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Nope, sorry...I'm her to stay for a while longer and I'm certainly not 'wasting time' on you. Shush.
Do not worry about the crying and shouting.
Hmm, a "cold" person wouldn't do that would they?
Right. An affair. Four years ago that lastest for two, assuming that he is telling you the truth.
He hasn't told you everything yet I fear, going back to damage limitation on his part, he clearly wants to keep the door ajar so is being careful not to divuldge too much.
"that's hardly relevant now"? To him? No. To you? Yes. That is the point in you trying to discuss it.
Look at your notes and mark any points you didn't get to cover. You need to keep adding things as they arrise too.
His friends agree with him? Please. How spineless. He's been discussing his woes with his mates down the pub and tells you they think he's right?
Did he not agree to have the girls? Did you not both plan you life out together? Was he never party to any decisions made?
Pha. Poor man.
He is still projecting his guilt onto you. this has built over a peroid of time but what doesn't add up for me is that it has taken him four years to decide you are having an affair.
Back to my earlier point that he has more to tell.
Of course your a mess. Your life as you knew it on Wednesday evening is no more. He left with no indication if you would ever see him again.
You didn't panic re the money, you reacted to him leaving out of the blue, with no inication of how long for, you had to provide for the girls and yourself.
You knew nothing. What does he expect?
Seperation. You said it, well done!
Now you need to take control. This won't just blow over after the summer holidays. Is he mad?
He can't just walk back into your lives whenever it suits him.
No, he can't and you mustn't let him.
So, he's packing to go where?
And then what.....how have you left things?