a chance for the SN community to tell you how it really is and to tell you the horrid stuff they have to deal with

[2shoes]

all the time..
after the horror of the other thread, I think it would be good for the sn community on mn to tell their stories, when they have been harassed/assaulted/ and abused by the nt world.
night help to put a couple of minor incidents that someone in the nt world has had to put up with for a very short space of time.

so I will start ....
we were subjected ot haye crime for 5 years....why because my ds fell out with them when they called my dd a spaz.
we can't go out without the staring...small children blocking out way in the shop, whilst mummy/daddy does nothing, just so their child can stare at dd, who is shock horror in a wheelchair.
my son was bullied at school by nt kids who took delight in calling dd a spaz.

mie are minor compared with most.

Morning Shoes me dear, how's you??

Mine was when Ds was almost 5 (a bloody tall one too. 7-8 year old clothes)
He was still in nappies but could tell me when he was uncomfortably wet.
We came out of the changing area of a supermarket to an old bat pensioner berating me for 'babying' him.
Fury took over as I told her that 'It was none of her fucking business what I do with my child and until she is a qualified expert in Autism, I was not going to listen to an ignorant word she said!'

She stalked off mumbling about not knowing he had problems, I was so rude etc.

Yes DS aged 17 only started going out without an adult last August and that's only to college/placement because all the charmers who live here, he had his mouth slashed at 7 by another 7 year old for being different that's when he stopped going anywhere. Took a lot of work to get him that far.

DD2 also had it off them both here and at school as her brother was an retard and spaz she was bullied because of him.

Your poor children. Makes me so angry.

DD has Asperger's- we tend to have lots of low-level piss taking and staring when she hand-flaps or talks to herself.
As she gets older, it gets worse. She's 11 but can't go out alone, she just doesn't have any common sense-walks into roads;etc.
She is an absolute joy, but her life can be so hard.

DS was bullied for several years at school because he has the same condition that a teenager who stabbed the bully's brother has. This makes him "just like him" and so fair game for violent physical and psychological bullying by the bully in question and all his friends.

DS was made to sit beside the child who bullied him and hit him about the head because "he's the quietest one in the class" - well, um, yes that's because he's partially deaf.

He was also called spaz. Repeatedly.

And had his speech mocked.

And the battle to get him statemented was only won in upper sixth because "statements are only for children with behavioural problems and he doesn't give us any bother"

And he went back to school having had surgery to remove a tumour from his skull and the bully deliberately punched him about the head while 3 teachers/classroom assistants stood at the front of the class talking.

oh god that is awful

That's terrible your poor son.

That is awful hathor

and everyone else too

thank you all for posting. I think you are all amazing and brave. I am in tears.

My D nephews are both Aspergers and have it tough.

You should copy and paste this thread to David Cameron, see if he still thinks cutting DLA is a good pursuit.

Thanks all for telling your stories so far, you're right (sadly) people do need reminding and informing.

I wonder why this isn't on the PSE curriculum, it should be...along with racism and sexism.

What's NT 2shoes?

And FWIW I admire anyone who does parenting without strangling other judgeypants parents whatever challenges their kids face.

Here's mine;

Asked to leave a playgroup, and not come back, when dt's were 2 1/2 due to ds behaviour.

Stared at when out in public due to his speech.

It gets better. No one told me it had happened and I only found out when he came out of school. He had been bleeding from his ear and we had to go to the doctor.

By the time I got home from my screaming fit discussion with the head the next morning and phoned the education dept, the school had already made a panic phone call them aware.

I was told by the school and the education dept that I had to be sympathetic as the child had a difficult home life and the school were trying to work with them. I was also asked where did they want me to seat the child, as he had to sit beside someone.

I said I didn't give a flying fuck where they put him, outside beside the bins would be good, but if I found he was anywhere near my son again I would have their guts on a plate.

He's 21 now and fine btw

a stranger saying: "Can you shut THAT up"

:(

hath that is awful. It's beyond awful.
My son is moderately deaf and has autistic tendencies. I dread him starting school.

Rilly. I wonder if a class talk about what his autism may bring up for him would be a good idea or does that mean everyone knows he's different???

I should say, he still has moderate to severe hearing loss, he always will have, but he's doing fine.

And he's very caring and understanding, and it's such a double edged sword. I mean, I would never have wished for him to go through what he did (we gave up counting at 22 operations of various kinds) but on the other hand, it made him the man he is today - and I wouldn't change him.

Does that make sense?

To be told I shouldn't put dd2 in her SN pushchair because it made her looked more disabled.
To be told there is nothing wrong with them and I'm not helping them by labelling there.
My days start at 5am most days, with pre planning everything on how we are getting to school, what we are wearing, what teacher they have, how we are getting home, what will we do when we return home, what's for tea, what people are coming over, what time we are picking dh up from work ect ect.
My diary is Full of appointments and some weeks we have 4 or more, between DDs and dh.
Meetings with school are regular, reports are always in the post and countless calls happen weekly.
Social stories need writing on every event that isn't without normal routine and heaven forbid a change of food.

It has been made clear more than once by schools that they don't wish my child to be there. I had to pay for specialists therapies because my LA take so long or don't provide it.

I could only read a few of these and I am so upset - I have to stop. My heart goes out to you. Its so important to me that my children grow up showing respect to people who are differently-abled. Love and best wishes to you all and your precious, lovely children xxx

Oh and being advised not to put his hearing loss on his UCAS forms as "no university will take you"

Another one the day I was called to collect DS aged 6 at 9.15 am to find him pinned down by 2 adults by his feet and arms told them he wasn't coming back was the 3rd time in about 2 weeks. Turned out they'd removed his one-one he had to share with 2 or 3 others and it had been a new teacher every week for 6 weeks he
couldn't cope this was a special unit as well.