I dont suppose any of you would like to join the socially awkward society I am going to start?

[MumofTrioTrioIwanaTrioIwant1NW]

free membership Or is it just me?

Am annoyed at myself for being socially awkward (several instances today in company),

I do try thats the annoying thing I just dont seem to be able to be anything else! pah!

Please come cheer me up somehow

Come in, and don't mind the letterbox, the spring's knackered.

There's plenty of room here for everyone.

ps just laughed my head off at your

thats the sort of thing I do!!

Its not my thread I was just unusually brave and started it

honestly it really isnt my thread the more chat here the better!!!

and I dont like being a leader so lets all chip in ha ha

ps, he he to knackered letter box lol

X post! Bah!

I wouldn't mind the pointing-out-sundry-marks but my mum's house isn't pristine either - I must have inherited dodgy cleaning genes, so technically not my fault. So there Blame Transfer Complete

I did that quiz years ago whilst still in gainful employment, so I don't know if it's still available. It was 2005 so may not even be in their archives. I used to spend my lunch hour doing online quizzes which told you just how introverted you were, and so on. Which I was, because everyone else was out shopping or lunching together.

I wouldn't mind finding it again, or something similar, just to see if I've improved since DS. (Prob not but I do try harder)

Is there tea made yet? I'm that parched!

I'm doing it, I'm doing it

.. ow

Oops. Never mind, I would have spilled it onto the biscuit plate as well.

Sit down and tell us all about it, if you like.

ha ha ha

ah I love this crazy thread

bet you eished you hadnae bothered joining now eh comedy only kidding I can tell already youre part of the furniture!

lazer, were you chatting me up there
ha ha ha

I worry about you mrs

kidding!!!

Ok. So I'm fine one-to-one, or two at the most.

But in a bigger group, I get nervous and fall to pieces. Like I'm suddenly possessed by a mad woman and come out with the most ridiculous embarrassing gibberish

Dinner parties strike the fear of god into me

I'm dreading the school gates in september

I think I've said enough now

That was cathartic.. thank you! I'll be back

Oh ..... they've all gone to bed.

Yes, COE, dinner parties are extremely stressful. My neighbours soon realize that I have nothing to say worth listening to and quickly engage in conversation with the person on their other side for the entire meal. I am just left there with nothing to do but eat, so I finish my food too quickly and then I really have nothing to do.

I'll just tidy up the cushions and wash up.

Morning all

Especially you Mumoftrio, cos I lu-urve yew

Morning. Slept well last night.. like a weight's been lifted

I've brought some blinis for us to pick at during the day and some pimms for later

Morning all
CofE What are blinis? I guess I'll try one, not good with anything new not just people!

Blini are little pancake thingies aren't they?

Isn't it awful when you go to someone's party and they are serving only one kind of food, e.g. Moroccan, which you don't really like? Was invited to DH's pal's house for Chinese which is fine for us, but they didn't say it was all seafood.

The embarrassment of having to say I didn't do seafood - there was some plain rice fortunately - and they said Oh are you allergic? Wish I'd had the courage to lie rather than admitting to just being repelled by not liking it

Then they handed out CHOPSTICKS
(Die of shame once again at the memory of having to ask for a fork )

Oh yes Laser I know what that feels like. A bit daft of them to serve just seafood when it's a fairly common dislike.

Having flashbacks to this worky networking buffet thing - always takes my social anxiety to a whole different level - trying to skillfully coordinate plate, fork, glass and folder and make impressive and confident small talk with intimidating strangers. In my panic, without looking properly, I shoved in what turned out to be a far too large canape. Could hardly close my mouth to chew and I knew my cheeks were bulging greedily.. couldn't speak for about 15 minutes.. the looks I got still make me

Anyway yes mini pancake things, they're not bad. Quite small and easy to bite in half so no danger of a repeat of the above. I've done cream cheese and smoked salmon on these ones and gruyere and bacon lardons on the others. What do you think?

Blinis sound gorgeous, will have one of each thanks

Oh noooooo-ooooo Comedy!

Quick, have some Pimm's now! I don't know which is worse - socialising at work or at parties. Having to eat in front of strangers you need to impress is particularly gut-wrenching, even if you don't make an mistake on food selection. (Surely we've all done that sort of thing? It's worse when you make a jokey remark about it - to relieve your stress levels really - and you get blank looks rather than polite laughter.)

Or like seenyourtoes says, your neighbours talk around you during a meal (hideous behaviour!)

< Ideal Home?? Who brought that?>

Yes sorry SYTL - I had meant to say, neighbours talking around you at dinner is just extremely rude, makes you feel conspicious and lonely at the same time

But I bet you have plenty to say that's worth listening to.

Right who's for pimms?

Ho yes, conspicuous and lonely sums it up perfectly - so much so that it reminded me of when I went on a course and at the end of the first day, on the train home, myself and the only other girl were sitting talking about stuff. Then one of the lads (from the course) walked down the train, sat opposite the other girl, and talked to her for the rest of the journey. Didn't say a single word to me, just blanked me completely. I felt a total lemon and thought him a complete arse.

Truthfully, no matter how much I didn't gel with someone else's conversation, I could never not feign interest. Others will have done me the favour multiple times to spare my feelings. Besides, it's better than nobody talking to you

Steady on lovey, enough ice now. Top up the Pimm's.

(Yeah right, this from someone who feels wobbly after one bottle of beer - two years of being pg & bf have rendered me hopelessly unable to hold any alcohol)

Anybody still around?

ello ello ladies

I love reading all your posts and catching up!!

pass me pimms please I need about a pint have had a shitty day and am feeling pretty shitty in myself

NOw thats honesty for ya ha ha

Here you go mumoftrio - nice big pint.

You ok?

thanks

not really feel so crap at coping with life sometimes, though admittedly if I told you all that was on my plate (boring) it IS alot.

and I get prone to depression and am always half like 'uhoh' am I about to get depressed

cheery arent i

burp! sorry

laser - don't think I am posh or sociable enough to move in dinner party circles. sounds v poncy though to only serve seafood and only have chopsticks readily available (assuming hosts not Chinese/Japanese)

am feeling somewhat mellower than usual as had 3 glasses of wine at friends BBQ. now if only I could replicate that chatty feeling without drinking too much wine!!! must admit that I do resort to lots of strong coffee on days at work when I have to do lots of phone calls, as that makes me more talkative..

Tea and much sympathy for mumoftrio - would you like another refill? Name any drink... if it helps tell us about your lousy day

We used to go to black-tie dos & charity dinner dances a lot, and those really awful institution dinners that the boss made you go to. (Not like military ones where you are rubbing shoulders with proper posh people.) Prefer those to parties though

I don't know why the chopsticks were de rigueur, I was totally taken aback. It was a kind invitation to DH and I, as it was a family dinner really, so I don't want to be too harsh to them. English family so quite bewildering. If it had been ours I would have put forks on the table too, without pressure either way. But then I've never had the courage to host anything, apart from DS's 1st birthday "party" which was really a drinks & nibbles afternoon spent looking out at the pouring rain.