ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 5

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity.

True dumpling power AB, one step at a time, you did a good thing there

Waves to all......

I equally am struggling to keep up with thread. Notice everyone is saying good luck to Armbow for tonight so I will add my best wishes also but have no idea what for . Am guessing you must be having a chat with h?

Tough, great to see you so positive & making plans for future. Hope access goes ok at w'end.

Happy, hope things are a bit less stressful for you atm

Party, agree the whole internet dating thing is a bit demoralising, might be joining you soon in taking down my profile again

Mumfum, after 10 texts last night I got a reality check & threw a bucket of cold water on the situation as suggested .

Tomorrow is my first child free day & night in about 12mts, thanks to my mother. I have hair booked for tomorrow afternoon & spa booked for fri morn, yippee. Now here's the dilema & can't believe I'm going to post this on an open forum. Have been cleaning house for past two & half hrs & thinking to myself wouldn't it really finish off things nicely if I popped in a bit of s*x too ..........

At this point I feel the need to say I never even endulged in this behaviour in my youth. I was a nice catholic girl saving it for marriage but in light of where that got me I'm having serious thoughts of going a bit astray tomorrow night.............opinions??

Hmm would this mean a quick one with MD or?

Armbow, that sounds great, good on you & really hope you do manage to hold onto that feeling of empowerment

Happy, was actually thinking of heading in the direction of puppy ............

So many choice so little time

Can it be done with no strings?

Happy, a quick one with MD would prob lead to love & complications again on his part. Also as stamped (mammy tattoo) he's still a boy. Puppy on the otherhand is a man & accepts where I'm at. No complications attached even though I know he'd love more if I was offering it (i.e. a relationship)

OMG What do I sound like, did I ever think I'd see the day........... [horror]

Well, if you think you can handle it, maybe go for it? Praps a quick text and see where it goes?

starting - my thoughts exactly, on a second date early next week, but think that's a bit soon for a romp, but then again, it's been a while!

tough - i was going to ask the same question about surnames i would change mine but i don't want a different surname from the kids. what do you think?

starting - have a lovely day tomorrow

party - just being away from h since saturday has helped me enormously, cutting contact really does help.

waves to mumfun and happy.

Good for you AB

Could do with a spa treatment myself Startin ...enjoy !

No they will keep their daddys ,it just irks me now if i have to give my name or get called Mrs *** will you stay a mrs AB ?Did you see a lawyer i cant remember

AB it helped me enormously, that's why I can now go out on dates and contemplate sex with men other than exh, the first time (except ONS about a month ago, I did know him, not a pick up in a club) in 26 years I've wanted to do this.

Onwards and upwards to happier times.

Tougher - I am keeping my Mrs... name. I've had it longer than I had my maiden name. Don't see any reason to change it back.

Party, tg there's someone else posting about s*x . I've known puppy for 12yrs & MD for about 5. Know them both really really well as friends so it's kind of safe & easier to cross that line...........

I actually never changed my surname to Mrs Twunt but since marriage I use a mixture of both. Mrs Twunt for school & stuff to do with dc's.......

I will keep my name. I like to have the same name as the DCs.

Starting, if you don't go for it may I suggest you splash out on electronic support and post a review

thought of sex with other men freaks me out

(whispers) as you can guess i got together with h when i was very young and ... well you can guess the rest

Tried & tested, electronic support is really not the same thing at all............

Starting - I think sex is important and I like it, never an issue with me and exh even when he was shagging around, he could go on and on.
So I miss it now.
I am concerned though about date next week, not that I think it will be on the agenda so soon but you never know.
I worry about how I look, will I be any good, having sex with the same man since being 18/19 is hardly a guide to ones expertise, but exh never complained either.
Maybe I should go with the flow and see what happens.

Armbow, as per my post above I wasn't much different & am struggling with catholic guilt big time but dear god 2 yrs down the line & not much prior to that & am really feeling the need...............

Party, I think at lot of men would have the same fears so good idea to just go with the flow......

Think my xh was worn out from his activities on the side & I most definitely suffered the consequences there

Good for you that you've such a good attitude about sex. I might adopt that for tomorrow night . Just look at it as satisfying a need..........

Absolutely Starting, my thoughts exactly, I am definitely not looking for a serious relationship, I have told date that, just someone to enjoy the company of, nights out etc.
Armbow - It's quite surprised me, the recent change in my outlook, a couple of months ago I would have been horrified at the thought.

I cant imagine I wont ever sleep with another man,but way to soon for me ,need a bit of healing time but wishing everyone all the best .
it is just like taking the first legal steps .you are saying that chapter is over and you are single again.Just think now that i am seeing h in a truer light that its not that i lost the man that i married i just dont think he was ever truly there in the first place.

Party, I think my attitude is starting to change big time aswell due to my marriage breakup. Was thinking tonight it could be another 12mts before I get a night away from dc's. It's not ideal, I would much prefer to be back with xh before all this crap but I am where I am.............

Tough, I'm not really sure if mine was ever there to begin with either . I think it's a lot easier to think or have sex with someone else when you h/xh has already moved on in that dept. It brings another type of finality to it all...........