would you go on a date with this guy?

[oneorboth]

SO I WAS ON a dating site a while ago. spoke to this guy a bit, though he was ok, swapped numbers, within two days he was constantly texting wanting to know where i worked, what i was up to. kept calling me hun (!!!!!) telling me he was dreaming about me.
i did not like it so did not reply and blocked him.

move forward to now. i joined back up to the site and he emailed me straight away. My taste is men is terrible and i very much go for the bad boy bastard type. he is not this type so i thought i would chat to him.
hes still got my number and he is texting all the time. if i dont reply he then texts things like ' have i done something wrong?' or ' have i upset you' and then he would like to see me but he doesnt get his way. and all his texts are just so pesamitic and moody. then he is all gushy and calling me amazing and beautiful and stuff.

but, im trying to be open about people. still i think he is a needly pleb.

i have loosley arranged date with him next week but dont really want to go. i already cancelled one this weekend with him as i coiuldnt be bothered.

then the other day he asked me why i stopped talking to him the other time as he had put in so much groundwork.

man radar is crap right now. but this seems weird to me. or am i the weird one?

and should i meet him for a date? and if i dont how do i tell him no and to leave me alone?

gay - that is hardly fair.
bad boy type. its a well known type. i am trying to grow up and not go for that type. but the alpha arrogant male is highly attractive to me for some reason that i dont know.
i know it is not good and am trying to work on that. hence trying to be open minded. then i get talking to this loon.

middle ground is what ill be aiming for.....

I am dating today and what you describe is what I would describe as normal in this age of instant messenging and texting. Communication is so very easy today

Yes, he sounds needy and assuming but every reply you have given is encouraging him

You didn't like him 8 months ago, you don't like him now, he was full on then, he is full on now, you are still engaging with him

Nutter maybe but you are partly to blame

Send him the text goodbye text now, why wait until later or tomorrow. Just send it, then you can ignore him

Male POV? Run fast, run hard, don't look round. Control freak!!!

Actually, allowing yourself to even think about meeting this pushy man doesn't seem too far away from getting messed about by "bad boys" to me.

I would text him once now (and yes, I have dated recently and know all about the modern dating world)and say something along the lines of, I don't want to be in touch anymore. That's fair and polite. Treat others as you'd like to be treated yourself. I'm sure he'll continue to text for a while, just delete them without reading. I would advise you get a cheap payg for net dating too.

Have you read "Women Who Love too Much"? by Robin Norwood? Might help work out why you are hooked on the wrong uns.

Dear AnyFucker

I agree with you, the OP doesn't seem very nice and you are very perceptive. I think the OP is playing a dangerous game. BTW, please change your user name, its offensive.

Regards

baluchi

Dear Baluchi

Bog off

Regards,

AnyFucker

Dear dad2chchalk

Did you just look in the mirror?

Regards

baluchi

Dear AnyFucker

How many times must I state this. Its baluchi NOT Baluchi.

Regards

baluchi, NOT Baluchi

what a random person you are, balloonhead Baluchi

Lets give the OP her thread back shall we?

Never say 'I might', it's read too easily as 'I will'

Turn and run from this man as quickly as you can, he's obsessive, sounds controlling and he's manipulative. It doesn't matter how long you have been single for, a shite man really isn't better then no man at all (I'm single aswell so I get it). Dating in 2010 isn't like this at all, you don't have to speak to someone every day. "Run Forest, run!"

Dear dad2chchalk

Thank you.

Regards

baluchi

am pmsl here

Dear AnyFucker

Love you too.

baluchi

Dear James Belushi

You're welcome. By the way, does it piss you off that you're living in your brothers (admittedly considerable) shadow?

Dear dad2chchalk

Yes it does, very much so.

Regards

baluchi NOT Baluchi

ps, do you like bullying women?

< gets bored and wanders away >

Dear Daily Ablutions

No, I do not. Hence why I'm not now, or never do.

Haven't read the rest of this thread but just had to say OH MY GOD DON'T GO!!!!!

Dear AnyFucker

< gets bored and wanders away >

I know. Don't you think care in the community is a wonderful thing though? Afterall, why else would a man be visiting a predominently 'womans' site? Scary.

Regards

baluchi NOT baluchi

Love dad2chchalk's first couple of posts to the idiot poster! First time I have come across you on here dad2chchalk and you actually did make me LOL.

In response to the OP, block this man from both the dating site and your phone. Offer no explanation. Do not engage with him again.

who are ya, dad2 ?

Dear Rindercella

Oh dear. You two really should get a room. Pmsl.

Regards

baluchi

baluchi NOT baluchi??? I took the advice of a very good (female) friend who said I would get very good advice on here regarding a very specific problem (regarding mental health, ironically enough, a subject clearly close to your heart given your care in the community comment!). And it's been really useful, genuinely useful. Sorry you took my attempt at wit as an attempt at bullying. I assure you it wasn't.

dad2, welcome to MN

stick around, especially if you continue to make very funny comments like you just did