He is just messing me about isnt he.

[notcool]

Had a first date about 6 weeks ago. All went a bit quiet after he said i scared him off. I had a go at him about it. Anyway - a month on and he said he does really like me and would like to see me again.
He asked me out for this saturday.
havent had much/any contact this last week as ive been busy.
Was on msn last night and i asked him if we were still on for sat. he said no, hes going to be away and be busy for a few weekends after that.

he is just messing me about isnt he. We can only really see each other weekends beacuse of the distance and work committments ( mine, not his) but if he wanted to see me he could.

i said that i wished him all the best in the future but that i was sorry i could no longer talk to him.

I was expecting to be deleted off his facebook and msn. but im not. Which means he will contact me like nothing has happened in a few weeks. i know it.

but im worth more than that.

can anyone explain to me what is the point?

Um, I have no idea HB. And why you would wear one on webcam is even more puzzling.

The conversation must have been riveting. mmmfh, mmmf, hmmmmf.

WFS
xx

Is this nipple clamps again?

This op sounds so so similar to the teenagecrush one

i hope so, i missed nipple clamps the first time, can you do me a quick precis?

My ballgag is beside me at all times, just in case some random weirdo wants me to wear it on webcam for him!

I'm more grossed out by the blokes watching a video of their mate have sex tbh, why would they? It's a bit sick.

FS - pretty much liek this thread, except it was nipple clamps and not a ball gag!

Woman meets man off net, thinks he is wonderful, he makes her wear nipple clamps then doesnt contact her again. Thread started off the same, suggesting they used somehting unusual, but not saying what exactly. revealed it was nipple clamps much liek the ball gag was revealed here. She wonders if he used her. Much like this .

Oh god stop it all of you I am sitting here with my shoulders shaking and tears running down my cheeks. It's so obvious I'm not working.

Can't believe that anyone's stupid enough to wear this item of ... clothign? accessories? on a webcam after one date. Wise up you daft bint. Of course he's messing you around... if he exists. Stop blaming him for the fact that you are daft. Stop dating. Stop trolling. Stop wearing ball gags. Stop making me laugh.

I wondered how long it would be before you rocked up Mal!

FS - Nipple clamps was...disturbing actually. Poster started by saying that she'd met up with an internet person (I think) and then they'd had some very rough sex, and she was covered in bruises, and it was all a bit awful actually. There was a bit of throttling going on, and some "stronger" nipple clamps than what she was used to. But her OP was complaining that he's written something vague on twitter.

A ballgag is a harness with a ball in the centre that you wear round your face with the ball in your mouth.
OP are you on the fetish scene already? DO you have prior experience of BDSM? If the idea of BDSM turns you on then I suggest you read some books about it and look at some BDSM websites such as Informed Consent.
If you want to get into kinky things then educate yourself a little, because you are still coming across as desperate and wildly-over-eager, and you are potentially endangering yourself (because there are abusers on the fetish scene, and when you mix kink with online dating you get a double-reinforced abuser risk) with your basic cluelessness.

But I still don't understand the benefit of these ball gags.

What's it actually for?

WFS, you remember it better than me, she did have some more serious issues going on.

Mal! Was waiting for you!! And yes I was disturbed too, apparently it had never happened before and they were a bit and but i agree, very disturbing. This was all some time back now and well before i met dp but this friend is not allowed in our house, i feel he is a rapist in some ways as she did not consent to the camera. Not sure rapist is right word but conveys how i feel about him.

Maduggar - thank you

Womby - saw another one a while back where the woman was like a teenager, had only talked online to him or something then they were going to neet for the first time. He'd told a policeman to f off - rang his solicitor and told the policeman 'he'd have his job' or some such claptrap, is that the same poster? I didn't look at the threads linked to further up, will go click now.

FS X

SGB - I've never quite understood anal bleaching, any thoughts? I mean i get what it is but why would you? Am I'm not that naive I have strutted by stuff at the Rubber Ball and errrm been to some reet scary places in Germany i tell you

It's to do with bondage HB.
Just another method of restraint and control, there are funnel gags ( don't ask) and dildo gags too.

Have a gander on lovehoney, you won't believe some of the contaptions on there!

Some of it is very scary.

Yes FS - that link is one and the same.

HB - I'm not into the fetish scene, so I'm not sure what the benefit of ball gags are. Um, I think it's pretty impossible to talk around one, which might be a turn on to certain kinds of men. (ie: any man who has ever had to listen to me ranting on about the Go Compare advert. - I don't usually do this during sex though) Maybe the OP's date had had enough of listening to her making long term plans and just said "Put a sock in it love?" and she misunderstood?

Go careful with the lovehoney site, I honestly had nightmares after wandering into the BDSM section by accident while looking for something far more tame.

I feel a bit queasy from laughing so hard at this thread.

two consenting adults - fine do what you like, 1st date or pre date when its not your bag?????? Get a grip.

Womby i forgot my...

fs x

FS,

so did I! (changed my name earlier, it's WFS BTW)

WFS
xx
(masquerading as MF xx)

I read ball gag as ball bag. Very interesting mental image.

But, but, you know exactly where my flannel has been - It's got pubes on it and everything!

I do feel very honoured though.

The medical fetish stuff gets me, glow in the dark speculum anyone?

I do find the different fetishes people have absolutely fascinating , after all I ahve my very own flannel and lube fetish, not at the same time, obviously.

HB:As Mal says, it's just another method of restraint and control. If you're not into BDSM it serves no purpose, and not eveyrone who is into BDSM likes ball gags, either. So I am becoming a little about the OP myself.

(BTW: Mal, could you share any more if you really tried?)

Wha?!

Probably.

Notcool Just walk away from this idiot with some dignity. Don't contact him. If he's interested in you, then let him do the running.

I am pissing myself

thankyou God, for this thread

who ever said Op must have mistaken "put a sock in it, love" for an invitation to wear a ball-gag is genius

and who said "and how would a girl wear a ball-gag?.."

so funny

btw, OP, you might find this useful

please post some more, my week so far has been shit and it is only Wednesady! < begs >