How to indulge in husbands 3some fantasy

[Ivenamechangedforthis2020]

I’ve name changed but am a regular poster on Mn.

Been with my husband 11 years with 2 dc together.

I’m very happy in our relationship. When we first met he was open about the fact he’d love a 3some with another girl. This is something I’d often fantised about prior to meeting him but thought it was a pipe dream. He bought it up when we were Together about 6months and as we were loved up and I was possessive of him, I dodnt share his fantasy. We are now comfortable and open with eachother and the 3some topic came up a few months ago during a drunken night out. He was open about having sex with another woman and wanted me part of it. I feel that my exploration with women was never adhered too and I’m interested in exploring further, however I don’t know how to go about making it a reality or if it could have an impact on our relationship.

Are there any MNetters who have experienced this and if so how did you go about it and what impact has it had on your relationship?

Posting in AIBU for traffic. Thanks

His fantasy is 2 women all over him

So it's all about him and his ego? Sounds a selfish wank fuck.

@FusionChefGeoff

Not me but a friend from uni tried this with her husband and a friend they both knew.

They are now happily married in a same sex relationship and he's an EXH

Haha bet he didn't see that coming!

Like fuck am i sharing any of that magic with you dickheads

I can't tell if this is serious but it made me laugh so thank you

[quote CanadianJohn]The OP might get some helpful advice in the sex forum
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex[/quote]
Yes, but the OP may not be able to post there - we’ve only got their word that they’re a name changer rather than a new poster.

**Not me but a friend from uni tried this with her husband and a friend they both knew.

They are now happily married in a same sex relationship and he's an EXH **

Didn't the same thing happen to Ross on FRIENDS?

Aren't there plenty of other forums specifucally set up for these sorts of questions? Why the need to post it on a general forum?

Anyway, question for you OP? What will you do when your DH grows bored with his threesome fantasy being indulged and needs to push his and your boundaries still further to get the same kind of thrill?

How unlike the home life of our own dear Queen

The problem here is people tend to think they are open, progressive, up for anything etc, and indeed if we were robots it may well be OK. But we're not, we're humans and that little pesky thing we have called emotions always tends to get in the way in the end.

Why not set up a profile and advertise for a single man and a single woman and agree you'll try a threesome with whoever answers first?

Loads of swingers club out there! Well I don’t know if clubs are open with Covid though

Two's company three's a crowd

If its not your fantasy aa well, you don't have to do anything to 'induldge' him.

As a pp said, in the kink world couples looking for a woman to be a feelingless bang maid to 'indulge' usuually the ego of the man in a m/f couple are called 'unicorn hunters' and generally looked down on.

So unless ypu are going to pay a sex worker to be 'all over him" its very unlikley to hapoen.
Like others have said I'd be "oh yes a threesome! Can I choose the man?"

In a FMF 3 some, the man absolutely becomes the spectator. He'll be sorely disappointed if his fantasy becomes a reality. I think the only way he'd achieve his fantasy is to pay 2 sex workers and specify his scenario. I have significant experience of threesomes and swinging.

@BigBadVoodooHat

Are there any MNetters who have experienced this and if so how did you go about it

So, just to clarify, you want people to share their threesome stories?

My immediate thought too.

I do not think a MN Reader's Wives section is the future.

@NewAndImprovedNorks

How unlike the home life of our own dear Queen

😂😂😂

If both really want to try it, id say go for it.
But since you have concerns i dont think it will end well.
DH and i got together in our late teens and it also used to be a fantasy for him. We were talking about things we havent done that we would really like to try one day when he mentioned it.
I guess lots of guys have this fantasy, so that didnt really bother me.
Im a very jealous and possessive person, so thats definitely not an option for me and i told him that right from the start. I did say we could try it if we do it with a guy first. He did not feel comfortable with that and understood why i didnt want to do it.

Threesomes are way overrated apparently. I have several male and female friends who have tried it and not many found it lived up to the expectation.

Thanks all. Just showed dh this thread and he was horrified! Says if we are both up for it great but if I have any concerns then we should leave it.

Heads up. Have a chat to him first

I am a single swinger and I have many couples approaching me for this scenario both online and in real life. I always say no because what's in it for me?

Fumbly sex with an inexperienced woman who's on the fence about it while her creepy husband paws at me? No thanks.

Pervert alert

I can remember reading an account of one here (I think) where the fantasy didn't live up to reality. Lots of awkward shuffling about who went where and one person laid there like a spare priest at a wedding. Its never appealed to me. I have very poor concentration at the best of times and couldn't possibly cope with extraneous body parts

Fantasy is always way better than reality. Reality is sordid and if one's value one's fantasies, one should protect them from reality at all cost.

I've had several, but down the line they were all eventually topics in arguments, bringing up jealousy issues down the line and all the relationships have ended, so not something I'd do with my wife/husband.

Threesomes sound so fucking awkward honestly. Can't imagine anything less sexy tbh.

I had a relationship where I got quite into kink with my then BF. It was fun at first but frankly it got exhausting, we couldn't just have normal sex without props in the end. I keep that stuff out of my relationship with DH and it's much healthier that way. Fantasies are often quite dark, and if you bring them into real life, a lot of that darkness comes with them.

Lots of awkward shuffling about who went where and one person laid there like a spare priest at a wedding

this made me laugh out loud, thank you!

What ever happened to 'if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all'? Don't judge people and their choices, live and let live!

A few years ago, a work friend's DP asked her to look for a willing participant but she could only find another male, who was actually bi-curious. The relationship was coming to an end (for other reasons) so she decided this other male might be good for her and might give her homophobic DP something to think about!!

Well the hit the fan big time when the newcomer decided to satisfy his curiosity....to her credit she had mentioned it to her DP, unfortunately he wasn't listening at the time and 'assumed' it was FFM.