Downsizing to educate privately - any pearls?

[Tiredbutstanding]

Here's my (sorry, long) dilemma- do I sell up to go private for secondary or not?

We have attended our school for 3 years. Eldest DD is Y4, and there is STILL no weekly or bi-weekly academic homework and definitely NO maths written sheets. We get 30 mins every 2-3 weeks - mostly to look something up on the internet, and write a few paragraphs. Our 'homework' for this TWO WEEK PERIOD is to cut out a hut from a pattern, and stick some foliage on it for a class project. I kid you not.

My DD has needed extra maths this year as she has gaps in yr 2 and 3 maths which were not spotted until year 4 (along with many other children). We now have a tutor to assist.

I have met with/written to, the head, governors etc, to ask for voluntary homework - to no avail. Subsequently ....as the school does not seem to respect homework, neither do my children!! So when it lands, it is a BATTLE to get them to do it. The first attempt is AWFUL and worries me incredibly that this is what they actually produce at school. Yet when 'encouraged' they do a really good job, and the work is of a high standard. (We do now of course do our own homework to make up the shortfall but as it is 'mum' making them do it, and not the school, it is perceived as less valid and even 'unfair/unnecessary').

Why I don't pull them out and go elsewhere?...because we had SUCH a horrendous time when we moved 3 years ago. Also, to be fair to the Head, the year 6 results for the school are good and he says to 'have faith'. It is true that their maths results were 100% Level 4 maths, and about 50% Level 5. So a small miracle may happen - hence we'll stay at this school and do our best for them via home learning.

But for secondary - should we sell the house, and downsize to go private (to a non selective private school). I fear that this LACK of self discipline (that the school is, if not engendering, at least not preventing) is potentially going to fail both DD's at secondary- just when you need to be well motivated to flourish amongst 30 per class, and 8 classes of 30 per year.....

Should say here that if we go private the current lifestyle will have to go too (like many parents). (I went private as my parents knew I was a lazy monkey and I can see the same in my kids!! However it forced me to work hard and later gain a good career......and I've been eternally grateful for this.

Any pearls for me?

Wordfactory. I said it was ill judged and poisonous.

I don't think that it's okay for other posters to do the same - neither does exotic, that's why she's apologised, I should think.

And to be fair, it was Maypole who said that, so I wasn't unduly upset....

I missed that, so apologies seeker

Apology accepted, word factory.

"We've struggle to pay for private prep, due to housing costs and 4 kids mainly but anyway. Every time i've tried to look at state since I cannot bear the thought of going back, the difference really is that great, the whole ethos is so very different.
I hear what the kids down the road get up to at the state school my DC's used to attend and I cringe, it's pathetic at the age of 9 they aren't doing basic maths."

I agree with Bunbaker don't assume all state schools are the same. Two of DC1's friends are working at level 7 in maths and DC1 as recently started working at level 6

has recently started

Clever kids are served very well by good state schools. The ones that bumble along in the middle are usually completely ignored. Private school comes into its own for those kids. I'd definitely downsize to keep my kids at private school because I think it is better than the state options here.