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Ejaculating on my face. Apologies in advance.

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WellWhatDoWeHaveHere · 06/12/2017 18:25

Having recently got together with a very old/close friend, I've learnt he wants to almost always explode on my face or in my mouth. Whilst we both enjoy dominating the other at times, I haven't experienced my whole face/including eyes being covered. How do I manage/ prepare myself for this? Is it normal?

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SnowBallsAreHere · 07/12/2017 20:31

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Flicketyflack · 07/12/2017 20:32

I think it would be more helpful to you if you thought about it in terms of whether you enjoy this.

Normal/not normal who knows?

Do you like it? If so no worries.

I wonder if you are asking whether you don't really like the regularity of it?
If you asked to 'sit on his face' every time you have sex would he enjoy it?

SuperLoudPoppingAction · 07/12/2017 20:35

You can get Std''s in your eyes - chlamydia etc. So I wouldn't, frankly.

Huskylover1 · 07/12/2017 21:02

Personally I'd withdraw sex at this point.

When he comes on to you, tell him you don't enjoy sex with him, it's all a bit porn-esk and you need a bit of romantic sex, but as that isn't on the cards, you'd rather abstain.

Quartz2208 · 07/12/2017 21:07

Is this vanilla now god I feel old. To be it’s a total power play about dominance rather than adding to pleasure

hamburgers · 07/12/2017 21:38

I don’t mind DH, or other men I’ve dated in the past for that matter, come on my face/boobs/bum. Sometimes I even prefer it to coming inside of me, but he wants to come on your face every time?? That would make me a bit

EvilEdna1 · 07/12/2017 21:55

44 here and I don't think this is vanilla. My friends were not discussing their partners doing this even when I younger.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 07/12/2017 22:15

To be it’s a total power play about dominance rather than adding to pleasure

To many people, dominance is pleasure.

Quartz2208 · 07/12/2017 22:22

@whattodo that it what I meant (badly worded) that the dominance/power is the pleasure rather than adding physical pleasure.

She also says they both enjoy dominating

CurlyhairedAssassin · 07/12/2017 23:57

Yeah, must be a generational thing. I’m 45 and I think women of my generation would see that act as part of a dominance arrangement. Definitely not vanilla.

But then there are things a lot of younger women do that are different to me to please men.

Landsendmum · 08/12/2017 00:07

You ask: "Is it normal..."?

Well, what is 'normal' between two people? My ex husband liked to cum on my face and on my breasts but it was only very occasionally. I didn't mind that, he always made me cum first and was very good about tissues, missing my eyes etc.

Men are - sometimes - odd creatures so- to answer your question from my viewpoint - yes it probably is 'normal' for him but, is it 'normal' for you. What I mean is, how do you really feel about it? If you are at all uncomfortable, then tell him. Be clear and honest. If he is at all decent, he will respect your feelings.

0ccamsRazor · 08/12/2017 08:42

This is a clear indicator of his porn habbits.

I would not want to be with someone who thinks porn driven sex acts are the way to behave in a loving sexual union.

NotTheFordType · 08/12/2017 11:17

Christ. I'm 44 and it's vanilla to me. And I saw it as vanilla waaaaaaay before getting into sex work.

I don't think it's dominance (I'm generally the dominant one with all my partners) - I think it's about the visual effect. I also love the feel of it on my face, or anywhere else on my body. I have one FWB who I order to lick it up afterwards. Hot af.

JustAnIdiot · 08/12/2017 15:41

I don't mind the concept of it, but I hate the warm slimy feeling of it on my face, like I've been sneezed on - yuck!

If it has to be sprayed about, I'd prefer it on my tits.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 08/12/2017 18:00

No way would I let anyone cum on my face, sounds fucking vile tbh.
Every time is an issue...his not yours, obviously.

JustAnIdiot · 08/12/2017 18:17

Yes, why every time? Mix it up a bit!

BettyBaggins · 09/12/2017 12:46

Semen is made up of a whole bunch of things you dont want to get in your eye!

DeleteOrDecay · 09/12/2017 14:06

Sadly I do think it has become normalised now thanks to mainstream porn becoming more extreme. I don't think it's 'vanilla' though.

I'm in my mid-20's so not exactly old, but to me it would feel incredibly degrading for him to do it on my face every time. In fact in 8 years with my dp he's never done it on my face or in my mouth because it's something I can't stand personally and he respects that. If you dp is a decent man he will respect your wishes whether that means not doing it at all or just occasionally.

It makes me quite cross actually. If a woman genuinely enjoys it then fine. But most men wouldn't enjoy a face full of cum every time so why do they expect women to accept it? Ask him if he would be willing to let you sit on his face every time after sex and if he says no ask him why. I bet his answer would be something along the lines of that's gross/it's degrading/there's nothing in it for me.

tiptopteepe · 09/12/2017 14:18

I think its fairly common. I actually really like it and was the one who got my DH to do it (he had never done it before and was a little dubious). I dont really see whats wrong with it? Of course dont do it if you really dont want to OP. You shouldnt do anything you arent comfortable with.
I like it because I just like to see him cumming, I think its sexy. And it turns me on to have the sperm on me.
I dont think its 'only enjoyed in porn' at all actually.

If you do decide to do it just remember that the aim can vary lol! So you may end up with it in your hair or having to shut your eyes (you dont want it in your eyes) So dont do it if you have to quickly get ready to go somewhere afterwards because you might have to thoroughly wash your hair not just your face!!

DeleteOrDecay · 09/12/2017 14:28

You like to see him cum but if he's doing it on your face you have your eyes closed anyway?

I don't think it's something that's only enjoyed in porn. It's probably something which has been done for centuries but porn has definitely had a hand in men's expectations of women in the bedroom and how common it is now.

AdalindSchade · 09/12/2017 14:32

It's common but it's not vanilla. It's a dominance act. It's up to you of course but I'd find that fucking boring tbh

tiptopteepe · 09/12/2017 14:36

No I dont always have my eyes closed? Just sometimes right at the end if it looks like its going to go in my eyes!!

Each to their own. If you find it humiliating or whatever then dont do it but dont talk like the experiences of women who enjoy it and dont find it humiliating are irrelevant! Thats pretty offensive.

People used to talk like this about oral, they talk like this about anal...... These things have been around since the dawn of time and some people are into them and some people arent.
Sometimes people enjoy them because it represents humiliation or submission but that is really NOT the only reason why people can enjoy them at all.

At the end of the day what matters is whether or not YOU personally find it enjoyable for whatever reason. If you dont then dont do it.

DeleteOrDecay · 09/12/2017 14:42

Where did I say the experiences of other women are irrelevant? I didn't understand a part of your post, that's all. Thanks for clarifying.

tiptopteepe · 09/12/2017 14:45

I wasnt specifically referring to you sorry that was unclear. There are just a lot of posts on this thread which completely do seem to be implying that its only ever about humiliation and its impossible that any woman could genuinely enjoy it.

Ollivander84 · 09/12/2017 14:50

I'm 33 and it's vanilla to me. As long as it's not in my eyes or hair I don't mind at all
But if you don't want it then obviously say so, completely different thing if you're not keen

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