Being open about penis size with male partners

[BobOn]

Just wondering how many people are open about penis size preferences with their male partners?

DW is now very open about what she likes, however it’s taken her years to get over the “lie to protect his fragile male ego” upbringing.

We now have a much better sex life as a result.

so, for women that have a preference, just wondering how open you are about this? or for blokes, do you feel you’d want to know?

Not according to statistics and research. Women discard men out of selectivity which has to do with the fact that the old monkey brain still lives in the forest and thinks the body will get pregnant which is a high risk of death back then.

wit the right looks, asshole kind of attitude, research suggest, and I’ve also seen this myself, women can in 5-10 minutes end up in a bathroom stall at a club, or if he is a rockstar. Andrew tate for example, even though he is a misogynist, suapected rapist, sex traficker, etc, he surely gets laid more than all the men in this forum combined if I would have to guess.

and many women opt out of kids? Good for them. I am liberal and I think people should do what they want. However I think the human race is evolved for procreation, otherwise we would not have sex. The monkey brain can’t think like the prefrontal cortex

Andrew tate for example, even though he is a misogynist, suapected rapist, sex traficker, etc, he surely gets laid more than all the men in this forum combined if I would have to guess.

unless it is forced sex, coercion or rape I very much doubt it.

Anyone that wants consensual sex with him will have issues of their own.

women can in 5-10 minutes end up in a bathroom stall at a club,

anyone can with the right attitude and confidence, looks aren’t as important as you think.

but, why would anyone WANT to do this?!

I haven't read all
oosts on here so forgive me for asking. But why do you say you’ve gone from 8.5 inches to 5.5 inches ?

Are you aware of the experiment they did a few years back on tinder? They selected a guy with 10/10 looks, if you will, and created a profile stating that he was a terrible person, convicted child molester among other things, and dangerous. His account received match after match all ready to hook up with him.

I have know a guy in person who looks like a movie star/athlete. Women approach him. I even saw a woman waving at him in town once.

so apparently looks play a massive part, my guess.

I also remember a guy in another forum. Nobody talked about size, that was not the theme there. But he showed screenshots of conversations with women he was dating and it seemed they all went crazy about his very large dick. “I miss it” “I need to make a plaster model of it” and so on.

My conclusion of all this is that there is a small percentage of men that lives in another world compared to many others. Again, look at the name of this thread. “Are you open to your man about size?”

anyway there is nothing more to do than to accept life as it is. The first few posts in this thread confirms the truth about size. I feel I’ve hijacked this thread too much so I will leave you all to get back to point.

Why am i saying I’ve lost 3’ or how come?

I’m saying it to prove a point to the poster above that size really isn’t the be all and end all and I lost the size due to atrophy and then getting an implant:

unfortunately I waited 2 years to get medical assistance and by then I had lost over a third of my size .

Once again, you oversimplify the complexities of human attraction. It’s true that evolutionary psychology suggests that women might be more attracted to certain traits such as physical strength when they are ovulating and looking for a partner with good genes.

But, as you’ve repeatedly been told on here, attraction is influenced by a multitude of factors beyond mere looks or size. Psychological compatibility, emotional connection, shared values, and mutual respect are all significant components of what draws people together in a romantic or sexual context. Tinder prioritizes superficial first impressions based on photos and brief profiles, and doesn’t capture the full range of what people find attractive. The fact that you’d use a Tinder experiment in support of your position is laughable.

Women value emotional security, intelligence, kindness, the ability to provide and care for a family, rather than simply choosing the most physically dominant or attractive man during ovulation. Research suggests that while women may show a preference for more masculine traits at certain times of the month, they also tend to prefer men who exhibit qualities that would contribute to long-term stability and the well-being of any potential offspring.

The notion peddled by the likes of Andrew Tate that women are only attracted to certain physical traits is incredibly harmful. It plays into the insecurities of men such as yourself, teaching them that physical appearance and certain material achievements are the ultimate keys to attracting women. This toxic mindset not only harms men by fostering insecurity, but it also undermines genuine human relationships.

I don’t listen to Andrew Tate. He is toxic.

Research is not. Like the work of Dr. David Buzz. You are right in what you say here. The problem is that hollywood sells men the story that you need those deep traits to secure a long term relationship like intelligence, ability to listen etc. You are right. But if we stick to female sexuality here, that biologically is different from mens, there is one point left out.

when women ovulate, they instinctively want the best genes to mate with. That is why studies show women are more attracted to strong athlete bodies, cocky assertive behavior etc. That is what gives women the best sex according to studies. But it is rare to find these traits in all men. That is why manu women marry the guy with good long term traits even though he is not her best sexual option. This leads to trouble down the road as the Netflix series Sex / life illustrates.

i am not saying women are evil cheaters, both sexes are just as good and as evil. But I’ve heard many instaces, one for exampl from a bouncer at a club of a women at her bachelorette party. She was introduced to this assertive good looking well built guy. After a few minutes they ran into the bathroom and fcked like rabbits. Afterwards she came out, called her soon to be husband and had him come pick her up. She introduced him to her friends and talked well of him. This is the not so often talked about aspect of female sexuality. Again I am not saying women are bad. A dark side of male sexuality is that some men satisfy their sexual needs by force. But for women it is that they some times adopt this dual sexual strategy to get both the best genes and the stable partner. And there is also some research pointing towards a cuck-fantasy of women getting turned on by comparing the stronger better lover currently or in her past to the inferior man at home.Therefore I think that if you can’t be that man of the young party years or ovulating phase, then it’s risky business. Besides why do we have series like 365 days (she dumps her average bald man for a hot italian mafia boss) or sex /life where her bad boy from the past comes back and she starts cheating on her stable husband.

again, not putting any value in it. People do as they want. But we are different. Men watch porn where the cashier strips down and gets it on in the store. Because male sexuality is about easy fast access to fertile women.

and yes humans are complex. I am just pointing out some things that I think is a big setback for the male perspective in todays world where 60 % of marriages fail. Back in the day we got married at 19 and didn’t know the difference. Today all people are more egotistical and sleeps around before getting married. This creates problem for both men and women in terms of long term commitment and happiness.

Anyhow, forums are made for people to share opinions and disagree.

For me though, the fact that less than 50 % of men in history have reproduced whilst more than 80 % of women have reproduced, is the fact that proves my point after all.

I can’t access casual relationships anymore since I don’t have the looks. And in longterm relationships, based on my own experience, forum posts by women, literotica, netflix, porn, research etc. I will not ne good enough in terms of size and it will only end in a bad way for me. So I give up and will focus on other things

It is less than 3 inches.

I was honest from the first time I met my husband. I had a bf and I was literally bragging to 3 guys I didn't know and my friend who took me there. My husband tells me that he fell for me right then when I told them my bf is 9inch long and thick like a can. Husbands friend was trying to get me naked and he was waving his cock in my face. My friend made him stop. Anyway, my husband messaged me saying he really enjoyed meeting me and he was turned on by my open talk. He asked me is my bf really that huge. I told him yes but he doesn't know how to use it. He said he wished he was bigger. So I asked him and he told me 7inch long and 5.2inch girth curved up. He knows all the guys sizes I've had. I know all my friends partners sizes. I like asking my husband how big his friends are.

Your penis size is 3 inches hard you mean ?

Yes, technically a little less. I rounded it up. But that is the measurement when its hard.

I did some searching and looked at the results. I registered and joined a big online site for sex hookups. Men and women post adds about what they want. Its singles, swingers, couples, gay, lesbian etc. I searched for all the adds by couples looking for an extra man, and all the adds for single women looking for a fck buddy. 85 % of all the adds required the man to very well endowed, minimum 7 inches and girthy.

I watched amateur porn as well as some professional porn as well. Yes I know there is acting, faking etc in porn. But I saw reality as well. One actress had 6 full body orgasms and went absolute crazy with a man that had a 7.5 incher and was thick like a coke can almost. It's obvious that only a few man can give women those sensations and that it is not comparable to something 2 inches shorter and 50 % less thick.

I am reading a new crime novel. One of the characters is a evil psycopath murderer, but as well extremely good looking, careless and has a huge dick. All the women want to sleep with him and in one part of the book, a married girl sleeps with him in a bathroom, comments on how big he is and has the best sex of her life.

365 days on netflix is about leaving her husband for an attractive, dangerous man (WITH A BIG DICK)

Sex / life series on netflix is about sleeping with a man (WITH A BIG DICK)

It is as obvious as the rising and setting sun, that there is a huge difference between a small/average penis and a big thick penis. And that it makes a world of difference in sex. Studies show 30 % of women have at least in some part, dumped a partner due to his penis being too small. There is no evidence to suggest women dump partners that are too big.

So what sane person would think that there is any gain at all for a man with a small or average dick to engage in dating today? Perhaps if you are a teenager and get married to your first girlfriend while you are both virgin, sure. She won't know the difference.

@AVlowI'm not saying you’re wrong but blimey you seem a bit 🍆 obsessed! I don’t think I’m ever aware of size being mentioned by the media etc. it’s something I would never discuss with friends. With porn ime size varies like real life and I’d actually say my partner is larger than a lot of the things I watch.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with women having a preference though

Good for you and your partner. Of course women can have preferences. I just wish women could be open about it so men would stop hoping or worrying. Am I obsessed? Well contrary to your partner I am the opposite of what women get off on in bed so I belong to the men that have no place in the dating market. This is a problem only men have and at least now I can feel safe in that I have made the right decision to quit dating 5 years ago.

Unless it’s a total deal breaker why would anyone be open about any preferences though? I wouldn’t!

@AVlow

Would you self identify an an incel?
I believe all this “research” is making you ill an if your not an incel you are running close to the toxic ideology.

Please go and acces some talking therapies or look and look for positive all male support networks.

You can have a parter if you wanted one but if you did find someone I fear that you would ruin it waiting for the moment she leaves you for another big dick man.

Stop the “research” and change your focus improve your own life you only get one!

Much love x

why? We can’t fly. And I did some research about gravity. Now you are telling me to think positive and jump from a cliff. Why would I do that if I can’t fly and would crash?

I’ve been dumped for big dick men 5 times so been there, done that.

I would never be so stupid as to get close to a relationship ever again.

Friends and family is what I live for now, music, travels etc.

If this is true

“Friends and family is what I live for now, music, travels etc”

Why the actual fuck are you on mumsnet of all places on a dick size thread taking about dick size!!!

Read you posts back read the statement above and get on with that no more research no more sell pity actually move on stay off anywhere that triggers you for your own sanity.

I have said all I can say look after yourself x

In the beginning it was due to hope, maybe it’s false, maybe I am good enough to find someone, to satisfy someone. But then it turned into doubt and frustration and now I just wanted to be sure that all is true about size, which women now have confirmed. So I will not post here anymore, sorry

Because of respect for your partner. And secondly yourself. No man wants to know he is married to a woman that had much better sex and orgasms in the past with a bigger man. But it’s easy to know. If you are big enough she’ll complement your size and how good it feels. The rest of us get the “ohh you are just fine honey, don’t worry” and then she writes on forums like this. The entire name of this thread is proof enough. “Are you honest about size with your partner?” Yeah guys want to know that they are big enough. So the name entails that women hide the scientific fact that bigger is way way better.

Out of respect for a partner (and myself) I certainly wouldn’t tell him I’d had better in the past!!

Anyway, enjoy being single and definitely get off mumsnet!

You settled for him and think about better in the past. While he thinks he is ok. This is the reason 80 % of men should stay away from longterm relationships today.

take care

just being honest, I myself find him not at all my type. Very much not.

But it's all subjective I guess. It's sad he was bullied, but the reason why he has a hot wife is because he is talented and rich, as much as anything else, I suspect.

I watched amateur porn as well as some professional porn as well. Yes I know there is acting, faking etc in porn. But I saw reality as well. One actress had 6 full body orgasms and went absolute crazy with a man that had a 7.5 incher and was thick like a coke can almost.

Porn isn't real and in the unlikely event that scene happened as it appeared she wasn't remotely typical.

You're personally obsessed about dick size and projecting it onto women. Have you see the traffic levels on the sex forum compared to all the others on mumsnet? 99.999% of women aren't making relationship decisions based on sex at all. Unfortunately. :(

It's not clear from your posts if you want a relationship or not, you seem to be complaining about lack of female interest and then saying you don't want a LTR, but if you want a LTR the world is packed full of single women, obsessed about "finding a man".