Sixth-form girl living alone

[BoboChic]

Do you think that a private mixed sixth form should admit a new pupil who will be living alone in a small rented apartment during the week, returning home to her parents at the weekend?

Pallisers - I'm not naive - I made exactly that point

God you sound like such a snob. My kids went to two different state schools and both have a great sense of community

It is the responsibility of school and parents to create an environment propitious to exam success, notwithstanding the natural inclinations and experimentations of teenagers.

How pompous!

It is the responsibility of school to make sure the school environment is safe and fosters learning. They are categorically NOT responsible for a 6th form pupil at home. I don't care if it's a private school.

I love a drip drip goady thread!

so because it was secret they failed their exams?????

have the whole cohort spent all their fee time keeping that secret?

what a lot of tosh!

Can we get back to her selling her place for sex? she seems very enterprising for a girl out of her natural environment, and where did she learn all her wicked ways? Is this something you learn in state school, what with their not having a proper sense of community?

I bet she taught them all how to be so devious, aided and abetted by the wayward school, shirking their responsibilities. The shame!!

Only a school is responsible for creating a community. I realise this applies to private schools, not state schools.

Are you for real? Our local public schools are the heart of our communities. Once you opt out for private school, you miss a lot.

'Only a school is responsible for creating a community. I realise this applies to private schools, not state schools'

Are you actually serious? I thought I recognised your MN name but this has left me wondering if you're a troll?

They were all such well bred and mannered children before she rocked up with her state school "experience."....how were the other, the good and proper parents supposed to manage, faced with this enormous threat to their world. One teenage girl, who knew she could do so much damage.....

The school sounds like they are very unreliable. I think it's still dubious as to why they accepted this girls living arrangements but told her to keep it secret. Then there was obviously a situation yet they didn't get across it, or didn't show vigilance or exert the relevant pastoral care which includes getting the parents involved pronto. It's a small school so any ' situation ' is going to have impact.

The other DC s milked the set up. Party at hers! And all under the guise of " but the school said not to say anything " ....

And parents stitched up like kippers after thinking the kids were ' busy ' in the excellent academic environment they had paid through the teeth for.

Has lots of form Nerr, but surpassed themselves this time

Exactly, spiney. The school didn't do what parents expected = unreliable, and therefore parents are cross with it (not with the girl, though there is a certain amount of eyebrow raising at her parents' naivety).

OP you and other other parents are being utterly ridiculous, and the school were actually very sensible to advise her to keep her living situation to herself.

Do keep posting your justification for why the school was responsible for this entire cohort failing though it's quite amusing!

I suspect the school and the parents were both a bit naive and their combined naivety created a supervision loophole that the teenagers readily exploited.

titchy - it's quite legitimate for parents to ask probing questions about the underperformance of a single cohort at A-level, more particularly when that cohort did very well at GCSE.

Did they do the report in triplicate?

I don't think the school was responsible for the low grades. God knows you can lead a horse to water etc with teenagers and exams. No . But it sounds unreliable and poor at handling the situation.

The school has a responsibility for managing the cohort and creating the environment for it to perform in line with realistic expectations. When those realistic expectations are not met, parents are perfectly entitled to ask probing questions of their DC and the school in order to establish what unusual circumstances might explain the inhabitual underperformance.

Naw the parents of the kids dropped the ball. I'll guarantee the lessons were taught in school just like every other year

There is a lot more to a school than lessons.

So, I'm getting confused. What's the real problem here?

is the girl the problem? The fact that she crashed out in her first year at uni? Which is completely unrelated to anything? Let alone what she did at school 2 years earlier?

Or are the other parents getting in a tizz? That the a levels last year weren't up to spec? The grades were bad, because her fellow students were shagging at her pad?

And he other parents want to know why the grades were bad that year?

Good question Oblomov. From a starting point of this...

Do you think that a private mixed sixth form should admit a new pupil who will be living alone in a small rented apartment during the week, returning home to her parents at the weekend?

The problem remains the one in the OP.

Why would I care? What any other student does?
IF I had a dd, who was about to start her a levels, I'd be interested in HER.
Not anyone else. Where they live, or what job they do, or whether they eat kale or go digging! Or dogging.

I care if my daughter is ok, happy, progressing, good grades.

If she goes to a party at said girls flat on a Friday night, no parental supervision, that's a different minor concern. I will decide what parties my dd can go to on the basis of that party alone.

Doesn't affect French lesson, or geography, next week.

This thread is insane.