To become a 'sex worker'?

[HazelnutAfterDark]

I know it is not AIBU here but I daren't post there (and name changed obvs)

Let me explain:

I have been single and no sex for about 4 years now. This is by choice. I've had a terrible heartbreak when I having a fling with a guy I was highly interested in and he showed the same level of interest back...until he didn't anymore...and out of the blue, with little explanation, we were done. He tried to come back, but I couldn't trust.

This left me scarred, maybe because how the break up happened - he literally changed gears without warning or red flags - and also how I perceived all the good moments to have been fake. But overall it was pretty awesome while it lasted.

Since then I have never met anyone comparable or that I could be attracted to and I tried everything. I took a break from OLD and stopped caring about meeting men casually and naturally.

Thing is: I love sex and I am good at it. But I don't like to masturbate, it isn't the same as enjoying another body, but I do it from time to time. I climax easily but it is underwhelming.

I'm heterosexual and always preferred monogamy too. I have no curiosity about anything else but... there is something that has been part of my fantasies since a very young age which is... to get paid (either cash or gifts) in exchange of sex. It turns me on for some reason. And I acted upon it only once when I was very young, with a guy slightly older than me, who were fascinated by me - he knew exactly what the T&Cs were and this was his only chance to have sex with me - he gave me money to buy a pair of shoes I wanted - telling him what I wanted and how much it cost, was part of the whole fantasy for me. I felt pretty awesome and don't regret a tiny bit but never did it again.

Later on I had a situationship with a guy who would take me to restaurants, hotels, little trips and give me lots of gifts. I liked it but the things he gave me were not my choice so it wasn't very exciting. I kept going because I liked sex with him and he was attractive / interesting.

At the moment, I would not be able to entertain a relationship or a partner - I'm working hard, studying hard and facing some challenges with my child (their health) - so ideally I want to have casual encounters, drama free and fun only when I can, when I need and when I want...and I am thinking, why not throw my kink and fantasies in the mix? Obviously I will have a choice to choose the men i'm willing to play with, whereas a real sex worker might not have that luxury.

It is also because I want to have real sex rather than masturbate only, but the causal ONS with random men will not satisfy me or be "worth it" in my mind at the moment.

I believe sex if healthy for the body and the mind and will open me up, even maybe to try real romance in the future.

For the record, I'm financially fine and support myself with normal work. This would be more for the excitement rather than money. Especially since I have not been able to get excited or interested in men via the normal 'route.'
I have been married twice and both times for the right reasons. The first divorce left me with only with half of our joint savings and the second divorce with absolutely nothing. First guy was on my financial level and second guy below my financial level, so I did not marry for money and I never would. I'm not a gold digger.

Don't be nasty please. I understand this idea will not be okay or match some people's values. And I don't know what my question is, maybe just curious to see ion someone 'gets' it, or has similar inclination, or is doing it?

Why not vist a swinger clubs circuit,
or a reputable Naturists club, you might some one like minded for potential relantship or friends with benefits or just a normal platonic friendship
Look up Naturism magazines sold in high St outlets as WH.Smith book store,
Look up internet too about Naturism clubs..

Also

I think it’s a sugar daddy type arrangement you are looking for as it enables you to have sex with just one man and receive gifts.

It’s badly written, but as you’ve admitted you are also asking for the impossible.

There is no shortage of “escorts”, as they like to describe themselves, most will be attached to an agency and move very frequently to prevent relationships with clients being established. Many are “trafficked” in one way or another most would have a maid to ensure safety, working solo on the streets is dangerous, those that do are often drug addicts.

I know someone who runs an 'agency' for want of a better word. You simply absolutely cannot vet them. This isnt like the movies where you verify their ID. They constantly dont want to use protection. Always asking for odd things, lots of them literally want to talk to her on the phone about their likes/dislikes while they have a play with themselves, waste her time and dont turn up. They constantly want to visit girls homes they share with their families, just gross and dangerous. All she does is give out the girls address, and a stranger rocks up. 80% of the time they don't even want to have full sex. They just want to play with themselves while looking and touching and sod off. So if you are looking for a full hour of mind blowing sex with a stranger you are going to be SO disappointed.

She has maybe 6-10 girls working for her, she gets constant idiots on the phone wasting time.

She also had a 'client' have a heart attack and pass away when using one of her girls. That bloody poor family. Their whole world blown up so he could have 10 mins with a prostitute.

There are websites full of escorts and a lot of them are very young, stunning girls. Breaks your heart.

You will also need to likely declare a second job and the income. Is that something you feel you can do with your current line of work?

it would be more like a FWB situation with someone vetted

Who would be providing the vetting? Would they really have your best interest at heart?

you can earn up to £1000 tax free trading allowance for casual services

Fabswingers would be somewhere you would find what you are looking for with shared kinks.

it’s very common to be offered money/gifts on there by guys who have that as a kink.

A pimp then, that’s what an agency is no matter how you dress it up

Thinking about it, I think you could do this via a casual hook up app like Illicit Encounters (married dating) or Fabswingers (already suggested). You could then approach only the men you like the look of but set out your stall for payment. It's fairly common on those sites and may lead to a more frequent arrangement.

In the event that this is a real post and a genuine idea then I think it's a pretty unpleasant one.

Firstly you wouldn't be a sex worker. You'd be cos-playing a sex worker as a hobby. The reality of actual sex work is grounded in abuse, violence and addiction.

abuse, violence and addiction, are you talking from experience?

Try fabswingers because then you have a choice on who you sleep with. Joining adult work means realistically you don't have much choice on their age/looks etc.

Of course you do!

Your are romanticising sex work.

Most clients won't necessarily appeal to you physically and the goals of someone who pay for sex is to satisfy their own needs, not yours.

Also there are many safety issues that come with selling sex.

If it is no string sex you are after there are many over options that people have already mentioned from FWBs to joining swingers' clubs where at least you would have a degree of safety. You could meet someone there and then set up an arrangement with them to see each other outside regularly outside the club.

Yeah OK.

I'd try a friend with benefits situation, you can always include some roleplay in it.
But I wouldn't take the risk of doing actual sex work. Even if you're doing it for fun, you'd be putting yourself in a situation where you could be assaulted or worse.
Or I guess you could try and be an escort, with the additional security of having an agency who could vet customers beforehand ? I think ? (I'm not entirely sure how these work).

You’ve used AW then ?

abuse, violence and addiction, are you talking from

Not from personal experience I am very glad to say. Do you think it's a controversial statement?

Adultwork is as full of pimps and trafficking as any other website. It's just an advertising platform.

Yes a glorified pimp. I don't agree with it as a principle. There is next to no protection for these women

this is a very stereotypical view, but it can’t be true sadly in some cases, especially those who are coerced or or working to fund a habit

You’re better off working independently and be in control of your safety

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