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Secondary School allocation day

174 replies

seeker · 02/03/2008 23:06

Is anyone waiting to hear tomorrow?

Just wanted to say it's a horrendous but you're nearly there! And it'll work out all right in the end even if you don't get the school you were hoping for. Good Luck!

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QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 04/03/2008 12:08

It's the not knowing that is the killer, isn't it? If you know, at least you can do something!!!

foofi · 04/03/2008 12:12

Hope you find out soon Leosdad.

Not sure yet what we will do about dd. We only have a couple of days to decide. Both schools have pluses and minuses, and I suppose if it all goes wrong we can always move her!

bellavita · 04/03/2008 12:14

Online yesterday and written confo today. Yippee - I only put down one school and no other choices so I was taking a chance, I am glad we were successful.

roisin · 04/03/2008 12:20

We've got in to our first choice school. (Fab, fab schoool. But very big.) We thought we had no chance, and has tentatively accepted a place at the independent school.

We're the furthest away, so if we've got in all his friends will have got in too.

But I think his best mate's mum wants his best mate to go to the inde school.

I know ds1 would love the inde school, but will probably do great at this one. And it will save us mega £££ over 5 years!

Oh, crikey decisions decisions. Need to chat with dh about this one!

annh · 04/03/2008 12:43

Cargirl, interested to hear about JH, in theory F would be our absolutely closest school but as we are Catholic SJB is our default choice and we should get in next year but who knows, the way the admissions process is going?!

QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 04/03/2008 13:57

Good news, Roisin.

leosdad · 04/03/2008 14:03

Postman has just brought the good news, was pretty certain but still needed to see it in black and white. So she can join DD in September.

foofi · 04/03/2008 14:40

Great news!

QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 04/03/2008 14:55

That's a relief for you, leosdad!

CarGirl · 04/03/2008 15:51

Hippi - Yr 4 is very young, his academic potential could change in 2 years - boys tend to mature later, some dc go on musical presentation provided they are expected level 4c at school that is enough academically.

annh - Salesian in Chertsey now taking catholics only (more or less) but think SJB has a better rep?

carolyn20 · 04/03/2008 16:11

Roisin - we're in same position. Dd got place at first choice - fantastic school - but has her heart set on independent. She's put so much into the whole process it seems cruel not to let her go to the school she really wants. We could just about afford it but it would be good to save the money!

GrapefruitMoon · 04/03/2008 16:53

good news Roisin and it's a nice (though tough) to have to make the decision!

PestoMonster · 04/03/2008 17:19

Hooray! We've got what we wanted . Such a relief after all these months of worrying.

ScienceTeacher · 04/03/2008 17:41

Annh - nice to see another local mum on here. I live pretty close to you too.

Cargirl, are you happy about your allocation. That's where Surrey offered us and sent us into the private system, which in retrospect I am glad about.

SJB has a great reputation; I'm not so sure about S. I think the dual site nature of the school causes a lot of difficulties.

CarGirl · 04/03/2008 17:59

I'm not unhappy with my allocation as it's a different school to what it was 3 years ago (I mean VERY different). It's all a bit academic as dd got her place at CH which is independent. I think H would have suited her better though being that she is very academically able and stands out at her small primary so may well stand out too much at a small secondary?

I forgot about S having a split site tbh!

swedishmum · 04/03/2008 19:01

I'm feeling better today having received ds's scores - he was fine on VR and NVR but missed by one point on maths. Maths is usually strong for him. Much more confident about an appeal given he is officially dyslexic. He found the format hard work - tracking from question paper to that silly computer marked multiple choice answer sheet. Fingers crossed for him please!

snorkle · 04/03/2008 19:22

that's so close swedishmum. good luck with the appeal - did they make any accomodations for his dyslexia in the exam at all?

citylover · 04/03/2008 19:24

stunned, shocked and amazed that DS1 has got first choice - above av local comp. All of our five choices were heavily oversubscribed. His best friend has also going to the same school.

Particularly so as we live in one of the inner london boroughs where a lower percentage get their first choice and some of the alternatives are dire.

So very pleased but still rather peed off that they and we have to go through all of this.

Phew

QueenMeabhOfConnaught · 04/03/2008 19:26

swedishmum, that sounds really promising. Fingers and toes crossed for your ds!!!

pooodle · 04/03/2008 20:54

well done citylover. system sucks doesnt it, this last 6 months has felt like 6 years at times. must be an easier/quicker way to allocate.

Celia2 · 05/03/2008 07:14

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shabster · 05/03/2008 08:04

DS4 got his second choice. Local borstal high school is only ten minutes walk away, but other than that I cant think of any good points!

Rang preferred high school and ask for a church attendance form to get our vicar to sign and the snotty cow said 'I note that you have only been going to church since September - well you need a minimum of 50 church attendances before we would even consider your son.'

Something that, strangely enough, the vicar didnt seem to know when we first went

DS4 said 'dont worry mum I will be fine. I am very clever and they are all numpties there so I will shine.'

600 children in our area alone (Bolton) did not get their first choice.

UnquietDad · 05/03/2008 10:54

How did the situation get so bad?

Maybe we only have ourselves to blame. By stressing over school "choice" as parents and actively moving our children away from local schools rather than supporting them, we become part of the problem, not part of the solution.

Looks at all the ways "out" there are:

Independent
Faith/church school
Grammar (if you have one)
Moving for decent catchment

Only after all that are we left with "the state school you are given", which is the final option for people who have no other, or to whom no other option would occur.

It winds me up no end when people talk about "the best". You know: "oh, yes, we are sending Tarquin and Jonty to St X's because, you know, we want the best for our children." First of all there's the underlying assumption that Tarquin and Jonty are, for some reason, entitled to something better than Shane and Ryan. Maybe they expect people to respond, "Oh, yes, we've always been happy with the mediocre for our children, which is why we're sending them to Kitchen Sink Comp."

Then there's the "she's so bright" syndrome. "Oh, yes, well, Tilly is so bright, that's why we have to send her to Lady Snodgrass High." Again, the temptation is to say, "Oh, well, DD is exceptionally stupid, which is why we're sending her to Bash Street."

When I speak to my mother about school "choice" issues, she comes out with - almost word-for-word every time - "well, I don't know, when we moved to X, your dad and i just went to see the head of the local school and it was no problem and..." You can guess the rest. I bet some of your mothers say the same.

Of course, the additional complication is that with other public services there are pretty much absolute criteria of "good" - clean hospital that gets you well again, clean regular bus that arrives on time, etc. With schools, it's a bit more subjective.

Sorry if this all sounds like a disjointed rant. Something about this time of year...

Blu · 05/03/2008 11:00

UQD - plus people - even very intelligent people - completely misunderstand statistics! And that a good schjool can still turn in average statistics...which doesn't mean that a bright child will come out with average results!

Anyway - not for this thread, really.

Am nail-biting in spirit alongside those of you still waiting or agonising about your allocation.

OrmIrian · 05/03/2008 11:10

I also think that what is surprising is how much inertia there is in the way school are viewed. Canal View High might have been appalling 10 years ago but had a change of head and be improving hugely. But it makes no odds to those who have it fixed in their minds as a failing school. Conversely St Snotty's might have fallen by the wayside. That happens a lot in our town where many of the parents of current pupils were educated here and have very fixed ideas of which schools are good and which are bad. Regardless of Ofsted.

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