I think DDs school want her out

[lucydaniels4658]

DD 14 attends an academy school. She is achieving very low grades 3c-4a . She has ADHD and dyslexia . In the last few months they seem to be targeting DD . DD is no angel but she has never bullied anyone sworn smoked etc . Her crime not concentrating and being a bit disruptive (chatty ). Previous schools have dealt with it well simply by refocussing her . They tell her she is going to be permanently excluded then wonder why she has become more defiant and off with them .I know there are students much more challenging but achieve higher grades and they don't get harassed. They call me many times a day over things like her shirt was untucked ,she had gum really trivial minor things that don't warrant the sanctions and calls home.Where as some classmates truant and swear and nothing.Even her classmates ask teacher why they only tell DD off . When i complain they more or less say im the problem and they are trying to "correct her behaviour" and i make it difficult. Sadly moving her isn't an option in the area i'm in. I'm so desperate i'm considering homeschooling but she'd hate it she is very sociable . I have made official complaint and outcome was they are doing their job i'm preventing them. What would you do?!!

Dayshift oh on re-reading I see there can be a problem with parents accessing provision maps, if they are not individual. I was assuming individual provision mapping, as individual top up funds are applied for, but perhaps they can be censored, so that they only show the information relating to one child?

I do think it is a good thing that schools will be help more accountable, to the LA, at the very least (because they do not receive top up if they cannot demonstrate a spend) in terms of how they are spending SEN funds. Previously a school received individual funds from Statements and could spend them on what they wanted, in theory, as long as no one complained the Statement was not been upheld (difficult to prove if you are not there round the clock).

OP have a look at your council's website, they should have a "local offer" detailing the support available and the updated SEN policies in light of recent changes. It might be of help to you and perhaps point you towards someone who can assist you.

Sorry I got embroiled in child stuff yesterday

Capsium - yes I did mean individual access - I possibly didn't make myself clear.

I don't dispute that OP needs to take advice but unless you, as a parent, are doing what you can then it is very easy for professionals to shift the blame on to you. Realising that and realising that battling stuff I couldn't change (like the fact that the teacher is young / inexperienced) was a waste of energy changed things for me. I do and have challenged plenty of things I don't agree with and IPSEA and local parent partnership are brilliant but I absolutely choose my battles and no matter how wrong the other party is my attitude and approach is the thing I can really change.

And I really like the new code though I think the period of transition will be interesting. Totally agree with your comments. I probably came across negative as it's frustrating that there has been more publicity about this and it leaves parents on the back foot.

No worries Dayshift.

Hmm, I wonder why there has not been more publicity...especially over aspects like individual budgets and the need for proper Provision Mapping within schools.

And I agree with being shown to do all the right things. It does makes me laugh when there are things on IEPs which are for the parent to do at home. How does this detail the provision a school are making, in order to legally comply with a Statement?

The schools set themselves up in an 'advisory capacity' with one breath and then with the next, complain about inadequate training in SEN.

Individual budgets are a PR myth. They don't 'actually' exist for anything they didn't before I.e transport and social care.

I challenge you to find a single family in the country who is getting individual budgets for anything else that didn't get it without a Judicial Review. Councils can and do refuse requests with no reason, because they are allowed to.

I agree with you Starlight, it's compete bollocks. After a fuck up with my sons transport I rang the council and said "I want to speak to someone about obtaining a personal budget for my sons transport", I spoke to FIVE different people who didn't know what the fuck I was talking about, and ended up being transferred to child protection before I gave up! I posted somewhere else about them offering me 20p a mile petrol expenses but that's a different thread.