Being open about penis size with male partners

[BobOn]

Just wondering how many people are open about penis size preferences with their male partners?

DW is now very open about what she likes, however it’s taken her years to get over the “lie to protect his fragile male ego” upbringing.

We now have a much better sex life as a result.

so, for women that have a preference, just wondering how open you are about this? or for blokes, do you feel you’d want to know?

Has anyone after having these discussions ever used or tried a penis/cock sleeve with there partners ?

I have when I had ED, I absolutely fucking hated it, felt so emasculated and just felt weird. OH at the time didn’t particularly like it either.

I think it’s one of those toys you’d give it a go once and then rarely use it again.

We use them regularly to make him bigger. But maybe we like it as it’s for a different reason to why you was using it.

@AVlow Whilst penis size obviously plays a role in a woman’s sexual pleasure, you’re talking specifically about attractiveness.

I’m sorry that you’ve been so hurt in the past that you now consider yourself to be undesirable. But your “research” is giving serious incel vibes. I suspect you’re in an echo chamber with a load of other guys all telling each other that women only want “chads”. Do you actually socialise with women in real life, rather than just online?

The language you use and your outlook on life is what makes you attractive. You could look like Ryan Reynolds and have the most amazing cock in the world, and yet women wouldn’t date you because you say things like this…

Men will in general choose anything on a 3-8 scale. Higher than 8 we think that we stand no chance. Women on the contrary go for 7.5-10 only. 🙄

you mentioning that size obviosly plays a role in female sexual pleasure would have made me stop dating altogether if I hadn’t already figured that out years ago and already done so.

what I said about 7s and 10s are actual statistics from dating apps!

in a group of 5 guy friends, I am the only one with no matches and I am the only bald one.

I socialize with women at work yes. I stopped getting looks at me 3-4 years ago. But socializing with them only makes me see reality. They say one thing and then I see the opposite in acting.

apps don’t work for me and I have no time for bars due to life circumstances. So only option is to stop someone on the street but I would never do that. I don’t have the energy to put up the show any more in order to maybe attract a woman for what??? There is no return of investment. I have other things in life and many more men come to the same conclusion. We are not incels that hate and blame women. I have just realized I am not in my prime anymore and I am not really what women in 2025 want. And I will not be settled for and lied to only to have my partner write in a forum that she prefers previous partners dicks but won’t tell me.

remember, I am on the male end of this reality. So I know how it is on the dating market for us, while you women know how it is on your end.

And that most amazing cock in the world you are mentioning. I wonder what proportions that has haha.

I am too small. I know that from sleeping with actual women from my teenage years to my late twenties. I have accepted my faith.

Just for clarity this is the type I was on about that we have used.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/penis-extenders-sleeves/p/lovehoney-mega-mighty-3-extra-inches-penis-extender-with-ball-loop/a32919g81818.html

We have the exact same one.

They don't work for everyone. I bought the 2 inch extender, I'm 8in, so it was rather over-sized when on, but I was keen to see if the large girth would finally unlock the key to my wife having PIV orgasms. My wife was game for trying after a few drinks, I couldn't really keep it up using it, which killed a vibe instantly. We tried a couple of times, I kept failing, she found it cold and too large. It went to landfill.
I kind of want to try again with a slightly smaller piece but a little nervous to ask to be honest

How do you find it ?

lol yes I did always find it cold at first so he then would put it on straight away whilst we did oral and it warmed up which felt better. But size wise he is just over six so when he wears it then it isn’t so much of an issue where he bruises my internal organs lol

We have, but not following any discussions on penis size. It’s not something we’ve ever needed to talk about as my DH is the perfect fit. Not sure he thinks so though as he bought the extender to use himself.

Actually was surprisingly good. My wife really enjoyed it. I'm quiet small, so took me to a reasonable size, which was good fun. We were able to do other positions which previously we could not.

I'd give passion a connection and affection over size any day! Please don't be so hard on yourself. There are many ways to satisfy a woman.
You clearly just haven't met the right one! You are man enough and you are worthy of being loved, meet a lady you have the right connection with, it will make all the difference. Besides Big ones hurt and can be unenjoyable. Please be kind to yourself

Everybody talks about finding the right one and that there are other ways of satisfying woman. It all just proves that many men are doomed. As the women who started this thread say, their husbands can’t compare to bigger exes. This is the reality for men today. Women remember these things. We men can’t remember the size of womens vaginas. We are different in terms of our sexuality in many ways. I believe firmly that you can’t compete with a large dick giving women powerful a-spot orgasms. That is why all movies, series, literotica, porn, culture revolves around a big d. Then of course women will hide it to be kind. It’s normal for people to mask the truth in order to not hurt others. And if you as a man can’t be a womans sexual best, then you are shooting yourself in the foot big time by investing in a relationship with her.

Man to man you really need to get a grip, and I mean this in the nicest possible way.

Your posts reek of self loathing, which is a far worse trait than a small penis.

as long as you have a working and fully functioning penis, you can make it work with the right partner, you can wear sleeves to make yourself bigger and you can use other parts of your body to satisfy a woman.

There are millions of men in a far worse position than you.

i got an implant at 35 years old. I now can’t ever have a natural erection ever again. I lost size as well due to atrophy but you know what, even though I was embarrassed, scared and worried how women may perceive me, I’ve learnt to embrace it and use it to my advantage. I love it and so has every woman I’ve been with since, and for good reason.

Disclaimer - I haven't read the entire thread but I just picked up on this comment.

You talk about men being doomed. I could say the same about women. We can be the most amazing person ever and love our partner to bits, be everything he wants and he can turn around and have sex with another woman.

As for women comparing lovers/partners .... so do men! I've heard men say they still think about previous lovers during sex. That's not exactly nice to hear either. I've had men tell me that the only reason they don't cheat on their partner is a lack of opportunity - not because he loves her and doesn't want to hurt her - no, just because he doesn't get the opportunity! Again, not nice to hear.

I would much rather be with someone who liked me as a person and was loyal to me (because he wants to be) than someone with the biggest penis in the world.

I think the problem is that we are lied to from childhood about love etc. The right one. Go ahead and read the evolution of desire by Dr. David Buss. We are not evolved for marriage. We evolved to live in tribes in the jungle. And yes in restrictive conservative Europe 100 years ago, you got married at 17 and lived with one partner. You didn’t know better. Now all statistics show that marriage and monomagy is not working. We are not made for it. And men and women have completely different sexual strategies. I’m not puting any value in it! But men don’t know women and women don’t know men. Women put far more value in finding the best sexual partner. It makes sense. Being pregnant back in the day ment high risk. It’s evolved. That is why women discard 95% of men on dating apps, that is why she has better sex with some stud at the right time of the month in her youth than with her husband 10 years later. And that has implications for men. Men on the other hand we hump most things that move, that is why so many men get addicted to porn because it’s innate. We need to secure sexual options in order to procreate. That is we work our asses off at the bar while women chooses the best man among those who hit on her. This is how animals do it as well. This is why jealousy is different between the sexes.

and this is not some sort of andrew tate propaganda about women being sluts and property of men. This is evolutionary biology. It means that our fantasy about love and marriage is false. That has some not so nice implications for both men and women.

I also can’t have full erections since I damaged some nerves trying to make it bigger. And I am disqualified from help since there is nothing to do about it according to urologists.

and women tell you stuff? Yeah people lie to their partners to make them feel good. Just look at the start of this forum. Glad you are happy.

I will never use sleeves or anything. I can’t compete with the natural pornstar dick. So I’m not going to risk being cheated on our dumped.

go ahead and look at modern divorce statistics :)

• there is no such thing as women cuck fantasy in porn or reality. That women like to sit and watch higher value more attractive women having sex with her husband.

it’s a coping for men that feel less able, so they mix the feeling of humiliation and inferiority with arousal, and so the get turned on by sitting on a chair watching their wife being fcked by bigger men. For women this is a great deal ofc as they get to sleep with the men they want and they get to keep their partner. I just think its a sign of how men try to cope. And I prefer not to be involved at all.

The problem with most of that statement is that we have evolved from needing to find a man to procreate with. Many women are choosing not to have children. I believe birth rates are falling. Time has moved on, people have changed. Women have changed.

That is why women discard 95% of men on dating apps, that is why she has better sex with some stud at the right time of the month in her youth than with her husband 10 years later. And that has implications for men. Men on the other hand we hump most things that move, that is why so many men get addicted to porn because it’s innate. We need to secure sexual options in order to procreate. That is we work our asses off at the bar while women chooses the best man among those who hit on her.

Men hump anything that moves. Women know that. Which is perhaps why men get rejected. We know you're only after one thing. Working your asses off in bars? On the sole basis of getting laid - and it doesn't matter who says yes to you - like you say, you/men will hump anything that moves. The women rejecting those men have probably watched him hit on every other woman in the bar and she doesn't want to feel like a "she'll do" for any guy. It's the same with apps. Women are being bombarded with messages from men who are literally sending to all women. It's rarely a case of "I like the sound of her, I'll message her" and more, "I'll message 30 women and hope one of them bites."

and women tell you stuff? Yeah people lie to their partners to make them feel good. Just look at the start of this forum. Glad you are happy.

I don't know what you mean by this? I never mentioned women telling me anything. I mentioned MEN telling me that men think about past lovers during sex. Or MEN telling me that men only stay faithful because they have no opportunity to cheat. None of that makes me happy.

How small is quite small if you don’t mind me asking ?

If you don’t mind me asking what is “the perfect fit” lol

Getting this back on track, I went from 8.5’ to 5.5’ and being smaller ( but still marginally above average I might add…😜) is much easier and more comfortable for most women I’ve been with since my op.

I’m pretty sure women tell other women size matters but in reality I’m not convinced it does as long as you are a) around 5’ or more and b) know how to use it properly!