Penetration??

[Cheerymom]

Right, here goes, do any of you like it? I'm asking as I realise aged 49 I never got anything from penetrative sex. I always liked kissing, etc but feel like I have been acting out when it comes to penetration, feels like being impaled TBH.

Lol Ossum, you sound like you write poor quality fan fiction.

OP yes, like others the PIV is the best bit.

I never enjoyed it in the 14 years I lived with my ex or the partners I had before. I kept trying to ‘get it’. I’m now married to a women.

Bumper1969
Gosh interesting question OP.

😂

I'm neutral. It can be nice emotionally, but it doesn't do much for me physically.

'This is a troll. Reporting this threat. If you want smutty replies your on the wrong site'

Just report it, there's no need to announce that.

Pmsl at 'smutty replies'.

Doesn't do much for me. Sometimes he may as well be prodding my armpit. Other times its fab, just depends on how into it I am feeling.

Have you tried it with a vibrator to see if that makes any difference?

It's pleasurable because the structure of the clitoris and other pleasure nerves at the entrance to the vagina feel nice when stimulated.
If you don't have nerves that respond in that way in your vagina then you probably won't enjoy it. We are all built slightly differently.

I hate being teabagged. But I love watching that satisfaction on my mans face when his nuts are sucked and massaged with tongue and palate.

How do you actually see his face while you're being teabagged?

Wank fodder

Morning, everyone. We've had a look behind the scenes and the OP does seem to be above board. We are going to move this to the sex topic though, where it might cause less of a stir. Thanks for the reports.

@Boredisboring I think the post you're quoting has been removed, but it clearly states that the writer didn't like being teabagged (for the uninitiated - dragging your ballsack over someone's face, primarily the forehead and eyes apparently. Not really a sex act, more of an urban dictionary teenage meme thing as an act of dominance.)

Writer stated they loved the look on partner's face while ballsucking, which merely involves looking upwards!

OP:
Most women don't achieve orgasm through penetration. That said, penetration shouldn't be uncomfortable. You said you felt "impaled" - is that a physically painful sensation, or is it more a psychological fear of invasion?

If it's physically painful, agree with PPs to look at vaginismus. Also make sure you are using lube. You'll hear people blurting "If you're turned on enough you won't need lube." Bollocks. Some women (myself included) simply don't produce enough natural lubrication no matter how turned on we are (and hormonal contraception can worsen this.) After extensive experiments, my favourite lube is Liquid Silk, which you can buy from Amazon or LoveHoney. It lasts for ages, is non-sticky, comes in a pump dispenser bottle and is a reasonable price for the quality. My only gripe is it tastes a bit rank. I've found Durex lubes get all sticky when exposed to the air. Ditto Superdrug own brand. KY jelly is good but I've only found it in squeezy tubes or bottles and I prefer the pump dispenser.

Even if you are using condoms, use lube as well. Not only does it make everything more comfortable, it decreases the risk of condom breakage.

I only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, whether by mouth, fingers or vibrator. Once I've had an orgasm i couldn't care less whether penetration happens or not. If it does, it will be for his satisfaction, not mine. I certainly don't mind it and will probably enjoy it, but I won't miss it.

I'm a sex worker, so I have a lot of sex. Probably a good 50% of my bookings don't involve penetration. What's notable to me is that for a woman to say "I don't really like penetration, I prefer oral" is relatively normal and at least 40% of women will nod and say "Yeah I hear you girl". If a man says "I don't really like penetration" it will draw exclamations of "OMG U MUST B GAY BRO". Penetration is a very gendered act.

(Imagine the conversation if one of my submissive clients told his mates "I really get off on a woman fucking me in the arse with a strap on" 🙊 )

I never ask my clients why they don't want penetration (I just mentally thank them for the extra 4p profit in not using a condom) but I've heard the following:
"I like penetration but I can't stay hard when wearing a condom"
"I know I can satisfy a woman with my tongue but I worry that I can't with my dick"
"I booked this session as a relaxing treat for myself, and therefore I don't want to perform"
"I can't last longer than 30 seconds inside a woman"
"I love the visual of watching you sucking me and then swallowing my cum"
"I worry that I'm too fat and/or my dick is too small to properly penetrate you"
"I want to feel like Bill Clinton" (seriously LOL)

but of course the most common is simply the same as most women who prefer oral:
"I just prefer oral."

actually..the thought of it exites me.every bit of the reality is that on toast..

notthefordtype

Are you happy to do oral without a condom?

Genuinely just wondering as not sure I could routinely with lots of different men.

I could not imagine having a LT sexual relationship without penetration usually being the norm. Whilst it is not the only thing, ultimately I love him sliding inside me and seeing his face when he does. It feels so nice and intimate. Whilst been married a while now, I loved the point when we were able to stop using condoms and feeling him orgasm in me...not everyone's favourite moment having a load of cum inside, I love it and knowing he loves that moment as well makes it special and intimate for me, and feeling wanted.

@coppercolouredtop

Yes. I fucking hate giving oral with a condom. The bulb tickles my throat and triggers my gag reflex, and the taste is awful. Unless you have an open wound in the mouth (eg. mouth ulcer or just had tooth removed) you're very unlikely to catch anything worse than chlamydia or gonnorhea.

I'd say the percentage of clients wanting OW (oral with (a condom)) is less than 0.1%.

Lots of sex workers don't do OWO (oral without) and it's totally personal choice.

I personally love giving oral and most of my marketing revolves around this USP. If you're wondering about hygiene - in the last two years I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times I have had to send guys back into the bathroom to wash their cock.

I love penetration too.

Moving Targets is a bloody great album.

Pretty much never got actual identifiable physical pleasure from it until after ds was born. 14 years of that.

I got v lazy though, knew it wasn't going to do much for me so never bothered insisting on getting aroused. Would just stuff it in and hope for a quick ending.

Then ds was born and afterwards it felt loads better, actual tingling. I understand now that it can feel great, especially if i am really turned on - never orgasm but genuine physical pleasure with a core of stretch/overwhelmingness which is curiously addictive.

With one guy it was amazing. With others either just meh or painful. Think it's more about whether two people are right together physically and mentally.

I never got anything out of it with ExH or partners before, it always felt uncomfortable if not painful. With current DP though, it feels amazing. I don't know whether it's because I've just done it because it's expected and not because I really want it before, or if he 'fits' better.

I like it but hardly ever cum through penetration alone. I like the closeness, & if we've done other things instead for a few days, I really miss it.

DP and I fit together really well, much better than my ex & I ever did.

But what is nice about it?

There's an area a couple of inches inside on the front wall that feels good during penetration for me (I believe it's the back of the clitoris, they've now discovered the clitoris is actually a y shaped structure reaching back & up into the vagina).

On saying that I do not climax from it, unfortunately. Never have and doubt will. Can only climax from clitoral (traditional/narrower understanding of clitoris) stimulation.

Initial penetration can also feel great if v turned on.

Weird thing is that penetration for me often feels good to great early on, but become meh the more it goes on.

*In saying that

After extensive experiments, my favourite lube is Liquid Silk, which you can buy from Amazon or LoveHoney.

If you're not using condoms, coconut oil can be great - and tastes fine (as long as you don't dislike coconut obviously).