To want sexy photos of us in the bathroom?

[crazykoo124]

Strange title I know

Weve finally moved into our new house and I’ve finally got my dream of my walk in wardrobe and an en-suite (small to be fair, but nevertheless a dream come true for me). We took some “sexy photos” a while ago professionally which were supposed to just be for us and we loved them but haven’t shown anyone! (Think embracing topless in jeans from the back but tasteful in black and with no nudity shown). I’d really love to put them in my wardrobe or my bathroom, as this will only be used by us, but he’s worried about others seeing😥 no kids at home by the way but nieces and nephews do visit but are v small at the moment

Is it a stupid idea? I think we look great and I think he’s being a bit of a prude if I’m honest!

Would you ever do the same??

It feels like this is something best suited for Instagram not your bathroom wall

@Josette77

Love it, and hang them wherever you like.

Even if partner disagrees? Would you say the same if it were the other way around -- the man persuading the women to take sexy photos/hang them on walls, against her will?

@RubyandPearl

I'm not sure why some people are so keen to tell OP that it isnt their taste? Congratulations on being so 'sophisticated'. OP you've taken it very well. Crack on and put them wherever you like

This! Can't quite believe some of the comments...

God although people falling over themselves to tell the OP its 'not to their taste'.
What an unpleasant thread.

If your partner doesn't want them up then no, don't put them up. Stop 'bugging him' FFS.

If your DH isn’t comfortable, then you don’t put them up. You’ve said he wasn’t even comfortable having them taken in the first place which means you’ll probably hang them anyway. Quite sad for your DH.

I personally think they’re really tacky and try hard, but each to their own. It’s more the fact your DH really isn’t keen that makes me say a huge no.

I mean personally I wouldn’t it sounds cringe beyond cringe. But it’s your life. So you what makes you happy.

If you both wanted the pictures up that it's completely fine.

He doesn't consent though, so it's not.

Stop bugging him. His body his rules.

Poor bloke

Awful idea even if your DH loved it. He doesn't, and you never know if you'll need a plumber or electrician to visit.

It's very Beverly from Abigails Party, or Jill Tyrell from nighty night but then they are both hilarious icons.
If you're doing it as a laugh then it's fine. Be cautious about something being 'tasteful' it might be now but in a few years it could be the equivalent of those soft focus 'glamour' shots that women had of themselves dressed in lingerie and feather boas, often bizarrely hung in prominent places such as above the fire.

@crazykoo124
Our dad was a professional photographer and us being kids, used to explore everywhere.
In the attics were cupboards, filled with stuff....
And in them were boxes of 10 by 8 B&W prints of my stepmum {Brother's mum} in the nude in Richmond Park.
Mum was very beautiful, the shots were lovely {I can see that now as an adult} but ...

As kids they were shocking.

Spoke top bros about it, and we ALL were shocked, and discovered them independently in our snoopings as kids.

On the plus side, if you ever go on "Come Dine With Me" they'd be the perfect "embarrassing" (but, really, in your eyes, flattering) items for guests going round your house to "discover"...
"Ooh! Where did you find those?"

If they are not at all revealing I don't see what your issue is - hang them where you like.

Hanging a picture isn't a permanent, irrevocable decor decision - you can always take them down again.

“AIBU? My DH wanted us to have sexy pictures taken for some reason. I was really reluctant but he kept pushing it so. Reluctantly agreed. Now we’ve just moved into our first house and he wants these pictures displayed in the bathroom. I really don’t want to, but he’s said I’m being a prude.”

Yeah. I can see how that one would go down if it was the other way around....

He didn’t want them in the first place, you badgered him into it and now you’re calling him a prude for not wanting them displayed when he didn’t want to do them in the first place. YABVU.

FWIW I think that displaying any kind of pictures of yourselves is a bit tacky, and sexy ones are a bit sleazy, but whatever floats your boat. But he’s clearly uncomfortable with it so the answer has to be no.

[quote crazykoo124]@thepeopleversuswork Think he’s just a bit embarrassed we had the shoot in the first place!! Had to push him a little but even he was chuffed at how they ended up looking like! Also his brothers who visit us a bit too much do have a habit about teasing him to death so might have something to do with that....[/quote]
Sounds a bit yucky to me if I’m being honest. You pushed him into having photos taken even though you knew he didnt want them done, you now want to display them somewhere in the house where his brothers might see them and take mickey out of him?
Why would you do that? Imagine if it were the other way round, everyone would be telling you to LTB! Please don’t put the photos up on display, show your dh a bit of consideration.

Re ''Wardrobe''.....Any kid worthy of the name will play hide and seek in there...and see the pics.
I know my DC snooped in my own cupboards as stuff was moved! Kids can't help themselves.

I would put them in your walk in wardrobe, rather than your bathroom. I think photos in a bathroom is a bit weird full stop?

We have a (small!) walk in wardrobe and I have a pin board in there with personal things on - little notes from my husband, silly drawings by my kids etc. I see them every day but no one else does.

While I agree that the DH needs to be on board for it to happen, I also don’t like all the sneering comments. Are people trying to make the OP feel shit about having them taken in the first place? It’s not something I would do either but you know what, it made her and her DH happy (she said he liked them after). Attitudes like this are precisely why he’s so wary of displaying them! Even if the chances of someone seeing are slim. If they need a plumber round it’s hardly difficult to just take them down. They aren’t going to be glued to the wall! There’s really no need for all the horrible comments.

AlternativePerspective

“AIBU? My DH wanted us to have sexy pictures taken for some reason. I was really reluctant but he kept pushing it so.
Reluctantly agreed. Now we’ve just moved into our first house and he wants these pictures displayed in the bathroom. I really don’t want to, but he’s said I’m being a prude.”

Yeah. I can see how that one would go down if it was the other way around....

That's a very good point.

They don’t sound sexy. Put them up anywhere.

It might be a bit weird looking at them while on the loo?!

As for the wardrobe, fair enough if you agree - but if you've asked him and he doesn't want to - then no you shouldn't keep bugging him, as you are pushing a boundary he's not comfortable with. I think lots of people wouldn't want photos like that on display.

Do it and if you have guests coming in you can always cover them temporarily w paper or take them down. For example if repair men have to come in to fix something up there or if family stop by and kids want to go up.

[quote crazykoo124]**@hastingsandchips* @Leeds2* would never dream of putting anything up that hubby doesn’t agree to, esp not intimate photos. Just wondering whether I’m right to bug him anymore about the topic! [/quote]
Well if he hasn't agreed to it the first time he isn't exactly keen is he? So why would you bug him? He doesn't want to so leave him alone

No idea why people are being so horrible. I can't imagine anyone but you will ever go into you're walk in wardrobe, so that sounds like a good spot. I do agree though that if your DH is self conscious about them then it's not really fair to put them up.