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He is just messing me about isnt he.

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notcool · 12/05/2010 09:55

Had a first date about 6 weeks ago. All went a bit quiet after he said i scared him off. I had a go at him about it. Anyway - a month on and he said he does really like me and would like to see me again.
He asked me out for this saturday.
havent had much/any contact this last week as ive been busy.
Was on msn last night and i asked him if we were still on for sat. he said no, hes going to be away and be busy for a few weekends after that.

he is just messing me about isnt he. We can only really see each other weekends beacuse of the distance and work committments ( mine, not his) but if he wanted to see me he could.

i said that i wished him all the best in the future but that i was sorry i could no longer talk to him.

I was expecting to be deleted off his facebook and msn. but im not. Which means he will contact me like nothing has happened in a few weeks. i know it.

but im worth more than that.

can anyone explain to me what is the point?

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Original poster
notcool · 12/05/2010 11:38

and thats why i felt taken advantage of and had a go at him. not because im a bunny boiler.
But because i trusted him and went against my better judgement and then he ran off and spun me some rubbish about me coming on too strong. When only a few days before he had been saying how much he felt for me and that he could see us really going somewhere and that he wasnt scared of committment with me.

im an idiot and hes an arse

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notcool · 12/05/2010 11:40

why am i a troll beacuse it was a ball gag.
i did say it was weird.
im not a troll.
please dont start the troll shit. I am not in the mood.

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ForStately · 12/05/2010 11:40

I'd also check the video isn't on the net.

FS x

larrysgal · 12/05/2010 11:41

You are the same woman as that other thread linked, from the sound of it, yes?

I haven't got time to read all of it, but it strikes me that your "relationship" has played out much like these threads...you keep being told one thing very clearly, and you hint that you'll sort of do it but don't quite, because you want to keep everybody interested and leave the door open for more drama.

So, categorically, will you delete ALL his contact details and block him RIGHT NOW? Yes or no?

Because if you don't, you are just dancng with him and us. Up to you, but I will be hiding the thread as you are a timewaster.

WombFrootShoot · 12/05/2010 11:42

Did you just happen to have a ball gag hanging around though?

And were you wearing just normal clothes and then a ball gag?

Weird.

You should always be cautious when someone says that sort of shit in a hurry notcool. It's a clear flag of twattery.

(FS - I might do! )

WFS
xx

larrysgal · 12/05/2010 11:45

You could rig one up quite easily with a pingpong ball and a dog harness. I imagine.

WombFrootShoot · 12/05/2010 11:49
ForStately · 12/05/2010 11:50

Womby - I'm liking you, I was just about to post 'but hang on, how did you just happen to have a ball gag lying around??' Now if it was SGB or BOF or Reality, yes of course but most of us don't have them do we?

Larry - have you had experience? Or did you use to be a Blue Peter presenter?

[rushes off to try ping pong and dog harness] [realises has no dog] [nor ping pong ball, sits down defeated to watch Cash in the Attic]

FS X

larrysgal · 12/05/2010 11:54

I think I have more Blue Peter tendencies than bondage fetishes, definitely!

lou33 · 12/05/2010 11:54

i am too wondering how the op happened to have a ball gag lurking about the house when she said it wasnt something she would normally wear?

i reckon a ping pong ball would not work though, maybe one of those hard centred balls dogs chew on and play with?

WombFrootShoot · 12/05/2010 11:55

FS - the feeling is mutual.

It's the image of a person sat in front of the computer wearing a pair of jeans and a fleece with a ball gag in her mouth which is making me giggle too much. (Sorry OP) It's just so incongruous.

The internet right there.

WombFrootShoot · 12/05/2010 11:57

Red snooker ball I think Lou33.

I need to stop thinking about all this.

WFS
xx

thehillsarealive · 12/05/2010 12:01

did you meet him on a fetish site?

lou33 · 12/05/2010 12:08

you risk chipping your teeth on a snooker ball though , the ball would be less likely to cause harm (h&s officer for ball gags is needed to enlighten us i think)

ForStately · 12/05/2010 12:11

Where's SGB? She'd put us straight. If you see what I mean.

FS X

[Womby - it really takes concentration to remember the sign off each time, its exhausting]

Monty100 · 12/05/2010 12:12

Go on then. I have to know.

What's a ball-gag?

M27

HerBeatitude · 12/05/2010 12:13

I have actually just snorted with larfter at my desk and my colleagues are looking slightly puzzled. Am trying to be discreet.

OK I'm visualising and think I know what you all mean, but please can someone kind and more sophisticated than me explain exactly what a ball gag is and what it is for? And please don't link me to any sites which explain it as this is a work computer and a) it will be blocked and b) I will be Spoken To

SpiritualKnot · 12/05/2010 12:14

Yes, I always sign off, years of sending emails in my job, just automatic I guess, just feel like I'm saying "over and out".

Just come back to this thread, seems to have gone a bit strange? Been reading one of the links given for last 20 mins.

SK

lou33 · 12/05/2010 12:18

it is as it sounds

a ball that is held in place in the mouth like a gag, and secured round the back of the head

WombFrootShoot · 12/05/2010 12:19

Ball gag virgins...

(wait, that makes it sounds like I've used a ball gag, which I haven't)

It's a gag, and the "Ball" bit goes in your mouth and then the leather bit goes round your head to keep the ball in place.

Have you seen Pulp Fiction?

WFS
xx

(FS - it's a nightmare!, Much props to SK!)

LadyThompson · 12/05/2010 12:20

Would someone like to tell me what a ball gag is, and where you wear it if you are a girl? I pride myself on being a woman of the world, and I am hugely disappointed to come up short on this one.

It's like the time when I was a kid and my Dad was a bit pissed one Christmas and we were all playing Snakes and Ladders, and he said he was "up and down like an old pro's drawers", and I said, "Don't be silly Daddy! That makes no sense! You mean Old FLO'S drawers!"

LadyThompson · 12/05/2010 12:21

Oh! Here was me thinking it was something to do with men's balls. How confusing.

WombFrootShoot · 12/05/2010 12:22

The "where you wear it if you're a girl" thing has set me right off again.

BWAHAHAHAHAHA!

(I'm going to get so sacked)

HAHAHAHA

WFS
xx

HerBeatitude · 12/05/2010 12:22

But why would you wear one?

ForStately · 12/05/2010 12:23

SK - You have given me and Womby a lovely giggly half hour of bonding time over your signing out, it is the cutest ever

Yes second that - look up pulp fiction on google and one pick should have ball gags in.

Lady - your father is worrying me. Did you ask him how he knew??!

FS x

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