Starting why not buy all the clothes you want if you can afford it and it gives you pleasure after all with the limitations of having young dcs you have to take pleasure where you can get it !! Btw a playdate at 7am ... times have obviously changed since my dcs were small !
I too had a lot of family photos on the walls and they have just sort of gradually been taken down my dcs at 13 and 11 would have found it a bit harsh I think if I had just whipped them down straight away. In fact there is still a 10 year old photo of us all lurking in a corner on the upstairs landing , I dont know why but it doesnt bother me.
When I stayed with Mum last she had done a picture montage with various small photos in including a wedding day one of me and every time I went to the sink in the kitchen my eye would be drawn to it because needless to say I havent looked at my wedding pictures. I hope by the time I next visit she will have redone it.
Anyway my night last night was a great success not least because it was nice to do something different. By the time we got there it was packed and everyone was chatting away in groups which I found a bit intimidating as we were all single so you think how come these people all know each other but of course thats the whole point to approach new people ..not my strong suit but no problem to my friend .
I think it made a big difference to be there without feeling oooh I really want to meet someone and so I was quite relaxed and started chatting to a guy and sat down next to him and thats where I stayed for the night
Dumplings there wasnt much to feast your eyes on and I briefly thought of exh and ow and how he has it all worked out and how I need to navigate the choppy waters of these situations to meet someone new.
I had my first speed dating experience (you came out of the party to a separate bit)omg I just found it so fake. Also it further proved my theory of how men just adore talking about themselves as I got in each time with a question first and that took care of the 3 minutes . One guy accused me of being a troll as I had come with a single friend and he said he thought it was awful these happily married women coming to these events toying with men there. Well fellow dumplings you all know I have more than earnt my right to be there and so I told him sweetly that actually my husband had dumped me at Christmas leaving me with 2 dcs. Fucking wanker soon shut him up.
What was nice though is I spent most of the night talking to a rather dishy man who called me gorgeous TWICE and asked me questions about me and wait for this..listened to the answers!! He took my number but who knows what will come of it. Tbh hes younger than me never been married no dcs and all in all I cant see how the lack of basic common ground would be overcome. Also I think I might be taller than him which I would have a real problem with . Anyway as I say doubt I will actually here from him , listening to my friends experiences where men seem keen as mustard promising to call etc and you never hear another word.
Anyway get my dcs back early today and now have them until 10th August solidly which is lovely. Exh goes on holiday on wednesday for 10 days and I think the knowledge that I wont see him or hear from him during that time will be a welcome break after the trials of recent weeks.