The bi women thread that doesn’t get deleted…

[OneOfEachPlease]

There have been several bi women threads on here over time. But they have always got deleted. I thought I would try and start one that doesn’t. Aspiration in the title!

I have done this under my usual username so it’s clear as it can be that I am what I say I am.

This is a thread for any bi woman or any women loving women in any circumstance. So you’ve know all your life and had multiple female (and male?) partners to you’ve only just realised. All are welcome. Maybe you want to act on it, maybe you don’t. Just a general chat and support thread!

My circumstances are that I have probably always known I was bi but put it away in a little ‘that doesn’t matter’ box in my brain. Reader, it did matter. Having got divorced (not related to my sexuality) I have wanted to act on it but I get worried about being inexperienced, body confidence and life getting in the way! I have had sex with women but only twice (2 women, 1 time each). I imagine, for understandable reasons (ex husband, boyfriends, lack of blue hair 😉 …), me being bi wouldn’t cross people’s minds so I am unlikely to just bump into either bi friends or more.

THIS. it is not only fair on a partner but the only chance of the relationship having a chance without sneaking and cheating.

out of curiosity. which one of you would be open to your husbands expressing interest in exploring his bi side with other men?

I wouldn’t mind, don’t want to appear slutty but it might spice things up. Same sex doesn’t make jealous, but if we wants to have another women big nono for me.

that is a bit odd. a person is a person. so it would be nice for you to play with a woman and he is not allowed? it is usually mysognystic men who say things like this but in reverse. that they think it is hot if their woman has sex with other women because it is not like having sex with another man.

not judging but very odd to me

Maybe I was not clear in the previous post, I meant I would not mind if he want to experiment with another guy but I would feel threatened / jealous if he want to try with another girl. I was talking about his perspective.

I would expect the same for me, that he would let me have fun with another woman but not a guy.

For me my current partner is bi, we've agreed that we won't explore separately but I'm happy to explore together. Best of both worlds!

@SUperchange I think it’s really difficult to judge with women. So maybe focus on how much you enjoy her company and flirting a little and just give it time and see what happens. I am very much guilty of overthinking things with women. And while @StarlightLady’s potential date did flinch, I’d like to think that many more women would just say no but take it as a compliment.

in my view it was not an inappropriate touch nor trespass. Nobody witnessing would consider it wrong and certainly not equate with a hand on a leg from a woman or a man.

Yes, l misread the signals from earlier but it was a gentle hand on a shoulder squeezing past a chair. Yes, it was saying something in this case, but l would do similar with others in my friendship group, where the message would have been quite different.

I am not a very touchy feely person with friends / acquaintances and I'm very awkward when it comes to flirting with women - I'd probably tense up if a woman I did fancy put a hand on my shoulder when I wasn't expecting it 😆

So maybe l got it wrong thinking I’f got it wrong 😀? I thought other signs were there.

l was UK born but brought up in France (due to dad’s job), the French are far more tactile when compared to people from the UK and l think that is where l get some of it from.

@StarlightLady entirely possible!

My most recent 'first date' with a woman was a few years ago and even after we spent several hours drinking, chatting and laughing I wasn't sure if she was 'interested' or just being friendly and I was genuinely startled when she asked if it was ok to kiss me.

It wasn't until she suggested going to a different bar and walked us to her hotel bar I thought perhaps she might be interested! 😆

I can't imagine trying to decipher more subtle signals in a normal social situation with someone who might not even be bi!!

Plus things are further compounded by those who are curious and those whose emotions get taken by surprise (that was me) over a course of events. Everyone has a first time.