I dont suppose any of you would like to join the socially awkward society I am going to start?

[MumofTrioTrioIwanaTrioIwant1NW]

free membership Or is it just me?

Am annoyed at myself for being socially awkward (several instances today in company),

I do try thats the annoying thing I just dont seem to be able to be anything else! pah!

Please come cheer me up somehow

Sad news re the jelly babies, had an attack of conscience and passed the survivors to DH.

However I will rob one for you - what flavour do you prefer?

Appreciate school hols will be a reprieve. What sort of things will you do with DS to fill the time? Only thought of Aquatots for ourselves, child will be growing fins soon

Ooh jelly babies. Suppose there are none left now. Suppose that's the problem with being asleep when the packet is being passed around

I only found this thread last night but it looks like I've joined too late!

I can identify so much with what's been said already. I put off doing so many things because I'm worried about...well, I don't know what I'm worried about really. Just the thought of having to walk in somewhere on my own where everyone knows everyone else. Nightmare. So I find excuses not to do it.

My socially awkward 'things' are a) Trying to say something but instead about three different things try to come out at once and I end up burbling out something incomprehensible. God, it's excruciating when that happens. If I'm ringing someone I have to work out what my first sentence is going to be and stick to it otherwise it all goes horribly wrong. I hate phones.

The other one is that I'm always worried that someone is going to get the wrong end of the stick about something I've said so I have this compulsive need to overexplain in great detail just so some complete stranger doesn't go away thinking something about me that isn't true. Eg, I was in the hairdressers once with DS and someone asked if he looked like my husband. I stuttered out something about not being married. She said 'well, your partner then' and I was like 'Oh, I'm not with anyone..I'm single' rather than just saying 'Yes, he does look a bit like his Dad especially round the mouth'. Would it really matter if she thought I was with his Dad when I'm not? Gah!

Mumoftrio, what you've done for the school is amazing but it must be so hard when noone has stepped over and stood by your side so to speak. And bloody awful to feel like everyone believes a version of events that isn't true. If it were me and if even one person came up to me and said 'You were absolutely right to do what you did' that would make all the difference. Has noone said anything like that to you? Shame on them if so.

Do you need the crash cart? Or is it too late?

Hope there's still a spark of life here...

Do you need the crash cart? Or is it too late?

Hope there's still a spark of life here...

Hello

I am hoping this thread takes off again as I like this cosy corner of understanding mumsnet

Hello newbies too

xxx

I like "cosy corner" has it got a plumfy sofa though?

And you're right - no harsh words or judgement here

There are sofas, sweets in dishes, hot chocolate steaming on the stove and lovely dim lighting this is my favourite place

come on in

I love the word 'plumfy' and shall be using it the next chance I get if that's ok, LW?

Just wanted to say that I also do the 'agonising over what I said/didn't say/did or didn't do' at any social gathering. Most of my social gatherings are family ones (big family) but I nearly stopped going to them as they stressed me out so much. I always felt ignored or belittled. Not because of what anyone said but more me feeling like noone takes me seriously. Things are a bit better now I've thrown a few parties for family at my house over the last year, which I hadn't done for a long time, and it makes me feel more in control. I still stress though and I don't invite people round. I have literally no friends.

See, I always mean to write short, pithy messages but end up typing too much. I've just deleted a load of stuff and there was more to come! Then I forget that I've posted and by the time I come back the whole thread's moved on. Or died.

I shall wait to see if the thread takes off again before I post anymore. Anyone still reading??

Ooooh lovely.

Nice cushions. Just the right amount of squishy filling and what looks like toddler finger marks - very homely! Here's some jelly sweeties for your very tasteful dishes.

Is that toast?

Oops, x-posted, sorry!

It all sounds very cosy in here! I've bought some of my lemon drizzle cake if anyone wants some? Not much left because I couldn't help scoffing some on the way here

ps, still here and reading spotty

Oh Muldoon you are just like me, sorry! The overtyping, deleting huge chunks, thread's moved on, agonising over things said/unsaid, lemon drizzle cake... you're a gal after my own heart. Go ahead and use plumfy, I've no idea where it comes from - I had to query it before I posted it in case I looked bonkers, but apparently the meaning is crystal clear.

Oops, never mind. Turn it over and it'll do until the front gets smudged.

spotty - how spooky, I could really relate to your first post, I also sometimes if nervous or excited have trouble expressing myself comprehensibly, which I am sure feeds into my horror of being misunderstand or inadvertently deceiving someone!

I have a confession, I dont like people coming to my home I cant relax ATALL I mostly feel cos its my haven and its also a tip I cant seem to get on top of housey stuff ...but to be so....parapnoid surely not normal

Don't much care for visitors either, apart from nuclear family.

I really loathe large gatherings of people I don't know when small talk is involved; I know they all know I don't really belong. The odd thing is, I can stand up and address a roomful of people without batting an eyelid.

I dont even like nuclear family especially my mother
< should really go to scrub the sink for her coming on sat while we are at a wedding>

Does anyone else wonder if they are on the spectrum for autism and whether they are undiagnosed and some of their problems are rooted here. I sometimes do. especially bearing in mind it is very likely my ds is on the spectrum?

I'm not that bothered by visitors, but do prefer to visit others, house is a tip as I am lazy.

mumoftrio - yes we also have the aspergers traits with me and DH and a DS with a degree of SN (supposedly probably not on the spectrum but ).

Hello, latecomer wishing to join, definitely belong here!

welcome sasha! come on in to the plushy sofas and endless sweeties getting passed round!!!

how interesting totalchaos!

Sorry for my ignorance but what is sn, have seen it several times?

sooooooooooo nice and also / special needs

mumoftrio will your mum demand to inspect the sink?! Gosh. And I thought my mum was a trial in pointing out tomato sauce mark lurking by the microwave for a week couple of days!

And I know my housework is neglected in favour of MN, I'm betting I'm not alone in this.. we have a visitor coming round this weekend, but bliss! he is a techy bloke and therefore will not notice a thing

No idea if I am odd in an official way but definitely scored in the "emotionally crippled" range in a quiz on MSN.

hello can I come in please? I've wanted to join for ages but never felt brave enough till now

comedyoferrors

(great name by way)

of course you can join!! come on in , the kettle is on infact the newbie makes the tea ha ha just to show that newbies slot right in ha ha!!!!

ps, nah mum is just a neat freak and thinks I am a slob, she is partially correct, I too blame MN!!!

pps, you scored as "emotionally crippled" range in a quiz on MSN. I wanna do this quiz? where doeth I findeth it?