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To want sexy photos of us in the bathroom?

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crazykoo124 · 16/02/2021 23:47

Strange title I know

Weve finally moved into our new house and I’ve finally got my dream of my walk in wardrobe and an en-suite (small to be fair, but nevertheless a dream come true for me). We took some “sexy photos” a while ago professionally which were supposed to just be for us and we loved them but haven’t shown anyone! (Think embracing topless in jeans from the back but tasteful in black and with no nudity shown). I’d really love to put them in my wardrobe or my bathroom, as this will only be used by us, but he’s worried about others seeing😥 no kids at home by the way but nieces and nephews do visit but are v small at the moment

Is it a stupid idea? I think we look great and I think he’s being a bit of a prude if I’m honest!

Would you ever do the same??

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thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 07:30

I think this is a fantastic idea OP.

My DP and I have blown-up photos of our splayed arseholes up in our kitchen. They look great.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 17/02/2021 07:31

Just wondering whether I’m right to bug him anymore about the topic! No you're not right at all. He's been clear he doesn't consent. It sounds like you coerced him into taking the photos as you said you "pushed" him into it. No means no.

Doingitaloneandproud · 17/02/2021 07:32

@AlternativePerspective

“AIBU? My DH wanted us to have sexy pictures taken for some reason. I was really reluctant but he kept pushing it so. Reluctantly agreed. Now we’ve just moved into our first house and he wants these pictures displayed in the bathroom. I really don’t want to, but he’s said I’m being a prude.”

Yeah. I can see how that one would go down if it was the other way around....

He didn’t want them in the first place, you badgered him into it and now you’re calling him a prude for not wanting them displayed when he didn’t want to do them in the first place. YABVU.

FWIW I think that displaying any kind of pictures of yourselves is a bit tacky, and sexy ones are a bit sleazy, but whatever floats your boat. But he’s clearly uncomfortable with it so the answer has to be no.

I agree with this and I'm not surprised about the responses here tbh.

You pressured him into doing something he was uncomfortable with, now you want to display them and he doesn't, so you want to put pressure on him. You sound delightful.

He wasn't comfortable in the first place so it should have been a no full stop. Now you've done them, just keep them in a private book or something. He clearly doesn't want them for others to see. You should respect that.

Just because he's a man, doesn't make his feelings less invalid.

Okokokbear · 17/02/2021 07:33

Jesus that cringey. Why did you get the photos done in the forts place?!

Okokokbear · 17/02/2021 07:35

Also let the op be with her dreams of a walk in wardrobe and ensuite. It doesn't mean it's her only dream ffs.

badacorn · 17/02/2021 07:40

Wouldn’t want to see them when I’m on the toilet. Wrong vibe.

But putting them somewhere in the bedroom or another personal area where guests aren’t going to see it fine.

thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 07:42

@badacorn

Wouldn’t want to see them when I’m on the toilet. Wrong vibe.

But putting them somewhere in the bedroom or another personal area where guests aren’t going to see it fine.

What, even in one of the people in the photos doesn't consent?

Funny how consent goes out of the window when it's a man's bodily autonomy involved...

ChasingRainbows19 · 17/02/2021 07:43

Wow the replies on here would think you were fully naked having a pornshoot in public. It won’t be to many peoples taste but is there any need for such snarky replies. But then this is Mumsnet and some have to be the first to get digs in and make people feel like shit.

If your husband is uncomfortable don’t do it, does he like the finished results?

If he did agree to displaying it ...The walk in wardrobe would be the best place but maybe a one that you can put away when you have guests.... just in case? But I I think it would be down to your husband and he shouldn’t be nagged into it.

CalamariInCrisis · 17/02/2021 07:47

@WithLoveFromMyselfToYourself

Nope, but your house, your rules.
This!

But, may i suggest that if you progress to full frontal legs akimbo photos you don't put them up in the guestroom where your children's friends sleepover [glares at best friend's father and stepmother- scarred for life I was at the age of 10]

nannybeach · 17/02/2021 07:50

Blimey who knew how many prudes on MN, never mind that, the bathroom is a daft idea for photos because of the steam, (No I don't mean from the photos)

cheeseismydownfall · 17/02/2021 07:50

Go for it! But please take them down if you ever put your house on the market (I speak from experience!)

mootymoo · 17/02/2021 07:54

I wouldn't but then I'm middle aged and overweight so wouldn't take them in the first place. If you like them and they don't actually show anything then why not? Your house

CalamariInCrisis · 17/02/2021 07:54

anyway I think the example photo posted upthread are beautiful.

(I'd love a walk in wardrobe also. I had one growing up (lived abroad where houses are bigger) and never knew how lucky it was.

thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 07:56

@mootymoo

I wouldn't but then I'm middle aged and overweight so wouldn't take them in the first place. If you like them and they don't actually show anything then why not? Your house
FFS. It's her husband's house too.

Would you want your other half to put 'sexy' pictures of you on display? And then pressurise you when you said 'no'?

Thought not.

Weepingwillow22 · 17/02/2021 07:59

It is fine OP. Just make sure you take it down before you sell the house or it might turn up on a mumsnet rightmove dodgy decor thread.

thedancingbear · 17/02/2021 08:02

@Weepingwillow22

It is fine OP. Just make sure you take it down before you sell the house or it might turn up on a mumsnet rightmove dodgy decor thread.
not if one of the people in the picture does not consent, it isn't.
Poorlykitten · 17/02/2021 08:04

I’m not going to pass judgement on whether it’s ‘tasteless’ or not. Everyone entitled to their own opinion )although some downright nasty on here. However if roles reversed and OP was a man trying to put stare his reluctance wife to put up the photos, the entirety of mumsnet would be up in arms and baying for blood....shouting LTB as loudly as possible. So no, if husband uncomfortable with the whole idea, it’s a no, surely?

LH1987 · 17/02/2021 08:08

This thread more than any other has shown me how different some people are to me. The thought of taking part in a nude photo shoot would be the most mortifying experience, then I would have to look at the photos. Mind you, I just had a baby last year so I currently look like a slightly melted candle naked.

I admire your confidence OP! Could you compromise a bit? Maybe just crop the photo to just your shoulders and up?

LolaSmiles · 17/02/2021 08:09

He didn’t want them in the first place, you badgered him into it and now you’re calling him a prude for not wanting them displayed when he didn’t want to do them in the first place. YABVU.
I agree with this.

It sounds like he went along with the shoot to make you happy, which fair enough he could have said no to if he felt really strongly, but now you're badgering him to display photos that he didn't really want in the first place.

Bugging your partner in the hope of reducing or eliminating their boundaries is unpleasant and doesn't have a place in a healthy relationship.

thepeopleversuswork · 17/02/2021 08:09

"God although people falling over themselves to tell the OP its 'not to their taste'. What an unpleasant thread."

TBH what's more unpleasant is the fact that the OP seems to have bugged her DP into having it done when he clearly didn't want it and is now nagging him to put them up on the wall.

People are trying to make this about snobbery or whatever but its really about consent: he isn't up for it and she doesn't know when to drop it.

ashley69ly · 17/02/2021 08:11

So you pushed him until he agreed to do the photo shoot and now you plan to badger him until he agrees to put them in the wall. Imagine how this would be view if it was the other way round and it was a man doing it to his wife with 'sexy pictures'.

firstimemamma · 17/02/2021 08:11

Each to their own but my sexy photos remain hidden in an album!

Onairjunkie · 17/02/2021 08:14

Please, just don’t set up an Instagram account about decorating your new home...

Bookwords · 17/02/2021 08:14

It's not about it not being to their taste, as PP said it's about the fact that the OP has badgered her DH to have the photos done and put on the wall.

As mumsnet always quotes, no is a complete sentence.

Imagine the rolls were reversed and it was the DH badgering the OP to have sexy photos and display them against her will.

Bookwords · 17/02/2021 08:14

*roles not rolls 🙄

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