The big O through penetration only... how?!

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AIBU to find it really frustrating that orgasms are so easy for men and so difficult for some women?!! It drives me up the wall!!

Name changed for this as I don't usually choose to discuss this kind of thing on mn! Not that it's anything to be ashamed of but, you know...

Anyway. I've always had this real desire to have an orgasm through penetration only. Thing is. I just can't do it!

Has anyone ever gone from not being able to to being able to? And if so, how?! I find it such a mood killer, having to masturbate myself whilst DP and I have sex. I almost feel envious of him that he can orgasm through penetration alone! I know this is the norm for men but I would love it to happen to me, just once...

Any ideas? Or is it just impossible for some women...?

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What worked for me sometime back in the day, was No Touching The Clitoris at all AT ALL before penetration. And you've got to be really really turned on. Good luck.

Yes, let’s all share stories on this. Definitely a sensible thing to do .

Apparently women can only climax through clitoral stimulation, but so much of the clitoris is internal that for some some women with some men then vaginal penetration gives enough clitoral stimulation.

Wonder what Reddit make of this.

Ahem.

As another PP said, a partner change did it for me... still only in a couple of positions though.

Is your partner overweight by any chance? Eek, plz don't flame me, sexual vipers, for stereotyping!

Reading with interest! I have the same problem and can only climax through clitoral stimulation.

Ta for all the answers everyone!

@EdmundCleverClogs I don't see a problem? People don't have to post? I can think of much worse things people have posted about than orgasms!

Do you crumblebrag? Big penises, or small ones, or any penises at all?

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@TakeMeToKernow he's not at all, no! Though had no intention of flaming.

Lots of foreplay before penetration?

Then a position that puts rubs against your clitoris during penetration?

I think if you find a way for all us women to be able to orgasm through penetration alone, you'd be very rich!

Yes, let’s all share stories on this. Definitely a sensible thing to do

Even if it is some troll getting off on it is there really any harm done? Its an anonymous forum so the genuine posters are not in any RL danger, they will be none the wiser what a stranger is using this infomation for.
Theres plenty of actual porn and people willing to share explicit stories on the internet anyway that I dont know why anyone would use mumsnet when the answers are bound to be somewhat more tame and realistic anyway.

lol @ the stealth boast from Crumblebrag

Can I just state that whilst you have every right to choose whether you believe me or not, I am absolutely not a troll. I haven't been on mn for years and years but have chosen to change my name as I don't want this question linked to the handful of questions I have asked previously. There's not really a lot I can do to prove this so if you don't want to post then by all means don't!

I can only do it via missionary. I love it!

What positions do u try?

On top on the sofa makes me climax by penetration

The male orgasm in simple terms is a reward for the act which continues the human race. The women is the carrier the man is the producer. Sex is vital to the survival of the species so mother nature has to make it enjoyable.

Yes, let’s all share stories on this. Definitely a sensible thing to do

What's the big deal? Not being able to achieve an orgasm through penetration alone is a common issue for women. People might find some of the responses useful.

I'm not sharing any stories. My sex life is between me and my dp.

@Vexatious this is exactly why I asked. I don't exactly feel comfortable walking up to my friends and asking them. I just wanted some honest answers from normal women. I'm not a troll!