Penetration??

[Cheerymom]

Right, here goes, do any of you like it? I'm asking as I realise aged 49 I never got anything from penetrative sex. I always liked kissing, etc but feel like I have been acting out when it comes to penetration, feels like being impaled TBH.

OP, I never used to get anything out of it. If I ever masturbated, it was clitoral stimulation only - it’s the only way I came. Then one day in my 30s I used my very small pointy vibrator internally and directed it towards where I thought my g spot was (had never found it) and holy shit.

Now, my favourite sex act is being fingered - before I felt basically nothing from it (but DH is bloody amazing at this). I rarely ever have clitoral orgasms any more as they just aren’t as good. Internal orgasms leave me a gibbering wreck, and now PIV is amazing too.

I’d definitely recommend experimenting alone to see what works and what doesn’t.

Penetration is the best part for me.
It's more about intimacy for us ..... I can masturbate and have an orgasm any time alone but with DP it's more about the intimacy and closeness so couldn't imagine not doing this .
Does that make me sound soppy ...... I guess we're all different and that's okay .

Why has it taken you 20 years to ask this question, everything is too late for you now,, but maybe not, who knows.

Impaled you said, well that's quite awful isn't it. sounds really horrible.. You need a gentleman I think.

Sorry to ask, but you ever experienced any sexual abuse OP? Early on in my relationship with DH I said that as a woman, being penetrated always feels like being violated. That’s how I felt, that’s how I thought all women felt. I didn’t put two and two together and realise that the abuse and rape I had experienced were making me feel like this. He was shocked I thought that.

It can be the most amazing thing and it can be the worst thing.

If done skillfully by someone and not just constant thrusting, I enjoy an internal massge with a penis. I also find the bond of being together with someone lovely.

But I prefer oral. That is not to say I don’t want penetration as well, but a few oral only sessions a nice. A bed friend’s tongue can reach parts that other’s cant.

I agree with the earlier poster who said we need a new term for foreplay. It belittles its importance.

In the meantime, pass the vibey over!

Foreplay is like sending dirty text messages.

I don’t know how anyone can call oral, manual stimulation etc “foreplay” - it takes up at least 90% of any sex session for us.