Can we please have a ruling on how unsupportive of other parents it is permissible to be

[twittymummyofnone]

within site rules, particularly, but not only, in reference to this thread;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2094153-To-think-that-a-lot-of-the-time-having-someone-in-the-family-with-a-disability-does-mean-being-long-term-poor

Have NCed obviously, but MNHQ can obviously see who I am and maybe we can get this cleared up one way or the other.

Hmmm, it's a tough one but I think you'll agree something needs to be done. It's been going on for far too long.

Roaming IP addresses? Sometimes I feel like a dinosaur around new technology.

HMOO is nothing if not consistent. MNHQ will be able to see this for sure. Agree, it's gone on too long.

It's pointless reporting generally though. Tends to be ignored unless it's blatant trolling.

I dream of a hide poster button. I can't even come here for support anymore because that twat always pops up on those threads and makes me feel even more shit than I already did. I can try to ignore but when the thread descends into everyone who is normal vs HMOO, you can't miss it. So every thread gets abandoned. Now I can only stay on the light stuff and it's not fair that my use of a forum is hampered by someone who just wants to spread hurt. I've had some of the best advice here and now I can't ask for more because she appears bleating about how I made my choices so it's all my fault.

I know MNHQ don't care really and it's the old don't give too much of yourself thing but if one user makes it like this for a lot of people, something should be done.

I remember when posters have been banned or suspended for jumping on threads to make people feel like shit so I don't see why this isn't the same. For months (years) she has targeted benefit threads, lone parent threads and child maintenance threads with the sole aim of spreading hate. I've seen the OP of these threads politely ask her to stop but she continues. Her own life is obviously shit so she needs to make everyone else feel shit but it's not on.

This is the only thing that other forums have above mumsnet tbh. The ignore or hide function! It would definitely encourage less cuntish behaviour for the sake of it.

Each computer internet connection has an IP address. This is usually fixed. BUT, you can change this by various means..meaning that you can't be traced, banned or tracked Calmet .

If you have a roaming IP address that changes all the time and you are banned. You are banned with that IP address but there is nothing stopping you from starting again with another IP address.

You can find yours by just googling it.

If I read "benefits as a lifestyle choice" once more I may implode.

Thanks smiles

Anytime.

"Benefits as a lifestyle choice" and "Hard working families" . Just as patronising as each other.

Smiles

So are we supposed to report things like the recent "I work because I don't want to sponge off my partner" comment (can't rem who that gem was from)?This type of thing crops up a lot on Sahp parent threads.I don't report because I assume it's not a direct attack although it does attack a group as a whole.

Good luck with that Retro

Or indeed the classic (but impressively definite) "It's wrong to be financially dependent on a man". (She wouldn't tell me what she meant by wrong though? )

I quite liked this one...

"(Quoted from another poster) "It's not really fair that as a taxpayer I pick up the bill for those children whose fathers have shirked their financial responsibility"

(Hmoo) "But the only reason taxpayers would be paying is if the mother has skirted that same financial responsibility so it's not ok for a man but fine for a woman."

Lovely!

Maybe she has a point - perhaps mums left in the lurch should work two jobs to make up for their fecklessness in having 'mislaid' their partners

Yay! HMOO for PM!

I had to read that several times Beyond.

Is she saying that...actually what is she saying should happen to the children?

I think that sometimes we learn a lot from the worst posters.
They say things that are shocking, plain wrong, mean spirited and unkind. Usually then others try to correct them
Depending on the poster they very often carry on saying their bollocks but other people are given a chance to hear about things they might not otherwise and examine their feelings and maybe change their mind

Sometimes it feels as though all we have done is beat our heads against a grim brick wall but hopefully there are other readers that are educated and moved to think in another way.
Maybe the trolls and selfish bastards actually help discussion

They make help discussion but they make me feel like shit and worthless at times- and I'm pretty tough.

I hate to think what more fragile members feel like sometimes.

Exactly what Retro said.

And in the end the only choice is to leave or stay in the room where the broken record of fascist bon-mots is blaring, so useful conversations get curtailled.

I am really sorry that you have felt that way or that any of you have

In the past I have read some threads that have become really nasty but have made me reconsider what I thought I knew and have certainly educated me or made me learn about some of the things discussed.

That the difference though Ronald.

You read, took on board, learned and remembered. It's worth the suffereing and upset if at least one person learns from this.

The are one or two persistant posters who refuse to do this and have been this way for years now.

Christ knows where that E came from either in suffering.

But when 12 of us are on a thread with similar experiences how is 'reconsidering what we know' about fighting for a suitable Statement of SEN, or how to finance respie care, or the uselessness of the CSA, or how to live on £61.20 (?) Carer's allowance per week plus tax credits or the failings of the NHS etc etc on the say so of some smug right wing arse a meaningful concept Ronald??

Seriously, please explain. Because she sure as hell isn't reconsidering any of what she doesn't know.

On the plus side, it was nice to know there were 12 of all fighting in the same corner. Sometimes, no not sometimes..most of the time as a carer, disabled, LP you feel so bloody alone.

Sorry Ronald that emerged from my fingers more harshly than I intended.

99 times out of 100 you'd be right. In this particular case, we are dealing with Katie Hopkins or one of her thicker skinned, more sadistic friends