Sexless Marriages Support thread

[Aishabibi]

I’ve noticed since coming onto this section that there are a lot of us in sexless marriages. I wonder if having a thread to share experiences, survival strategies, sex toy recommendations, FwB set ups for those who’ve agreed to open things up or anyone that has managed to get things going again.

my situation is nothing from DH for over 3 yrs. he says he’s not interested at all, no urges whatsoever. He agreed I could explore a FwB, which I did find. Before that, lots of failed attempts to get him interested (lingerie, porn, and a growing collection of toys

😂

I've told my friends that if I buy a yellow Mr Bean Mini that'll be my mid-life crisis.

Well, if that didn't pull the birds I don't know what would!

Well yes, to point and laugh unless you meant seagulls 😂.

https://images.app.goo.gl/GvqRQ

Me at 50.

How about a lovely light brown Robin reliant?? 😁

Only when I'm old enough. Three wheels to go with my two legs and walking stick.

I have a Porsche, it’s a stunning car that thrills
me every time I drive it, something entirely independent of age.

You don't know what you're missing!
0 - 20 mph in 4 days!!!!! 😁

I’m assuming that’s not what your username is based on @Goodengine 😂

Definitely not 🤣

How is the OP doing?

Why is Gymbunny involved in so many degenerative threads on here?

Get a life, get over yourself.

You have to sit on top of the Mini and steer it with ropes. If your special extensions on the accelerator and brake fail; you are in trouble, though.

Absolutely agree that it’s unacceptable to be using this thread to pm the women posting, the whole point of the thread is to support people in a sexless relationship and offer advice from personal experience as to what may or may not help, I’ve never deliberately hidden the fact I’m male, nor that this thread has been of some benefit, some of us do post frequently on various parts of mumsnet, not just the sex threads, sad that a minority of males ruin it for all

I completely agree with you.

I’m very happily married to the most gorgeous woman, yet have been PMd by three women on here - I don’t take any offence at all, it’s actually quite nice to be noticed…..just hoping they’re women though!!!!!

That’s the exact opposite of how I felt about the PM I received.

Oh wow, I hadn't thought of that. I PMd a couple women here for advice and found them really helpful, now I'm wondering if I've been talking to blokes.
Don't get me wrong, good advice is good advice at the end of the day. But it still creeps me out to think that I opened up to someone I thought was female and maybe they're not. You'd have to question their motivation for hiding their true gender.
I'm female btw - no, really!

I have been contacted by ‘women’ who almost certainly were not. But I think if you were reaching out to them you probably had more of a sense they were women @GlasGal83

Recently had some very lovely messages from both men and women regulars on the board- where their gender hasn’t mattered at all 😘

Well, I've been contacted by men who thought I was a woman and women who also thought I was a woman!

(I should say that I didn't play along once I realised this! 😁)

Is there anyone here who ended their marriage simply because of lack of attraction (and, hence, no sex life/intimacy/affection)? I went over ten years and realised I just wasn’t attracted to him. I love him in some form but more like a close relative/friend. I spent many, many years living without as I just didn’t see him that way. Of course, like many, I ended up drifting and have had a long distance relationship with a man for quite a few years now (I did end my marriage immediately btw).

Issue I have is that both kids have moved in with their father (17 and 21) and blame me for ending the marriage. Relationship with OM is going nowhere and I now feel unfulfilled with that too, even though we are so attracted to each other and get on well (he’s married). I feel I can’t tell anyone why I’ve ended the marriage. Especially the kids! They don’t have the maturity to understand.

Can anyone relate/advise?

I do like the idea of a man pretending to be a woman contacting a woman (who is actually a man) 😂😂

I never get contacted by men on MN. I attribute this to the fact that as an American, I’m too far away for a quick shag. 😁

I’m sure it happens a lot because most posters here seem to be men. When a group of them moved over to reddit, they were basically a group of men waiting for the women to follow them over….😂

I have chatted to a few men on here, briefly. Ended up chatting to one for 2+ years.

I’ve chatted to a few women on here but if it starts to go into more than the odd message I’ll ask for them to send a pic (not face) holding something with their username on it. Most of the time you can work out if the person is genuine and I’ve not seen any hairy hands with painted nails yet 😂😂😂