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To want sexy photos of us in the bathroom?

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crazykoo124 · 16/02/2021 23:47

Strange title I know

Weve finally moved into our new house and I’ve finally got my dream of my walk in wardrobe and an en-suite (small to be fair, but nevertheless a dream come true for me). We took some “sexy photos” a while ago professionally which were supposed to just be for us and we loved them but haven’t shown anyone! (Think embracing topless in jeans from the back but tasteful in black and with no nudity shown). I’d really love to put them in my wardrobe or my bathroom, as this will only be used by us, but he’s worried about others seeing😥 no kids at home by the way but nieces and nephews do visit but are v small at the moment

Is it a stupid idea? I think we look great and I think he’s being a bit of a prude if I’m honest!

Would you ever do the same??

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thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 08:16

@LH1987

This thread more than any other has shown me how different some people are to me. The thought of taking part in a nude photo shoot would be the most mortifying experience, then I would have to look at the photos. Mind you, I just had a baby last year so I currently look like a slightly melted candle naked.

I admire your confidence OP! Could you compromise a bit? Maybe just crop the photo to just your shoulders and up?

FFS. Why should he have to compromise about having pictures of his naked body displayed, when it clearly makes him uncomfortable? Why should he be pressurised, to the point where she posts about it on MN, no doubt with the express purpose of showing him the replies?

He should LTB.

MessagesKeepGettingClearer · 17/02/2021 08:19

I don't like the sound of any of it. To me, it's not sexy if it's posed and I wouldn't get anything out of looking at them while I'm getting dressed or washed.

Brakebackcyclebot · 17/02/2021 08:20

I don't really get why so many are judging you for liking your photos.

I have some boudoir style photos of me waiting to go up in our new house. They are beautiful and the photo shoot was really really good fun. No nudity, it's subtle.

My DH has said he isn't interested in couples' ones though, so I'd never ask him to do that.

This is where your problem lies - you pressured your DH into something he didn't really want to do. Now you want to display that very thing. Why didn't you get an album that you two could look at and then put away?

RoSEbuds6 · 17/02/2021 08:24

If you like them and it's a private bathroom then why not? If there's no nudity then what's the problem? If your dh doesn't like it though that's another issue, but you could take them down when people visit?
DH and I wouldn't do it because we're both too self-conscious, but do what makes you both happy OP

Stonerosie67 · 17/02/2021 08:26

YANBU to have had the photos done
YANBU to have the dream of the walk in wardrobe etc
YABU to put the photos up if your dp isnt happy about it.

And who the fuck do some of the posters on here think they are, is there really any need for some of the sneering, snotty, downright bitchy replies? Some of you must be really fucking miserable if you get your kicks piling into someone online!

C8H10N4O2 · 17/02/2021 08:28

Its irrelevant exactly how much flesh is or isn't on show in the pictures - you don't display pictures if it makes the participants uncomfortable. Its basic consent.

thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 08:29

@Stonerosie67

YANBU to have had the photos done YANBU to have the dream of the walk in wardrobe etc YABU to put the photos up if your dp isnt happy about it.

And who the fuck do some of the posters on here think they are, is there really any need for some of the sneering, snotty, downright bitchy replies? Some of you must be really fucking miserable if you get your kicks piling into someone online!

I'm seeing very few posts criticising the tastefulness of the photos.

I'm seeing lots suggesting that it's completely inappropriate for these partially naked photos to be displayed against the subject's wishes.

I'm also seeing a lot who clearly don't give a fuck about people's bodily autonomy when they are the 'wrong' sex.

lottiegarbanzo · 17/02/2021 08:31

Not my cup of tea but this is your house, your bathroom, so, so long as both of you are ok with it, why not?

One thing it would achieve is to mark out your en-suite as 'private territory', clearly not public space. Not 'just another bathroom', where guests are welcome to use the loo.

But might you ever give guests your bedroom? Would you or he be embarrassed about them seeing the photos?

Your wardrobe is a more private space, if so.

thepeopleversuswork · 17/02/2021 08:32

This is where your problem lies - you pressured your DH into something he didn't really want to do. Now you want to display that very thing. Why didn't you get an album that you two could look at and then put away?

This is it really. I'm not getting into pronouncing on the taste issue: my initial reaction to this was to say do what you want in your own home. But if he's not keen on it she needs to respect that and not keep chipping away at him about it.

I think its a slippery slope when either partner assumes they can talk the other one around into doing something when they've clearly said no. I find the idea of "I'll just have another go at him" distasteful. Who would want to live with something they knew they had nagged their loved one into doing? It consent isn't freely given it isn't consent.

Bookwords · 17/02/2021 08:41

And who the fuck do some of the posters on here think they are, is there really any need for some of the sneering, snotty, downright bitchy replies? Some of you must be really fucking miserable if you get your kicks piling into someone online!

Bad nights sleep?

LaMarschallin · 17/02/2021 08:51

Bad nights sleep?

Smile
PussGirl · 17/02/2021 08:55

I'd only put them up if we were unrecognisable. They'd be "art" then rather than photos.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 17/02/2021 09:03

Like others have said, it's not my thing and if DH had pushed me to do this and wanted to display them I'd be really uncomfortable and unhappy.

You've already pushed your DH to so this against his will. You admit as much. Now you want to push him to display them when he clearly doesn't want to. Have you never heard of boundaries?
Leave him alone. He doesn't want them up. He's allowed to say no.
I realise you intend to put them in a part of the house that's meant to be private, but how realistic is it that no one else will ever see them?
If he was happy about it I think in principle it would be fine to have them anywhere you like tbh. But he isn't and its his image and his home too.

Concertedaction · 17/02/2021 09:04

Mumsnet - the home of judgement and superiority.

BertramLacey · 17/02/2021 09:04

Suppose, for instance, that one or both of you were taken ill and a doctor or paramedic visited you in your room and needed to use the bathroom; or children playing hide and seek hid in your wardrobe.

I think if the OP is ill enough to need a paramedic she's unlikely to care who sees her photo and the paramedics have definitely seen more than the occasional nude photo. As for the children, just put the photos up a bit higher.

I genuinely don't know why people have photos of themselves in their houses at all. Staged ones I mean. What's the point? Do people really like looking at themselves this much?

I don't dislike looking at myself. I have photos of me with my horses, most of them taken by professionals. They remind me of particular moments.

saraclara · 17/02/2021 09:06

Bugging your partner in the hope of reducing or eliminating their boundaries is unpleasant and doesn't have a place in a healthy relationship.

That's basically all that needs to be said.

thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 09:06

@Concertedaction

Mumsnet - the home of judgement and superiority.
I'm seeing very little judgement or superiority. There have been very few posts commenting on the tastefulness of the whole thing.

I'm seeing lots of posts suggesting that men's consent to their naked bodies being displayed don't count (and plenty in the other direction, to be fair).

Give your apologist head a wobble.

Sparklingbrook · 17/02/2021 09:26

Did this thread start off in the Sex topic? Confused

FamilyOfAliens · 17/02/2021 09:29

@Concertedaction

Mumsnet - the home of judgement and superiority.
The internet - the home of judgement and superiority

Fixed that for you.

Stonerosie67 · 17/02/2021 09:59

Bad nights sleep

🤣🤣🤣 yeah, and hungry! Good call!
Still don't like some of the replies though, but if I'd waited till after breakfast I may have phrased that differently....🤔

Concertedaction · 17/02/2021 10:16

@thedancingbear

I’m sorry, but I don’t think I mentioned anything about men’s naked bodies.
I believe I did comment on Mumsnetters judging the Ops taste for ‘boudoir’ photos.
So no, I won’t be giving my head ‘a wobble’.

Doingitaloneandproud · 17/02/2021 10:19

Just out of an interest, all those saying its fine to put them up, despite her saying her husband doesn't want them there. Would you all be happy if your partner had pressured you into photos you weren't comfortable with and then wanted to have them on display? Would you be happy with your partner putting pressure on you because they liked the photos? Would you be happy your partner ignoring your feelings?

PinotPony · 17/02/2021 10:26

Going against the grain here but I think professional nude images can be beautiful. If you're proud of your body or your relationship, why not have something to remind you of that.

I dropped 2 stone, regained my confidence and had a boudoir photo shoot at 40. I can look back when I'm a wrinkly 80 year old and remember that I was once sexy! 😂 I have my favourite photo on the bedroom wall. Couldn't give a shit what visitors think. If they're in my bedroom, they know me well enough.

That said, I'm not convinced that you should pressure DH into displaying an image that he's not comfortable with. It's his body and his house too.

Emeraldshamrock · 17/02/2021 10:32

Going against the grain here but I think professional nude images can be beautiful. If you're proud of your body or your relationship, why not have something to remind you of that
I agree they can be beautiful in monochrome in 30/40 years you'll have no shame showing everyone "that was us in 2020"
If you've got it capture it

thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 10:44

Going against the grain here but I think professional nude images can be beautiful. If you're proud of your body or your relationship, why not have something to remind you of that.

Again, there are very few posts on this thread attacking the OP's taste.

FWIW, i think they are a bit cheesy and a bit Athena circa-1992. But there are things I have on my walls that I'm sure the OP would hate. You do you, as they say.

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