Hi all, raging pmt at the mo so took to my bed for a luxury nap this pm. Also, been on here sooo late this holiday, till 3am some nights so my body clock is up the spout ( would have said buggered but I notice were getting a bit less sweary these days !)
Maybees....I remember that poem from school ans so often say the first 2 lines in my head.
pmsl .....home cinema and swimming pool. I bet you have got that Starting and don't want to tell us.
Maybees....shame about the dentist, you were so chirpy after your first visit. Dental work is bloody awful though, hope it's ok.
Happy....I love Perfect Day, thanks for that.
TEAANDCAKE....right then, I don't know if the other dumplings aggree but I think it's time for you to start feeling angry, REALLY F@@KING ANGRY. The fact that you are paying your joint loan out of your account is apalling. It must stop. My friend is in exactly the same position as you and she'll be totally skint for the next 5 years until it's paid off. I know you are liable as it's in your name too but you need to get advice about this from your sol. Hopefuly his half of the loan that you're paying will come out of his money in the divorce but I'd try and get it sorted beforehand.
Your H is beyond contempt and I realy wish you wouldn't feel guilty for having less than kind thoughts towards him.
OMG if you knew the vile and evil things I fantasize happening to my H on a daily basis it would make your toes curl.
Not that I actually want them to happen but the anger and fury as well as tons of laughs and humour is what has fuelled me for the last 2 years.
I don't mean unhealthy allconsuming nasty thoughts, but enough to get me up off my sad crying arse and off to the sol with any bit of evidence against him that I can find.
Plus self essteem courses, self help books (good excerpt you wrote) etc.
You have to be active and one step ahead of him in order to get as much as you can financialy. It's what you and the DCs deserve and if you don't then you'll regret it because it will be too late.
Wise up
Get Strong
Fight for yourself
Don't feel guilty about him, he's a total bastard and his sol will be advising him on how to leave this marriage with as much as possible. It's a nasty business and in the end it only comes down to money.
He'll try and fleece you and is allready doing so.
Come on TEA, rise up, be strong and fight (calmly) for what you knoe you deserve.
I do plenty of crying believe me and the heartbreak is unbearable but heartbreak and poverty will be much worse.
He's treating you SO SO badly, like a doormat actually. He's an excuse of a man and I'm so glad his car broke down.
It's what he deserved.
Tea, a few little swear words Really help.
He's a TWUNT, say it out loud a few times, it'll make you feel better
And breath......