AIBU to be unsure after receiving butt plugs on a fifth date?

[SapphireSteel28]

I have been seeing a guy who I met online-we have had 5 dates, and had sex on the fourth-it was lovely! We are both in our fifties with grown up kids. On our fifth date he presented me with a gift-a set of three butt plugs. I don’t know what to make of it. I don’t know whether I should continue seeing him. In the heat of the moment I made out I was fine with it-but now I’m wondering whether I’m a bit too “vanilla”- do many women like butt plugs?!

I have name changed for this for obvious reasons.

Ask him to try them out first??? 🤣

WTF?!

That's really weird so soon into a relationship. I'd dump him.

Grim. Is this what passes for romance these days?

... unless you're into anal sex, of course!

What’s with all the posts today about anal sex five dates in?

He can put the butt plugs where the sun don’t shine!

god, men, I’d have walked out and blocked him.

No discussion first. Eek. 🤮 I wouldn’t want to see him again.

Say thanks and use them as wine stoppers. You can never have too many wine stoppers.

Ew.

Have you said anything to him that would lead him to think you would welcome such a gift?

For example - hey, you know what I would like...

We didn’t have anal sex-but he bought me a set of butt plugs from Lovehoney. I haven’t seen any other posts about anal sex!

@Strandas

No-not at all.

Tell him he must be adventurous to want to have 2 up his arse...

That's so gross

I'm guessing you have never had any conversations about bum stuff? Really out of order of him, he should be asking what you're into, but he is sneakily trying to palm it off as a gift when knowing that puts pressure on you to give a reason not to use them. I'd be done with him.

God. I would have been SO put off by that. It's a hell no from me, but I wouldn't expect it to be so obviously brought up quite so quickly!

I am just wondering what his thought process was-he’s been so lovely-it was a complete shock.

I would pretend that I thought they were wine bottle stoppers for a laugh and then never see him again.

Gross. I'm afraid I would have to bin him.

I was wondering that.

🤣

So the consensus seems to be that I’m not boring or vanilla.

Sorry you were offended.

Can I have them back next time we meet and I’ll try to get a refund

grim grim grim. I'd just drop him like a stone. Are they all addled by porn these days?