ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No3

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

But aren't you miles from London?

can i join?

dont know if i have been dumped as man wont speak to me and gone off somewhere for weekend to sort him self out?

best to cover all bases me thinks

my g** you are on every thread - your touch typing speed must be incredible

of course you can join ... dumpling island is a good place ... and if you really can't sleep may I suggest that that you read the full dumplings story - with 2178 posts it will keep you going all night

qualified typist my dear - so this is a breeze to me

Also ,if someone says something snidey to me I am working on saying "What do you mean by that ?"(in a charming voice)
Then if they are being an arse they have to embellish and if I was taking them the wrong way I get a better explanation.(Only ever really needed to do this with MIL ans SILs and dont see them since split,but shall keep practising anyway as good skill to learn)
Also need to work on serenity under pressure
-self control under stress and non shouty at all times !

Will discuss with counsellor next week.

Yes Happy but I get to fly -how xciting is that !Was thinking I could get H to babysit,then just on principle LIE about where I am .Ha Ha Ha !Imagine how good that would feel if I walked in the next day and he says "Where were you ?" and I said "London !"

Welcome Moviegirl how you doin ?

Sounds good

Could either do an evening or had thought that we could do something like meet at Camden market on a Sunday and then have a chatty lunch. Or?

Evening my fellow dumplings, just catching up after a very long day at college.

Welcome Moviegirl, sorry to hear about the horrible situation you are going through at the moment. I know from my own case it was the torture of not knowing was the worst point. Just try to take care of yourself as best you can for now.

Oh Maybees, I got all excited reading that you were planning to travel to meet up! Great to hear you're feeling so positive.

I've no idea if I'll be able to actually make meet up. Would depend on the date, if I can get anyone to mind dc's etc.. BUT I feel so excited about the idea of possible meet up!!

P.S. I gave a kickass presentation on Freud!!

Well done on Freud is he really as good as you think he will be ?

Am just laughing about thought of asking my parents to mind dc's & then trying to explain that it was so I could meet up with a bunch of strangers in London!! Worse if I tried to explain "no it's actually friends I've met by pouring my sorry saga of a life on a public forum". . They'd be horrified & scandalised!! Oh, to see their faces. It was bad enough marrying the twunt I did, this would make them think there was no hope . Love it, love it..........

not so good now

crying again whilst my angel sleeps next to me

feel so down
and so pathetic

keep texting him ( I know i shoudnt) and have told him he is being unreasonable but no response

cannot sleep
mind in whirl
sick to my stomach

Maybees, I wasn't a lover of Freud last year because of his views on women (ridiculous notions of us having penis envy! As if!). But have to say most of his theories have stood the test of time. childhood experience influening adult behaviour etc..

Will post a link to my fab presentation...............

only joking!

Yeah all babysitters have to wear Chin up Tits out t shirts !

Moviegirl, my heart goes out to you. I've been there & know how hard it is to try to stop your brain from obsessively going over everything. I think it's good to cry, it's healing & you'll probably sleep better as it'll drain you.

However, you are torturing youself about something you don't know about yet. Try to distract yourself for now.

brain in overdrive though

trawling through facebook, twatter etc....

know i shouldnt but cannot help it

what to do what to do

Movie ... you will defo torture yourself with texting. Turn the phone off til the morning and turn Sport Relief on for distraction

cannot turn tv on - eight year old darling next to me in bed

he loves a sleepover when his dad is "away"
bless

Moviegirl, try to steer clear from the futile excercise of driving yourself insane by checking every possible avenue for evidence. I nearly drove myself insane doing this & the sad truth is that if your H is up to no good you'll know soon enough. The evidence will probably just land in front of you or your instincts will just know when he returns home. Try to stay calm & trust that you will have the answers one way or another soon.

Just curl into ds. I got great comfort from my dc's. Mindlessly surf the net if you need to keep yourself distracted.

okay will try

going to log off now and try to get some sleep

guess i will need to be strong for whatever comes my way in the next few days

until tomorrow dear friends

thanks for being here

you are all so wise
like female yoda's

Moviegirl, have to call it a night now as I've a really long day in college tomorrow & early start. Take care & let us know how you're doing.

Big hugs Moviegirl ,mine was a big drinker too when we split .At the moment I suspect you re not going to get the answers from him your looking for (if hes mixed up and he has been drinking).Switch your phone off if you can. They described it to me in alanon like going to a hardware shop for a loaf of bread .Just keep posting I'm going to put the kettle on x
ps my H just switched off his phone when he left- drove me nuts but he truly needed his space.I think this all creeps up on them and there is truly nothing you can do the more MLC they feel the more my husband drank.This behaviour is not your fault and its good to cry cause it sucks .Has his drinking got worse recently ,with my H it spiralled last 18mths b4 split.

Man you all type so fast !