Note from a bloke...

[Coolfonz]

Hi.
I've read quite a few of these threads here over the last months. And - assuming everything in them is accurate - they make me feel sick.

These terrible, awful, disastrous men who are ruining women's lives - and the various children as well - deserve nothing from you. Nothing at all.

The gamblers, the drinkers, the facebook affair-ers, the playfighters, the beaters/slappers/pushers and shovers are just vile vile men. The ones who convince you its your fault/the kids fault/society's fault, who ring you crying/screaming/mocking, tell you you've got it easy/easier/easiest they are just utter utter bastards. Seriously.

There are plenty of reasonable men out there, many not perfect, I'm not, but plenty who will treat women correctly.

I've also known enough reprobates and idiot men myself, some of my friends even, to know when a woman should go.

I want to reply to all these awful threads on here but I would only say one thing over and over again...

PLEASE LEAVE THEIR SORRY FUCKING ARSES AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

Heheheh grooving... I think this thread is akin to grooving along smartly now as well don'tcha know and all that jazz...

Envelope - i like your street knowledge. It's a strong look

I smoke outside the house, I don't do tobacco either...when I do I put a hanger in the baby's babygrow and whack him in the Armoire dear

While I thnk the original driving force behind the OP is slightly odd, what on earth is wrong with the odd toke or pill? Can't believe you lot, g&t all right is it? Glass of wine?

Millions of people occasionally take recreational drugs/drink too much/smoke. So what?

here he is

I love wine

So MN, dull. A nice bloke who posts in an entertaining and easy to read way, I can almost picture his body language and expression as I read, mentions the odd bit of recreational drugs and uses casual slang and that's what we focus on. Not the huge matter of supporting women.....

jeez.

You never know coolfonz could be Banksy!

Yes, I may have been to private school, but it was somewhat cancelled out by the fact it was in "Slaaah" (Slough). I spent many an hour with my (druggie) ex oggling the 'coveted Zippo' in the cigar shop in Windsor, but in my naivety I had always assumed it was a maple leaf from the Canadian flag.

Banksy my arse. I need some light relief, I want to point and laugh at the mid life crisis man.

Chickens-Eyebrows - Yes that's a good point. I grew up with the guy in BKK. I haven't seen that much of him for ten years, I tried to talk him around about his relationships but he was never interested...

In fact he reminds me Getorfmilands ex partner. Maybe less tantrums but basically had to have everything done exactly his way. Is that NPD? When you know his background you can see where it comes from - his wife beating scum bag cntu of a Dad - but eventually what can you do?

I don't think you can loathe all pot smokers tbh. I've smoked pot with footballers, TV presenters, the partner of a commercial law firm just the other day (footballers money already!), city boys, lawyers, authors...you and Envelope are probably the only two non-potheads in the country

No, I don't have dredds, never have done, short hair, clean shaven, dry cleaned shirts, Nike air wovens, John Smedley, Paul Smith, M&S...

M & S? You renegade.

I fancy a bit of a mid-life crisis meself.

I don't know whether my ex was NPD. I think he was just a twat. he may well have been a nice chap if his family hadn't spoilt him rotten.

Oh I don't really care about the drug use. Liek anything it's probably all right in moderation. I am just scarred by boring coked and toked bastards telling me in encyclopaedic detail how they have analysed Pink Floyd lyrics etc.

I am looking forward to my mid life crisis. Had my dd young so have worked my arse off and been sensible since I was a teen. No travelling round teh world and raucous nights out. I think when dd goes to university I am going to go off the rails in splendid style, out clubbing with youngsters (!) and buying clothes from jane Norman.

Well ladies.

Coolfonz has successfully groomed you over the last few weeks.

Now he's applying the vaseline.

Relax, it'll all be over in a minute.

Then he'll be back to sorting paperclips.

I say gaff and like I pink gin. I have never grooved though. Man.

Like your op, fonz.

Getorf - Pink Floyd, sheesh, now that is bad

Right, gotta go do the dishes, pick up baby, do the hoovering, sign a contract, argue with the (1st Quote bastard) car insurance, sort my paperclips, pick up Mrs Fonz...

You should go to Tesco for car insurance, they do cheap breakdown and give you £40 voucher!!

Lovely Op, Coolfonz.
I'd rather a man who plays with the baby and has a smoke of an evening to an awful lot of the tossers we hear about on here.

I guess the difference is not what we would or would not put up with, it's about each person being honest about their lines in the sand.

If Coolfonz hid his drug use from his DW then it would be an untenable relationship.

I'm such a strong advocate of having your own choice about your own life. Honesty is always the way to go for me. I can get past anything. Forgive anything. As long as that person is honest with me.

Getorf, we had our DC1 at the same age. I always promised myself that I would have a crisis later on, and indulge my uningulged-self.

The older I get, the more confident I get and the more I know I'll appreciate it a hell of a lot more than when I was 18.

Although it does make me look twice before crossing the road

Did any of that make sense?

coolfonz...you sound like my DH (without the MDMA)

he thinks he is cool, too

he isn't...but he is rather lovely

I also am thinking of having a sign-off under every one of my posts

"Fuck the fucker off"

It certainly applies to many of the relationship threads I have had the misfortune to read recently

AF that would be rather childish...

I would judge you.

Err, crunchy, have you seen some of the relationship threads this week ?

I was not serious, btw...well, maybe a little bit