I don't think she runs away on their wedding night, Ihadn't considered that reading of it. I just assumed that there was no intimacy between them at all and no love shown by her to him, but you are right mmzz that the timescale seems to be just two months after he chooses her (autumn) so maybe that is right.
But if you think that it is three years later that he "speaks" the poem, and he hasn't yet gone up to the attic, he seems more sympathetic.
The lack of communication is what he worries about, he is surprisingly eloquent himself as a narrator if you think about it, all that imagery, another thing which seems to make him sympathetic rather than controlling. He doesn't jsut want a worker, he wants a wife to love and baby. They don't understand each other but they have more in common than they think as he seems to love animals and understand their ways like her.
Ds2 has found his compass.
wrote this some time ago, then was interrupted, in case it is way out of synch...sorry..