would you go on a date with this guy?

[oneorboth]

SO I WAS ON a dating site a while ago. spoke to this guy a bit, though he was ok, swapped numbers, within two days he was constantly texting wanting to know where i worked, what i was up to. kept calling me hun (!!!!!) telling me he was dreaming about me.
i did not like it so did not reply and blocked him.

move forward to now. i joined back up to the site and he emailed me straight away. My taste is men is terrible and i very much go for the bad boy bastard type. he is not this type so i thought i would chat to him.
hes still got my number and he is texting all the time. if i dont reply he then texts things like ' have i done something wrong?' or ' have i upset you' and then he would like to see me but he doesnt get his way. and all his texts are just so pesamitic and moody. then he is all gushy and calling me amazing and beautiful and stuff.

but, im trying to be open about people. still i think he is a needly pleb.

i have loosley arranged date with him next week but dont really want to go. i already cancelled one this weekend with him as i coiuldnt be bothered.

then the other day he asked me why i stopped talking to him the other time as he had put in so much groundwork.

man radar is crap right now. but this seems weird to me. or am i the weird one?

and should i meet him for a date? and if i dont how do i tell him no and to leave me alone?

Oh, and I meant to say something serious.

OP, you said you thought that this bloke was the opposite of the 'bad boy' type. Yes, and no. He is, indeed, the archetypal Nice Guy (tm). But that doesn't make him a nice guy at all.

NiceGuys use the fact that women are trained to be nice against them. They are clingy. They claim to respect women and to want to be friends and they're the men most likely to whine 'women just want bastards'.

But they're manipulative, and they're just as inclined to reduce women to objects, or to conquests. They are still acting in a way designed to get laid, they are still game players, they just have a different technique.

This guy doesn't respect your boundaries. He's perfectly happy to get angry at you for not giving it up to him. He is ignoring your signals and relying on your inclination to be polite.

He is not a nice guy. He is not the opposite to your Bad Boys.

hahaha how funny to check out this thread this morning. didnt expect it to go this way.

i also forgott to add that on saturday when i he text me what are our plans ( at about 4pm ) and we hadnt actually arranged anything. i said i was ill. he kept texting trying to get me to go round his or said he could come to me. i said i had flu and he was all like, can i get you something, i can come and look after you.
creepy
so many texts it actually filled up my phones memory ( which is about 250 texts)

blocked and sent a text last night. hope i dont hear any more

So you havent actually met him and he wanted to come to your house? or for you go to his?

Thats dodgy, i would never ever invite a stranger to my home, the place i know i most safe, he sounds obsessive

glad that you've finally text him and now you're entitled to block and ignore
agreed that he does sound needy and rather odd but you haven't helped yourself here by allowing him to live in hope

That was all a bit surreal!
Can I just say, dad2chchalk, that you handled "her" very well and please keep posting here!