GCSEs 2018 (3)

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Following on from:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/secondary/3113917-GCSEs-2018-2

Loose - yes, that's a useful reminder, thanks! I think we know this is how we should be helping him, but it's so damn frustrating and sometimes he is sooooo resistant. But, you're right, I think it is a form of coping strategy, as the whole thing is just too big for him to contemplate.
We've started printed off a weekly calendar to review together on a Sunday so we can see the week ahead, mark in any known events and homework deadlines and then fill some of the gaps with extra revision.
Part of the problem is that he isn't 'seeing' that homework has changed - they've been given past paper booklets to work through, but he is saying 'I haven't got any homework' and I'm having to go through all his files to work out what he's meant to be doing! The good teachers are copying me into emails about the schedule for this pre-exam period, but not all of them are.
I remember that thread about the Dad who chunked up all the revision topics - sounded exhausting, but this might be what we need to do!

Drained - no words of wisdom here - sorry. My Dd realises that she has to put allot of revision effort in on the subjects she wants to study for A Level otherwise she will have to study other subjects that she is not keen on.... I get exasperated because I know the school have really worked hard to give the girls everything they need to do well - the only thing they cannot do is make them focus and put in the effort.... I will if necessary write to DD's form tutor to ask her to have a word with DD if I feel its necessary but I'm hoping that she will self engage.

Drummer - I think you have summed up girls really well....

Stickerrocks - Exactly the right way to handle the situation and its great that you have such open communication with your DD...

Finally DD has said she would like a nice camera for her birthday - which I am really chuffed about - after exams I can see if i can arrange for her to attend a photography course...she does love to play the ukulele but I cant find any type of out of school club within her age range. Perhaps I should ask school to run a club because I know there are several girls who play.

Open communication...I think in the midst of her tears last night she blurted out too much information about what one of the young ladies is doing with her boyfriend. I keep pulling a face like I'm sucking a sherbet lemon! The little madams have helpfully posted about the fun they are all having this evening on their group chat to ensure DD knows all about it, but she's seen straight through it. Another app shut down and another night of Downton Abbey! Thank goodness my DB gave her a 26 DVD box set for her birthday. She can move onto 72 episodes of Poirot after that!

Drained we included a wipe clean magnetic weekly planner in DD'S birthday presents this week. It's far less daunting than a huge timetable. Is his school running after school revision classes yet? DD feels as though she has achieved something, but with relatively little effort, each evening that she goes to one.

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Time to move on again

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DD has been using some resources from a teacher website which may help ...I have copied the link...you do not need to buy of Amazon ...everything is free from the links on her website (she also does You Tube videos which appeal to kids) ....you basically add the revision guide which includes a timetable to the cart and take the next steps and a link comes through via email...Its 200 plus pages long .....free of charge...

www.primrosekitten.com/products/gcse-revision-pack?variant=1865319022616

Stickerrocks your DD is handling the situation really well and she will come out the other side much stronger and with a better idea of what qualities she values in future friends.

Drained you've been given great advice upthread. what I would add is try to make him aware that its his future and only he can make it happen, he's no longer a small child whereby you as his parents are going to be able to make everything right, if he doesn't get the grades for what he wants to do next then it will be solely down to him.

As you are already helping him you could say that its a two way process and if he isn't prepared to meet you half way then you are not prepared to carry on making all the effort. Does he have a plan B if not maybe get him to face that if he carries on as he is then one is needed. Good luck

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How many hours per week of revision are your dc doing on average now? Include past papers, school led revision, homework etc.

We've moved to the next thread, but I would say 1-2 hours per evening, heavily dependent upon whether or not the teacher provides snacks & biscuits after school!

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