Penetration??

[Cheerymom]

Right, here goes, do any of you like it? I'm asking as I realise aged 49 I never got anything from penetrative sex. I always liked kissing, etc but feel like I have been acting out when it comes to penetration, feels like being impaled TBH.

OP how do you think posters telling you why they enjoy penetration is going to make a difference to you enjoying it or not?

It didn’t strike me as a perverted question either. But then I say that as someone who doesn’t particularly enjoy it so it can be harder to understand the appeal.

I think I used to more, but I’ve forgotten that feeling. I have often found penetration uncomfortable. I’m 35. Had some very minor endometriosis that’s been treated. My partner is slightly bigger than I find comfortable. I regularly get uti after sex. It’s crap really

I’m jealous of those who never find it uncomfortable. Does that even exist?

troll or not. i love it,flacid n rested up gainst me is fine too.its nice when it goes in.then gets better

Ok so ... ... or if real what ashtray said.

I think it depends a lot on your partner - bigger is not always better!

(not suggesting that you should go out and sample) But have you been with many different men OP? I'm always surprised by how different one penis is from the next

I do think that penetration gives a different kind of orgasm to external stimulation. Can you achieve orgasm by other means?

On another note, I have a friend who's never enjoyed penetration, she spoke to a doctor about it and it turns out she has something called 'vaginismus' where the body kind of rejects penetration.

ps. lubrication is your friend

And foreplay. It’s always better if its a marathon not a sprint. Those quickies in the morning that you’re trying to decide if you’ve enough time, while fun, is less comfortable than say a night away, bath together, shower off afterwards, and heading to bed, oral, then penetration

I love it. If I detailed why, I'm pretty sure I'd get banned. But, yes, some women enjoy it.

I like it, it’d be like going out for dinner without having a main course for me if we did everything else but that. Of all my friends I have been close enough to discuss this openly with only 2 said they didn’t really enjoy actual sex, they preferred doing other things like oral sex, I couldn’t really understand this. Both friends married their long term boyfriends of 7 years and 10 years, both left their husbands for a woman within 2 years of getting married!!! Not saying you are bi/gay, but certainly from my small sample size of 30 or 40 people it was true! I remember them telling me they didn’t really like sex as though I was going to agree with them, nope on your own.

I like it, it’d be like going out for dinner without having a main course for me if we did everything else but that.

That is the perfect description. I'd be unsatisfied and feel like something was missing.

I am a fan. But I think bodies can be jigsaws that either fit or dont fit.

My partner is my jigsaw fit.

I love penetration too.

Definitely look into vaginismus

It's more about the friction that comes from his pelvis ime and if your dimensions are right it happens during piv. And that's nicer while he's thrusting for all the reasons everyone else has said.

It's the bit I like the most.

I quite like good rogering from Mr sprout now and then... so yes, I do.

Might be better in a position where you can control it OP. Tell him to lie still so you can experiment!

There arent many pleasure centres in the vagina (nerve endings i mean) compared to the clitoris so i can what you mean. I believe some peope get clitoral stimulation from penetrative sex but its never happened to me.

I like it, it's not the easiest way to have an orgasm but it's not just about that. I like the intimacy and the feeling of being that close and connected. DP and I are a good fit in that respect though, that won't be the case for everyone.

Physically, I don't get much out of it. I like that he enjoys it though. I do resent that the other stuff gets termed as "foreplay" which implies piv is the main event. I think that's quite sexist given most women can't come from it but most men can, so it gets seen as the important act.

Ossom

Some of these replies are a bit explicit. I can see why people think OP is a wank troll.

Ossom what sexist crap you have spouted. Being a good boss has nothing to do with whether they are shagging or not. Get real.

Personally don’t like it but like non-penetrative sex. I like what I like and that’s ok. It’s arousing that DH likes it though. We’ve only been with each other though so not experts. Try omg yes subscription?

Personally I think it depends on the partner. With some men it has felt like 'impaling', with others it has been an amazingly enjoyable experience, both physically and emotionally. There have been very rare occasions where I wasn't emotionally connected with the act and it felt like a violation. In those instances I had sex with someone I wasn't attracted to out of politeness as I had poor boundaries as a young woman. I think that's what you're getting at? The idea that it's a destructive act? My confidence and boundaries are very strong now and it would no longer occur to me to have sex out of a sense of duty or obligation. Therefore all PV is now very much wanted and enjoyed.