Would you want to know if your dh was cheating?

[sungirltan]

As in...having an affair that he wasn't/isn't planning to come clean about.

Would you want to know?

Why?

Yes, to ensure my health and end our relationship

oh. my. god. yes

of course!

yup

Anyone with even a modicum of self respect would want to know.

Yes I jolly well would.
Do you really need a reason to want to know?

Why do you ask?

Absolutely I would want to know. I would then wait until he was sleeping and spray Ralgex on the "affected area" before kicking him out.

i wouldnt want to know about it but i most certainly would need to know this. cheating is my number 1 deal breaker. not possible to be redeemed from IMO.

why do you ask?

even if the affair had ended?

Hell yes

YES.

From someone who didn't know, (or didn't want to know) for, I dunno, could have been years. The utter humiliation of understanding that everyone else knew, of suddenly things they had hinted at making sense, of, in short, feeling like the stupidest fecker on the face of the earth - yes I'd rather have known.

The real pain was not that he had been unfaithful, but that everything I had thought about my marriage was a lie. Still painful - the best holiday we ever had, blissful, sand, sea, DD a contented delightful six year old. He'd told the current shag we were already divorced and only having a joint 'family' holiday for DD's sake.

Phew. MN is the cheapest therapy ever.

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Yes. If he had betrayed me, our marriage would be a sham. He would not be the person I thought I was living with.

no

yes tanga mine told her we weren't sleeping together
she did our ironing and I remember her looking a bit when I joked about everything getting bigger
so he told her dd was a 'drunken mistake'

jasper why no? sometimes I think that, but tbh until the ow's husband phoned and told me he had me convinced I was going insane

God yes. As others have said, want isn't really the operative word here. NEED to know is more apt.

An affair, yes. A drunken snog whilst on a lads night out. No. TBH.

yes

no question

Was cheating - probably yes.

Had cheated (in the past) - god no - he could do the decent thing and keep the guilt of that to himself!

I'd want to know if he'd ever so much as touched or kissed another woman, because if he had, it would mean that our whole life together had been a lie, it's very precious to me that we have only ever "known" each other, so to find out otherwise would be an immediate end to our life together, total, lifelong fidelity is that important to me.

Whether it was 25 years ago or 25 minutes ago would make absolutely no difference to me, I wouldn't take kindly to being made a fool of.

just a "yes" covers it, mal