Is your husband turned on by the thought of you being intimate with another guy?

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It's actually quite common but guys tend to either not know, supress it or keep it a secret for various reasons.
It tends to reveal itself when a wife confesses to cheating and he finds himself with a raging hard-on.

I'm curious about how many couples are open about this.

There are usually clues such as the types of porn he watches, if he likes to watch you with a dildo (usually one bigger than his own dick), if he likes you to dress revealingly around other men etc.
You can usually test him by telling him about a "dream" or past experience you had where another guy gave you a mindblowing experience, he might protest verbally but his dick might say otherwise.

If you seriously want it, chances are good that you can seduce him into wanting it too. There's plenty of literature out there explaining how.

@PassingStranger I get that others may be interested but I don't believe you really love your partner etc if you want to see them with someone else.

I think it depends entirely on the couple's attitude to sex. I love DP very much and we have a really solid relationship. But I have no issue seeing him with another woman. He's having a great time. Why wouldn't I want that for someone I love? Why would I choose to restrict or limit his happiness?

I'm a bit of a watcher but reading this made me realise it isn't just my DH. We are a pretty normal happy couple but in the last few years, an odd whisper in bed about him using a vibrator in me when I gave him oral grew slowly to him wanting us to imagining me being taken by another man with him there as well. It is a really powerful fantasy for him and he really loves playing it out in bed and whispering to each other. It has gradually got more adventurous and when he was in the throes of passion has cried out that he wants it for real. We haven't acted on it.

He loves me describing the other fantasy man, including how I like how he is circumcised. He loves me to now hold his foreskin right back really tight and use lube and rub him as if he is as well.

It was never my idea but it really seems to spice things up massively so I don't object.

I think that is the wrong thing to persuade the husband to give consent to her sleeping with another man. It sounds quite manipulative. The idea of this isn’t for me or dp but if this is agreed upon then it’s fine, it might work for others. Imagine the outrage if it was a man coming in her asking to get help to persuade his wife to fuck someone else. The reaction would be terrible and this is exactly the same thing in reverse.

It’s ok, I’m not going to persuade him to do anything.

As with anything, some things are best left in the mind. My husband is actually (aside from a few issues we had earlier this year) brilliant at sex and I can’t imagine anyone being better.

The problem with a poll like this is that for many people this is a rather taboo subject, so an unknown percentage of men will tell their partners what they think the partner wants to hear, rather than what they actually feel.
Cuckoldry/wife sharing is a very common subject on porn sites e.g. on Literotica (arguably the main website for erotic stories) the most common tag in the Loving Wives section is cuckoldry. I suspect that an interest in sharing their partner is a common male fantasy, but some men refuse to acknowledge it because they feel it would reflect badly on their masculinity and some conceal it from their partner because they feel it would shock/upset them.
Some years ago I hesitantly admitted to my wife that I would like to see her with another man. She was shocked, but not actually upset. She said no, then there was a brief period when she said she might if all the pieces fell into place, but for some time now it has been no.
However we have settled on it as an agreeable fantasy and occasionally use it in role playing e.g. she pretends she has been on a night out with friends and returns home having had sex with a handsome stranger. Interestingly some years ago she did say that if she was propositioned by Hugh Grant or Pierce Brosnan then the answer would be yes, and she was not joking.

Yes, he does, I'm pleased to say 😍

We're still at the talking stage about what this might involve, if it ever happens.

He's never mentioned it so I don't know. However I think I'd only be up for it with another woman, 2 men just don't appeal to me personally.

A slightly different take on this. I once gave a friend’s husband a blowie for a big birthday. Friend asked me if l would do it and it was very pre-planned. Needless to say she also asked him in advance. She held his hand throughout.

The rule was if she let go of his hand, that would signal she’d changed her mind and we would stop. She didn’t let go, but that was pre-cautionary, because with anything like this you never know until it happens.

I have watched my wife fucking quite a few different men, and always get turned on by it.

I do sometimes, but not always, get involved too, which I love especially if we also have MM intimacy in it

100%. My wife and I love each other deeply, but we also both have a great time fucking other people.

If anything it really does strengthen our marriage, but I fully get that it is certainly not for everyone.

It is very important that we all have a safe word and having a safe action is a great way to do it too.

Love that hand holding way to do it.

My husband absolutely loves me with other men and finds it a massive turn on! He also does the arrangements!! He is very chilled and relaxed when we meet other men and loves the attention I get ( even though I dress not revealing)

How did you first broach the topic?
Was it your husband or you who first mentioned it and how did you progress it?
It's clearly gone further than a one-off for you.

We use this fantasy as dirty talk during during sex which is a big turn on for us both but I doubt it'll go beyond the fantasy stage.
Which is fine for me right now.
I wouldn't want to do anything that might risk our relationship.

Funny that. I believe that if you REALLY love your partner you should want them to have the most fulfilled and exiting life possible and this can involve exploring each others fantasies.

It's a very long story but to resume yes, he first mentioned it and I was very intrigued by it and decide to explore we discussed it the do's and don'ts .

Yes we have been doing this for over 10 years and we love it afterwards we go out the two of us it's made us closer.

For us it hasn't risked our relationship it's mades us closer.

Each to their own at the end of the day, but you both have to be on board. Otherwise if one partner agrees to let their partner fuck about with others to keep them happy, there's going to be a lot of resentment. We don't have to act on every fantasy. If my husband wasn't satisfied by me and only me, I'd leave. And vice versa, if he wasn't satisfying me, there's a problem.

We wanted clear boundaries with trust and the ability to instantly stop at any time if anyone felt uncomfortable. It felt right with the rules in place.

So it was all organised up front and in detail. We agreed the bedroom was too intimate and a step too far; l bathed him, sat him in a chair and l knelt on a cushion. I took my bra off (any sex fully clothed feels wrong to me) but kept my knix on and the ground rules were no touching me below the waist.

Deffo agree on not needing to act on every fantasy but to rule out every single fantasy involving other people would be ruling out way too many for some.

Obviously both people have to want the same thing and be happy with any fantasies. My post was directed at a previous poster who said they don't believe you can have love and non-manogomy.

I would accept it but only as a way of indulging her... And I wonder how well I'd communicate / whether I'd be moody afterwards!

How did your friend broach the subject with you?

@Confused118 - We go back a long way with our friendship, we discuss everything, so she just asked me if l would be up for it. I knew and liked him, l wouldn’t entertain a stranger. For me, that would be a step too far.

thanks - did it not open the door to other things?

@Confused118 - Nope! It was what it was. Certainly no regrets, far from it. But that was all that was intended.