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How to indulge in husbands 3some fantasy

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Ivenamechangedforthis2020 · 17/09/2020 23:46

I’ve name changed but am a regular poster on Mn.

Been with my husband 11 years with 2 dc together.

I’m very happy in our relationship. When we first met he was open about the fact he’d love a 3some with another girl. This is something I’d often fantised about prior to meeting him but thought it was a pipe dream. He bought it up when we were Together about 6months and as we were loved up and I was possessive of him, I dodnt share his fantasy. We are now comfortable and open with eachother and the 3some topic came up a few months ago during a drunken night out. He was open about having sex with another woman and wanted me part of it. I feel that my exploration with women was never adhered too and I’m interested in exploring further, however I don’t know how to go about making it a reality or if it could have an impact on our relationship.

Are there any MNetters who have experienced this and if so how did you go about it and what impact has it had on your relationship?

Posting in AIBU for traffic. Thanks

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BigBadVoodooHat · 17/09/2020 23:48

Are there any MNetters who have experienced this and if so how did you go about it

So, just to clarify, you want people to share their threesome stories?

thepeopleversuswork · 17/09/2020 23:52

I can't really work out from your post whether you actually want this as well or if you're going along with it because he's put pressure on you?

StillCoughingandLaughing · 17/09/2020 23:53

Do you actually want the threesome, or are you just considering it to please him?

If you want to put him off, tell him you’ll do it as long as you can have one with another bloke as well.

Cherrypicker85 · 17/09/2020 23:53

Just out of curiosity, why do people announce that they've changed nicknames? I keep seeing posts starting like that, I'm a regular poster but I've changed nicknames for this'. Why say that at all?
Sorry, no threesome story :)

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Ivenamechangedforthis2020 · 17/09/2020 23:53

bignadvoodoohat great name by the way!

Share if you’ve been in similar situation. I told my dh if we’d just been fucking it would be different than now we are settled together

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Boom45 · 17/09/2020 23:54

Y'know there are whole sections of the internet for this stuff right? Huge swathes of it.

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Ivenamechangedforthis2020 · 17/09/2020 23:55

Because I don’t want to be outed as I’m regular poster and might be known in real life.

I’d be happy without it but it seems important to him

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Ivenamechangedforthis2020 · 17/09/2020 23:56

boom45 are there? Please share

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emptyplinth · 17/09/2020 23:57

You wonder if watching your husband fuck another woman could have an impact on your relationship?
Tough question

Thedogscollar · 17/09/2020 23:58

So you say you were possessive of him. How will you feel when you see him with another woman?
I can't see this going well.

littlemsattitude · 18/09/2020 00:01

Find a good divorce lawyer, you will need them. Perhaps you could take up something else less risky as a hobby, maybe a creative writing course ?

FusionChefGeoff · 18/09/2020 00:01

Not me but a friend from uni tried this with her husband and a friend they both knew.

They are now happily married in a same sex relationship and he's an EXH

Sparklesocks · 18/09/2020 00:03

It would only work if you had complete trust in each other with no jealousy, understanding it was purely sex motivated and had no bearing on your feelings towards each other.

But that’s much easier said than done!

MissConductUS · 18/09/2020 00:04

Tell him you want a threesome with him and another bloke and see how he reacts. If he shoots that down then this is all about what he wants, not what you want.

If you decide to try it take baby steps with the option to put a stop to it all if it doesn't feel right to you.

WetdreamBeliever · 18/09/2020 00:05

I love these late-night threads.

OK, have a threesome. Tell your husband how you've always dreamed of a man with a bigger cock, because your husband doesn't quite reach the spot. I'd be interested to hear how he responds.

jetsincloud · 18/09/2020 00:07

Fantasies are often better kept as just that! No only do the vary rarely live up to expectations they can also damage your entire relationship.

My DP has a fantasy about a threesome and if he wants to indulge in that he can watch porn or find someone else! I would never bring that dynamic into my relationship.

Goslowlysideways · 18/09/2020 00:07

Say yes but with another man. Let’s see how good he is at sharing that fantasy.

Aquamarine1029 · 18/09/2020 00:09

Your husband wants to fuck other women, and he will with or without you, but he wants to make it known he approached you about it first so you can't be that upset if you won't participate.

Your husband is halfway out the door.

HollowTalk · 18/09/2020 00:10

He told you early on that he wanted sex with another woman? It's not exactly the romance of the century, is it?

HollowTalk · 18/09/2020 00:11

What are you going to get out of watching him with another woman?

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Ivenamechangedforthis2020 · 18/09/2020 00:13

His fantasy is 2 women all over him

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Bringonspring · 18/09/2020 00:15

Hmm I agree with being cautious. My friends announced they were going to have an open marriage (at a dinner party of 6). Needless to say they are now waiting for the divorce papers to be signed.

As to the practicalities I have no idea, I’m sure there are apps/escorts. Personally I would stay clear of friends!

TikTakTikTak · 18/09/2020 00:15

Ask him if he really thinks he can satisfy two women at once

FOJN · 18/09/2020 00:16

I’d be happy without it but it seems important to him

I think that's your answer.

You should also know that on swingers sites, single bisexual women, are known as unicorns because of their rarity so it won't be easy to find someone unless you plan to complicate things by approaching someone you already know. If he has someone you know in mind then I would think he was looking for you to sanction his infidelity with a side order of girl on girl titillation.

You will find plenty of couples looking to swap if he's up for that and you decide to pursue it.

FOJN · 18/09/2020 00:18

His fantasy is 2 women all over him

Lol of course it is, he knows nothing about how this works. I'd suggest less porn!

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