Note from a bloke...

[Coolfonz]

Hi.
I've read quite a few of these threads here over the last months. And - assuming everything in them is accurate - they make me feel sick.

These terrible, awful, disastrous men who are ruining women's lives - and the various children as well - deserve nothing from you. Nothing at all.

The gamblers, the drinkers, the facebook affair-ers, the playfighters, the beaters/slappers/pushers and shovers are just vile vile men. The ones who convince you its your fault/the kids fault/society's fault, who ring you crying/screaming/mocking, tell you you've got it easy/easier/easiest they are just utter utter bastards. Seriously.

There are plenty of reasonable men out there, many not perfect, I'm not, but plenty who will treat women correctly.

I've also known enough reprobates and idiot men myself, some of my friends even, to know when a woman should go.

I want to reply to all these awful threads on here but I would only say one thing over and over again...

PLEASE LEAVE THEIR SORRY FUCKING ARSES AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

Sometimes I think though "better the devil you know".

Aw, that's made me feel all warm and fuzzy.

Good to know there's still some good 'uns out there coolfonz

Better no devil at all.

Coolfonz, are you single?

Those of us with decent and loving husbands do try and redress the balance by banging on about saying what constitutes a good relationship.

My DH could have written that opening post.

But DH is into direct intervention, he actively helps women friends leave their crappy blokes.

THANK YOU, Coolfonz!

Yeah, good to hear!

Oi! No I'm not!

I'm not some perfect guy, i'm 45 and still a weed/mdma hedonist, I have arguments with Mrs Fonz and all that shit. Been with her 13 years. She just told me off for Skyping her about her bum at work. What can I do? It's an ace bum! See. I'm no Nigel Havers.

But like these men are so contemptible. Cruel, nasty, vain and shit. Yes, I realise you only get one side of the story etc but still...

Really makes me sick. The contempt I have for these weak men...that's what they are, weak, urgh...

Oh shame, .

It's really refreshing though to hear from a bloke that actually has got his priorities right and knows how to make a relationship work. Have you ever thought about becoming a coach for other men so that they don't screw up their relationships with their partners and their DC. Ultimately, as well, they are screwing up their own lives whether they realise that or not.

lol, skype - perhaps going a bit too far!

This is what I mean better the devil you know. 45 year old drug addict I dipped my toe into the dating world on a split from H, put me off blokes for life. "Yes, that's nice. Oh right. O? You killed a man? Self defence? I see..."

mdma - ecstacy

Envelope!

Can I have your number? Obviously, only if you are available

(kidding but thanks)

Id rather have a 45 year old who took the odd bit of MDMA than a cheating abusive MYSOGONIST scum bag..!

Not weed though, it makes em lazy and theres NOTHING I detest more than a lazy man!

Here here though fonzy.

And welcome.

respect to you coolfonz

Apart from your ageing druggy tendencies, coolfonz, that is a very nice post. There are a lot of decent blokes out there - my DH is one as well - and he can't believe some of the crap that people have to put up with.

coolfonz you ruined it by admitting to the weed & E.

Still a good OP though .

Sorry Fonz, you are just as weak for taking drugs. You're letting your wife down just as badly.

I like all the comments, technically I can't really argue with the drug addiction thing although I'm a professional, i'm not lazy, at least not in the day time . You don't really notice mine, I like to be in control too much...oops! Heheheh.

But really, this isn't why i posted...these men...that's why I said this.

Like where the fuck do you find them? www.gutterdating.com?

Like, life is so short, even if you have the pain of a break up (and im sure we've all been there etc) and it is exacerbated by having children, you will get through it all (i'm sure we've all been there too!). Get away, move, buy some new frocks, get a haircut, whatever makes you reboot...

And I'm not saying find another man...being single is cool...men, pah...

Are you lazy in the evening? I like men who get up early and go to bed late and dont stop much in between.. Like me.

Unless of course I want them on the sofa with me. Then they must join me.

Coolfonz, you are making me snigger. Are you a college lecturer trying to stay hip with the youngsterz or something? Or a rock musician? Too many "like"s in your writing, man