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Ejaculating on my face. Apologies in advance.

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WellWhatDoWeHaveHere · 06/12/2017 18:25

Having recently got together with a very old/close friend, I've learnt he wants to almost always explode on my face or in my mouth. Whilst we both enjoy dominating the other at times, I haven't experienced my whole face/including eyes being covered. How do I manage/ prepare myself for this? Is it normal?

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Eleanorsummer · 09/12/2017 14:52

People saying there's no doubt it is vanilla, really!? It is obviously subjective as you can see by a lot feeling it isn't vanilla at all. I'm 25 and can say that me and my friends would find it out of the ordinary, especially if a man wanted to do it all the time.

Ollivander84 · 09/12/2017 15:12

Definitely subjective. A lot of kink stuff to me is vanilla and I'm not shocked by most things. But some people might see woman on top as not vanilla, and that's all fine
The problem is when the people having sex aren't on the same page, so it could be vanilla to him while she is horrified and that's obviously where good communication comes in and respecting choices

LalaLeona · 10/12/2017 20:50

Vanilla? Wow that's sad. Degrading more like and trust me I am NO prude.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 10/12/2017 20:53

Vanilla? Wow that's sad. Degrading more like and trust me I am NO prude.

Quite clearly are a prude if you are insisting a sexual act that many people enjoy is degrading and "sad".

Enjoying sex isn't sad.

2sly4you · 10/12/2017 20:53

There's a really good TED talk about this.
blog.ted.com/cindy_gallop_ma/

Ollivander84 · 10/12/2017 22:04

It's not degrading to me, it might be to someone else. I don't judge vanilla sex and I prefer it when people don't judge others kinks. If it's not harming anyone and it's between two consenting adults then it's all fine

TammySwansonTwo · 11/12/2017 16:25

I'm pretty sure 2017 is the person who stared regularly watching porn at 14, insists it hasn't been normalised and is now here describing what's actually a pretty degrading act as "vanilla".

Sigh. This is the future.

Oh well. I had a partner who would have done this every time if he'd had the option. He didn't. It would happen occasionally - one of the many reasons that's over.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 11/12/2017 16:43

TammySwansonTwo As we have seen from the varied responses on this thread, it isn't "pretty degrading" to everyone.

TammySwansonTwo · 11/12/2017 16:47

It's one thing if you don't have a problem with it.
It's one thing if you enjoy it.
It's one thing if you're with a man who's been so exposed to this act through porn that he doesn't personally intend it to be degrading.

But there's only one word for denying that an act that's specifically designed to be degrading is, in fact, degrading... and that normalisation.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 11/12/2017 17:30

Anything can be degrading if you want it to be. Having your husband lick you out can be exceptionally degrading in the right circumstances, as can watching one's partner masturbate and so on.

Sexual acts are simply sexual acts, and they can be used in whatever way is desired. They are only degrading if either or both parties wishes them to be so (and yes, there are lots of people who love sex to specifically be degrading).

WantingMuchMore · 11/12/2017 20:35

Agree with WhatToDoAboutThis2017, anything can be degrading in the right circumstances and similarly, even the most filthy of acts can be empowering and liberating- depending on the circumstance, the intention and the interests of the two people involved. Take a blow job for example - is it a dominant act ? Is it a more submissive act? (Clue: it's both) it can also be made to feel degrading if you both like that sort of thing... you're just not worth fucking or it can be hugely empowering...

Facials are just a waste of a yummy mouthful from my perspective but this is one place where there really isn't a wrong answer - just a wrong answer for you

TammySwansonTwo · 11/12/2017 21:46

I don't disagree with what you're saying but there's a vast difference between your personal perception of an act and the basis of that act.

JAPAB · 12/12/2017 04:06

Personal perception is surely the most important thing.

The originators of an act do no own the copyright on it for eternity. Even if it is correct that the act was "specifically designed to be degrading" by its instigators, well good for them.

tiptopteepe · 12/12/2017 14:11

any sex act is only degrading if its intended to be degrading or makes someone feel degraded. Thats it.
I mean come on? You could say going down on someone was degrading, you could say penetration was degrading (and I think some radical feminists do)

I personally think that all stems back to perception that women are not really sexual beings and everything is done TO THEM rather than WITH THEM.

There is nothing inherently degrading about any sex act. Its depends entirely on the context its taking place in.

Littlechocola · 12/12/2017 14:16

If you’re comfortable enough to let him cum in your face (are you though ?) then you should be comfortable enough to talk to him about it.

BuckysRoboticArm · 12/12/2017 14:33

We do this. I do not find it degrading at all, because I am the one who has consented to it, I want him to do it, it turns me on too. Sometimes. There are plenty of times I don't want to do it as well, and I would feel degraded if I went along with it during those occasions. So yes it's all about context and the individual's perspective.

I personally don't find cum yummy, (and I don't even want to pretend I do to seem more attractive) it's not delicious it just burns my throat. But I find blow jobs a turn on and I don't mind the end result at all. Oh and I think vanilla is such an overused and pointless term now. It's all about what an individual is comfortable with. You can only have your own 'vanilla' if you must? you can't go around labelling sexual acts as one or the other. There's too many different perspectives.

Jellyheadbang · 13/12/2017 08:15

I wouldn’t say it’s vanilla. I don’t believe in vanilla, all sex acts can be incredibly erotic depending on who with and how executed.
I’m not a big fan of spunk in my face but have been having sex since late 80s and it was certainly more popular with younger guys when I was young.
It happens to me very rarely now (for which I’m very grateful) although if the moment was right I’d go for it.

DeleteOrDecay · 13/12/2017 12:16

Jelly you shouldn't have to be grateful that you've avoided a man jizzing on your face. It's not something men are entitled to do and women just have to put up with it. Only do it if you want to.

dementedma · 14/12/2017 21:16

I don't mind swallowing, but coming on my face isn't an option. For me, personally, degrading and messy

CurlyhairedAssassin · 16/12/2017 14:22

can’t imagine my parents generation doing that at all! For me, it’s kind of like a marking of territory on “ma bitch” type of feeling.

If that turns you on, so be it, but for many women it is a sign of “ownership” which is a massive turn off for them.

As for spunk being “a yummy mouthful”, well, that’s the point where I’m convinced that some people on this thread are doing their best to show everyone how much cooler with sex they are than everyone else.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 16/12/2017 18:14

Or they could, you know, just enjoy their partner's sperm. I genuinely love the taste of DH, and that's nothing to do with wanting to appear "cool", it's simply true.

How odd (and rather saddening) it is that you think nobody could ever enjoy their partner's sperm.

ForalltheSaints · 16/12/2017 19:07

If the OP is uncomfortable with it, maybe it's s no-no and this should be accepted.

riceuten · 17/12/2017 21:20

He's been watching too much p()rn. I can't think anyone but him (or any male who does it) gets any pleasure out of this - it's about humiliation.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 17/12/2017 22:55

can't think anyone but him (or any male who does it) gets any pleasure out of this - it's about humiliation.

Incorrect, riceuten. It's only about humiliation if you want it to be.

I definitely get pleasure out of it when my DH does it to me, and there are many other women who do too.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 18/12/2017 22:42

Whattodo, it would be an unusual person who enjoyed the taste of my partner’s semen. He himself thinks it tastes horrible.

Maybe it depends on diet.

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