we asked you to report any comments you felt we needed to see.

General chat about policies and procedures is always welcome, but sustained posting about a specific poster could be seen as a prolonged personal attack. We know that tensions are running a bit high but we'd appreciate it if you could use the report function if you want to draw our attention to a specific poster, rather than discussing them on the thread.

In cases like this where it isn't clear cut it can take a while to build up a picture of a situation. That's why we ask you to report - we read each one and they help us to build a picture of what's going on. From that we can take action.

If someone is reported to us repeatedly for putting down others for their parenting abilities we will zap it - and take action as necessary.

Remember, we love reports - the more the merrier!

I'm sorry Amy I'm not sure I understand.

Are you saying you'd like us to go back and report historic posts that are part of the problem?

So in other words, she's got away with it YET AGAIN.

Because I don't think there is any current activity is there?

And Dawn said last night you (MNHQ collectively) are still listening, but now you want us to shut up (not discuss on thread)?

But reporting post by post doesn't work, we've all tried that.

Is this a brush off?

But there isn't anything to report. The poster in question is clearly laying low... until the next time.

If someone is reported to us repeatedly for putting down others for their parenting abilities we will zap it

Maybe this is the get out clause?

It is not exactly parenting abilities she denigrates.

Still not clear on what we're being asked to do

Hi all,

We're not trying to get out of anything - honest guv.

Sorry for any confusion in the earlier post. What we're asking you to do is please report any future posts which you think we need to see, and get in touch if there are any ongoing issues that you think we need to be made aware of.

In the meantime we're having a look back to see if there are any issues that need dealing with.

We are always listening (in a non-Big Brother way) but we can't really have an entire thread picking apart a single poster. We know you're frustrated but we hope you see where we're coming from on that one.

THIS IS AN ONGOING ISSUE!

For the last 4 YEARS it's been an ongoing issue.

Amy, someone says upthread that these sly posts, within the guidelines but "not conductive to the aim of the site", started four years ago. Are you asking that we search through her posting history for the last four years and report every dodgy post? Without super mnhq computers that can do clever things like that easily?

Cause if thats what you want, then i'll do it, but as a feckless disabled sahm, i'm not gonna work for free!

Fine. But this;

since this thread has been started there hasn't been a significant amount of reports about any particular poster's posting history or tone on any other thread.

Is hardly surprising as she hasn't been seen since Saturday nights contretemps.

Thanks for the clarification.

X post there.

So, reading between the lines, you're suggesting some sort of trap?

I didn't comment on the other thread as I have no experience of this but have just heard about the nastiness and can't believe somebody could say awful things on such a sensitive subject to those who were affected by the awful comments. I'm not going to read them but wanted to offer my support for carers or people living with disability on a day to day basis, I can't imagine how difficult it must be. x