The big O through penetration only... how?!

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AIBU to find it really frustrating that orgasms are so easy for men and so difficult for some women?!! It drives me up the wall!!

Name changed for this as I don't usually choose to discuss this kind of thing on mn! Not that it's anything to be ashamed of but, you know...

Anyway. I've always had this real desire to have an orgasm through penetration only. Thing is. I just can't do it!

Has anyone ever gone from not being able to to being able to? And if so, how?! I find it such a mood killer, having to masturbate myself whilst DP and I have sex. I almost feel envious of him that he can orgasm through penetration alone! I know this is the norm for men but I would love it to happen to me, just once...

Any ideas? Or is it just impossible for some women...?

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Wow - since this thread has been moved from AIBU I’ve discovered a whole new area of MN.

Center Parcs - who knew

I think I must be one of the 1/3 of women who always orgasm with penetrative sex and know I’m lucky with this. However, I’m the opposite here and now seem to have lost the ability to orgasmwith foreplay, (DH loves a long fore play for him and watching me as it turns him on) I just seem to find direct touch, even gentle, is too stimulating and sensitive and I’d rather just go more quickly to penetrative sex. Anyone else like me?!

Me newbiecat.

I used to love oral and play but can't seem to get there through foreplay , but can through sex .

New partner , never been able to orgasm through sex before . It's like my body shifted lol.

Can people on here really orgasm through nipple stimulation- is that actually a thing?

April - it certainly is!! Since having children, my nipples are off the scale sensitive and seem to be a direct line to my clit

That is amazing Brutus. Can it honestly be just that alone (in the right mood) that does it?

Since having child 1 I feel like I have lost sensitivity nipple wise if anything, currently pregnant with number 2 and although very sensitive it’s not in a sexy way!

Morning all. I’d just like to update that in the name of mumsnet, I have conducted some research.

The OH didn’t know he was being part of research.

Some people have mentioned the don’t empty your bladder trick. Results from this mornings test of this method were 0/10 :(

Ah well. More research to be done!

Funny you say that @Takeme.....DH and I often find we both need a tinkle post foreplay ....or think we do. Nothing to do with the Big O but just couldn't imagine rolling around with a bursting blad.

I find it odd that I can have orgasms and feel that twitch someone else mentioned when I think about something that gets me going, but as soon as someone else is involved it's like unless I go right inside my own head their very presence ruins it

I come really easily during penetration but tbh there are drawbacks. I lose interest once I've orgasmed so things get a bit boring afterwards whilst dh is still going!

I've always had the same issue. DH had a thing about trying to make me squirt and got me an SP2 (Satisfyer Pro 2) sex toy that is amazing!! Totally different type to your usual dildo or bullet that gives a different sensation when you orgasm. Sex has been so much better since using it, including penetrative orgasms. Not every time, but I've had them!

For the last 6 weeks, I've had a new partner who fits me perfectly and it is absolute bliss. Multiple orgasms. I never thought it was possible. His preferred style is hard and fast and he has staying power. This is perfect for me. Have only previously had the rare penetrative sex orgasm, otherwise it had to be cunnilingus (sorry if tmi!). Now I don't want cunnilingus sorry said it again. I just want him inside me. Have already told him that if he ever leaves me I will chain him up in the shed, lol. I am 50 yrs old. To find this type of sex now is a complete revelation. Like a lot of others have mentioned, due to kids, myself and STBX got used to quickie sex where he got a result but I didn't. Unfortunately, as we aged, the situation didn't get any better. Sorry, not much help to you.

Hold a very sexy fantasy in your mind and take it to the bedroom....90 per cent is mental.

Haha, I tried the ‘sonny empty your bladder’ trick last weekend and ended up with a uti.

*don’t not sonny!