Husband pissed himself, again

The fact he has turned the cushion over rather than clean it shows his contempt for the family. He will literally rather have his children or wife sir in his piss than deal with it or admit it.

he hates you all. This abusive arsehole hates you and his children. He just doesnt give a rats ass.

Well I suppose you have options, you can cry and wait until he does it again OR you can decide enough is enough and you no longer want to share your life with a so called adult who wets his pants and wees under the table.

Honestly his behaviour is just so disgusting that I hope this is a wind up.

Not to sound harsh, but there's no point relaying his responses to us. We know what they will be, as do you, as you've been through it all before. You've even got a handy thread to refer back to, should you wish to tick any of the responses off as they happen.

This is your life, and your children's lives and home. Only you can decide if this is something you can put up with. The watch out for you, is that you can make the choice for yourself and feel at peace with it, but if you make the decision for your kids they could end up resenting you both.

To be perfectly honest OP, I have absolutely zero sympathy for you. You're expecting your kids to live with this nonsense and it's nothing any child should have to live with. I would love to see what would happen if one of your children down the line drank so much alcohol that they came home and soiled themselves all over the house. I'm sure you'd react to that, therefore I am unsure what the difference is with your husband, but there we go.

For now, whilst you insist on expecting your children to live in this absolute shit show, being exposed to piss and now probably smelling of it everytime they sit on the sofa (let's hope the school don't start querying why they are coming in smelling of stale piss), I'd suggest that you buy a pack of adult nappies and ask him to wear one in future.

Unfortunately I think that this post says it all.

Ps Like another pp I witnessed a parent do this as a result of alcohol abuse, more than once. I can't overstate the sense of guilt and shame I felt. It's something that no child should have to go through.

This. I'm not sure why you keep telling us this OP?- whats the point?

You know he's an abusive arsehole and so do we. But you clearly arent going to do anything about it so I dont really see the point in us gasping in horror at his responses because nothing is going to change is it?

There are no consequences for his actions.
You said lat year was the final straw but that's not true, there have been more final straws since.
He is an alcoholic. He needs to stop drinking. You need to protect your children and leave.

Being an alcoholic is about an u healthy relationship with alcohol not about having to drink all day everyday. I agree with pp, it's AA or divorce

I read threads like this and I'm shocked people live this way honestly. I would never tolerate behaviour like this in my family home with children in it. Either leave him or accept the fact your man child will p*ss all over your furniture for the foreseeable 🙄😷

You and your children need to get out of that disgusting house for the day.

Once he's at work tomorrow you need to clean the place so that it's an acceptable home for your children. And put his stuff outside so he can ruin a home that children don't share.

I despair. Your DCs don’t deserve to have to live in a urine-soaked environment because their father is a drunken arse. I imagine that when their schoolmates and teachers get to hear then maybe something will happen as clearly you’re not going to protect them.
Absolutely revolting 🤢

If he's not even sorry or remorseful that's hour answer isn't it? Sorry your houn through this

I had an ex partner who did this - a grown man in his forties - By day ge was charming and attractive but every evening was spent drinking .. then he’d wake to soaked bed sheets and blame everyone but himself .. he even tried to blame me accusing me of stressing him out . Thankfully discovering that he was seeing someone else helped me to walk away and bizarrely the woman he cheated on me with actually contacted me a year later to ask me if the drinking and bed wetting was an ongoing thing… I didn’t even bother to reply , leaving was the best thing I ever did (thank fully we didn’t live together and he wasn’t very local )
he will never change , he won’t accept he has s problem and he’s showing nothing but contempt for you and your children . He’s an addict who won’t get help- walk away because believe me you will be so much happier .. you AND your children

Deeeeeesgusting
leave him, it isn’t ultimatum time, that was last time. This time it’s divorce time. Stick to your word, leave this man.

Not all problems with alcohol look like the stereotype of an alcoholic. If he's drinking in a way which makes him piss himself (and everything that goes with that, including the threat of losing his marriage) that is a problem with alcohol.

I'd leave, OP. Al-Anon might be helpful for you.

This was my dad when I was a teenager. My mum is a complete martyr and they're still together. Despite repeatedly telling her my boundaries (I.E don't bitch about him to me, I dealt with it growing up and don't need to deal with it now I'm an adult and left home years ago) she still paints the picture of poor neglected wife and horrible husband. The fact is when he's behaved she's happy as a clam, so his shit parenting and occasional pissing himself/being beaten up/not coming home/being AWOL or hung over at Christmas should be skirted over. He is an idiot, but she should have left him years ago for me if not herself. It's hard to be sympathetic to her. Be careful you don't end up thinking you're setting an example to your children of being the good parent. Neither are in these situations, even if the kids don't realise it until they're young adults.

I thought marriage covered 'in sickness and in health.'

This isn't sickness, is selfish dickhead behaviour.

An addiction is a sickness.

But not "clearing up someone's piss because they can't be arsed"?

Well not specifically

I've been with 2 alcoholics, both who would wet themself and I can honestly say, it NEVER changes.
I left both of them and am so thankful I did.
Now with a wonderful DH

So the op should just put up with abusive behaviour from a man who doesn't care about her or her children then?