The bi women thread that doesn’t get deleted…

[OneOfEachPlease]

There have been several bi women threads on here over time. But they have always got deleted. I thought I would try and start one that doesn’t. Aspiration in the title!

I have done this under my usual username so it’s clear as it can be that I am what I say I am.

This is a thread for any bi woman or any women loving women in any circumstance. So you’ve know all your life and had multiple female (and male?) partners to you’ve only just realised. All are welcome. Maybe you want to act on it, maybe you don’t. Just a general chat and support thread!

My circumstances are that I have probably always known I was bi but put it away in a little ‘that doesn’t matter’ box in my brain. Reader, it did matter. Having got divorced (not related to my sexuality) I have wanted to act on it but I get worried about being inexperienced, body confidence and life getting in the way! I have had sex with women but only twice (2 women, 1 time each). I imagine, for understandable reasons (ex husband, boyfriends, lack of blue hair 😉 …), me being bi wouldn’t cross people’s minds so I am unlikely to just bump into either bi friends or more.

Would you be this supportive of your husband being sexually attracted to other men like he is with you @HP87 ?

Way to go on the supportive side of the thread

genuine question

I wld not, which is very unfair I know

at least you are honest about it

Thanks for the post. I would have followed a two pronged approach, first tried to find a common connection / activity to get closer to her socially because then it would be easier to test her interest without asking throwing lines like my hubby/BF is driving mad, next time I would go out with a women and see her reaction (I find it helpful personally).
Second would try to widen the net to understand if your feelings are just for her or women in general it might help you understand better what you are looking for.
Good luck and keep us posted on the development :)

I think the thing is most of us are brought up on what l would call a “straight default”. So, we tend not to think beyond the status quo. You will grow up and marry a man etc.

Goodness knows the signs were there back in my teens; a group of girls used to do what we called “kissing practice” allegedly to make us better kissers for the boys; of course it was 😎. But my bi side wasn’t realised until much later when away on a work trip and a colleague invited me for a pizza and a video. ‘Never did see the end of the video. The whole scenario was an eye opener.

A few years ago I could have written much of what you have. My barrier was acknowledging it to myself as much as anything, and I think the 40s is where we feel more comfortable in our own skin, while also experiencing a certain disquiet, questioning our path and wondering whether we've been entirely true to ourselves.

Thank You @StarlightLady and @LostFragmentsOfTheTenthMuse for your responses. I think this is my first proper step on here, to accepting this myself - it looks to be a safe space & also supportive. I know completely that I am not being true to myself - and I feel that at the age I am now, I am ready to explore this fully myself- I have no idea what that looks like or where to start, but I feel that I have to do this for my own sanity really - thanks again for replying x

@Bellepeony - l believe you’ll get there. But don’t worry if it takes a while. Just to add, on a personal note l am not a lover of labels. I prefer to regard myself as “sexual” no prefix required. And explanation only necessary for someone who l might take things further with.

Beware though, how much you communicate to men, they can expect you to bring along a friend or expect a floor show.⚠