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Sixth-form girl living alone

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BoboChic · 16/03/2017 10:13

Do you think that a private mixed sixth form should admit a new pupil who will be living alone in a small rented apartment during the week, returning home to her parents at the weekend?

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BoboChic · 17/03/2017 13:08

Gossip is the very essence of humanity.

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FrancisCrawford · 17/03/2017 13:10

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hippyhippyshake · 17/03/2017 13:12

Lol at this non-existent 'trust' that has somehow been betrayed!

Annesmyth123 · 17/03/2017 13:12

Difference is the essence of humanity.

John Hume. Nobel peace prize winner.

Hth

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BoboChic · 17/03/2017 13:19

Yet another non-sequitur from Annesmyth. You must be very annoying to live with, the way you derail any exchange when you get caught out Wink

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Annesmyth123 · 17/03/2017 13:22

I didn't get caught out you did.

gobbelinothewitchescat · 17/03/2017 13:31

So OP if this is really nothing but gossip, and we have no real facts to back anything up, it's no doubt highly exaggerated and only half the story. There's no point debating who's responsible when no one except the people involved know what actually happened that resulted in her poor exam results - if she even achieved poor results! It sounds like your friend is looking for a scapegoat for their own dc poor results.... perhaps she should better invest her one in teaching her children to take responsibility for their own mistakes if their exam results are poor, not finding someone else to blame and spreading malicious gossip....

WateryTart · 17/03/2017 14:26

Clearly the parents who are now challenging the school believed that there was that rule.

Then they were daft.

I refuse to believe anyone is as dim as the OP is pretending to be.

DioneTheDiabolist · 17/03/2017 14:27

It is more than gossip though. It is malicious and prolonged gossip about a child. It is the abdication of responsibility of parents. It is the spreading of misinformation. And it is the scapegoating of state educated Mary for the failure at university of a whole year group of Tarquins and Aramintas. And the hope that this college will never again admit such corrupting riff raff.Hmm

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BoboChic · 17/03/2017 14:29

Dione - you seem to be under the illusion that the girl was poor and/or disadvantaged in some way. That wasn't the case.

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Annesmyth123 · 17/03/2017 14:31

Ok. So what has been the premise of the thread if it wasn't to call out her difference by being state educated catholic and living on her own in a rented flat?

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BoboChic · 17/03/2017 14:34

The question in the OP.

There has never been any suggestion that this girl was poor/disadvantaged and that ought to be pretty obvious given that her parents were paying for a flat and school fees. Clearly there is some feeling among parents that she was a spoiled princess who was not a hard worker and they didn't understand what she was doing at the school.

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Annesmyth123 · 17/03/2017 14:36

The school were taking her parents money. Same as they were for everyone else.

Your friends sound like insufferable snobs. Sorry.

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BoboChic · 17/03/2017 14:37

If there was an "Araminta" character it was the girl, not the existing pupils.

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spanieleyes · 17/03/2017 14:38

Presumably she was at the school being educated!

This gets worse! She is now a "spoiled princess" who has blighted the lives of those around her ( although quite how she managed to do that when she and the others in her cohort were at (presumably) different universities, I'm not quite sure!)

DioneTheDiabolist · 17/03/2017 14:39

Given that her family were able to send her to private 6th form and rent a place for her, I was under no such illusion. You however seem to be under the illusion that it was due to this girl's presence in 6th form, that other pupils ballsed up at university.

Goodasgoldilox · 17/03/2017 14:41

I am not sure that school get a say in this - no school has ever checked that I live in a house with my children... they just assume that it is so as I show responsibility for them.

The landlord might not be happy though!

It is different living alone at 16 alongside other workers- a mix of children and adults.

If you live alone alongside those who have parental supervision, then you can expect other students (children) to see your place as 'freedom without responsibility'.

This can be a lot to carry at 16.

Not all 16 year olds have the sort of authority they need to say 'no' to peers.

grannytomine · 17/03/2017 14:42

I know someone who was living alone in sixth form, their parents died during the summer after GCSEs. I suppose the school should have booted such a dangerous pupil out.

Annesmyth123 · 17/03/2017 14:42

You,can be disadvantaged and have all the money in the world. You can still be disadvantaged. Having disinterested disengaged parents who haven't any interest in your life and what you're doing is a pretty big disadvantage.

Kinda like all those kids have.

FrancisCrawford · 17/03/2017 14:45

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Trifleorbust · 17/03/2017 15:01

Either the OP is more involved than she is letting in, or she is a decidedly odd fish Hmm

FrancisCrawford · 17/03/2017 16:30

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CrowyMcCrowFace · 17/03/2017 20:34

I teach at (& my children attend) a very, very highly regarded international school.

Many of the students are left at home with supervision from paid staff - the younger siblings' nanny & the driver, would be typical - during the week.

They have mates I don't allow sleepovers with because I know it'll be Party House.

My circus, my monkeys, at this stage (eldest is year 8). Entirely my bad if I did allow them to be spending nights with friends in inadequately supervised circumstances.

By the time they are 16 I will expect them to be responsible young adults who can manage a night out at a friend's without adult supervision. Again, if this causes problems: that would be my problem & theirs.

Good grief. The very idea of blaming the school because one's 16+ child is getting up to dickens outside of school!

Hilarious. I'll have failed spectacularly as a parent if the inevitable existence of a friend's Party House is why they crash their IB.

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