How to indulge in husbands 3some fantasy

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I’ve name changed but am a regular poster on Mn.

Been with my husband 11 years with 2 dc together.

I’m very happy in our relationship. When we first met he was open about the fact he’d love a 3some with another girl. This is something I’d often fantised about prior to meeting him but thought it was a pipe dream. He bought it up when we were Together about 6months and as we were loved up and I was possessive of him, I dodnt share his fantasy. We are now comfortable and open with eachother and the 3some topic came up a few months ago during a drunken night out. He was open about having sex with another woman and wanted me part of it. I feel that my exploration with women was never adhered too and I’m interested in exploring further, however I don’t know how to go about making it a reality or if it could have an impact on our relationship.

Are there any MNetters who have experienced this and if so how did you go about it and what impact has it had on your relationship?

Posting in AIBU for traffic. Thanks

I have friends who are very into the whole "sharing the bed" thing, but when they go to clubs or events they generally just watch rather than get involved. They both prefer to play with people they know and trust and as the woman is bi it is usually with a woman.

So I think your plan of going to see how the land lies and then seeing what you are comfortable with is the best one.

I'd be very happy to be part of a MMF or FFM threesome.

I'm fully aware it's not all about me, and I'm very happy to share.

I've attended a couple of swingers clubs, and been lucky enough to be invited into a couples play. It's not awkward or difficult in that situation, but I can imagine bringing it into the bedroom might be..

@PinotPony Very tongue in cheek, but I'm beginning to think you might be employed by KillingKittens...

@AverageGuy
I know! I should be on commission! 😂

I've found it such a revelation I just want everyone to know about it!

Agree with MarkRuffaloCrumble.

Every straight guy wants two women all over him. They are usually faceless.

Yes I too fantasise about a roomful of men lining up and my significant other calling the shots (as it were 😅).

But you know what? Ages and ages ago I took the decision that I can do whatever I like in my head. But waaaay no way in RL.

There's no need. The practicalities are too tricky. Keep it in your heads and conversations.

Best way to do this is to find two other blokes and then tell your husband after. I’m sure he won’t mind.

We did this, it’s really not as unusual as you might think.

In a loving and trusting relationship it can really work. My advice would be avoid anyone you already know.

Personally we used fabswingers.com and met a lovely lady who come here about once every two months. We originally met for coffee on neutral territory to see if there was a connection and chatted online at length before are fist session.

Everyone has fun and there is no harm done. The obvious thing to watch for and take relevant precautions around are std’s.

Those saying it’s inevitably the end of a relationship are wrong. It would certainly be the end of a frail or trustless relationship, but can enhance a healthy and strong one.

@1forAll74

Would your children be aware that their Mum and Dad are maybe contemplating a three some with another woman.

Ffs Really ???

We go to sexclubs and it’s never someone we’d see daily... except a certain MP

@VanGoghsDog

I think it's a nice idea to have someone spare to make a cuppa.

isn't that the film crew's job?

I get people having fantasies, but a man who wants a threesome while married sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too
Don't know why people introduce people into their marriage like this either. Each to their own I suppose but not for the even young and adventurous me! My relationship is between me and my husband I'd never want to involve anyone else