ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No3

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Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

"I'm going to wash that man right out of my hair" (seeks link)

H just phoned and told me "to get myself to fuck"oh dear .He said whatever happened he wasnt going to be with me EVER !

Funny the difference a few days makes,last time I help a fucked up ex that is the father of my dcs,ungrateful arsehole .Going to talk to a sol ASAP.

Onwards and upwards ,really not that upset unless he swears at me(still makes me cry) but that is probably normal.Looking forward to getting shagged by someone else TBH with or without the baking

H was a wrong un,
havent worn my wedding ring for years think that says it all.Dont think I know where it is......

Going to the dentist Tuesday x

Maybee Glad this has helped you make a decision even if he is a rude a**hole. It would make me angry too and then cry.

• oh no Maybees sounds horrible. But you sound strong which is good . Chin up and all that

Maybees, you sound at the end of your tether, like you've reached the end of the road.

You have to decide what to do. You sound so in tune with your own needs and they clearly aren't being met by your H and don't sound like they ever will be.

I don't know what's normal either. I don't think there is a normal. Everyones normal is different so it doesn't really matter anyway.
You just have to decide how you want to live to bennefit you and the DCs and to get the most joy and peace. You've answered all your own questions and you ultimately know what needs to happen. There will be lots of sadness initially but you need bere no quilt.

Within just a few days your H seems to be pushing bounderies, taking the piss and abusing your best efforts to give him another chance. He's pushing his self destruct button amazingly hard, it's like he's testing you to the max just to see how much you'll let him get away with.

That post by AF on Scorps thread was amazing actually. I think we all give/get better advice on here than we ever would in real life because we're not face to face with each other.

I can't believe he didn't get you an egg.
He really has taken his selfishness to the next level. Maximum twuntish behavior.

Not even a bloody easter egg.........that's made me really cross.

Just have to accept he is an immature selfish twunt who will always put himself first.Will always remember he couldnt stop drinking when I was full term pg.wouldnt have been able to drive sums him up never felt baby kickingin my tummy never got up once thru the nite with either of dcs and I just took that as normal,
Need to sort myself out so it doesnt happen again with next bloke.Need to get sorted financially things all over the place.

Shag the dentist......I dare you.

I was going to say that Pink but chose not to

Too right Smartie I dont mean to sound childish re egg I just mean it was symbolic to me.He never bought me any special treats during 15yrs,used to joke Id think he had OW if he ever bought me flowers, thats quite sad really.Kids got a bag of mini eggs between them

I have several times in my head ......oops there i go again

Kept making myself laugh when H was in the house cos he might have found "Maybees survival guide"With the whole section on serious cock accidents

Maybe he did ..maybe that explains the phonecall

so has he gone now then or still there?

My god, DS has just told me that OW has a name. I didn't believe it was possible - I thought she was called Horse.

maybees - that's the attitude

I think there is a type of man who thinks that its ok not to consider other people's needs. H thinks that its just the way he is that he never actually pays attention to what I like and has very very rarely done anything spontaneous to please me (it took him several years to remember the date of my birthday). But its ok, cos its just the way he is and I was supposed to love him for that.

Of course our flaws are never just the way we are - our flaws are horrible and nasty and the real reason things don't work.

Bloody men.

I've been meaning to crack that joke for ages

horse

Just think was not meant to be just didnt want to be organising a funeral,he got into a bad place but I obviously cant help him.I cant relax cos he lied so much and he just wanted to come home the first nite watch Rambo and vegitate.Just like the good old days

Go your own way Fleetwood Mac

Dedicating this to my arsehole H

I am FUCKING AMAZING and you are NOT that is why we will never work.....Incompatable.....

A BAG OF MINI EGGS BETWEEN THEM ???????

FOR FUCK SAKE !!!!!!!!!!

I'm bloody livid now.

Shame your DCs aren't old enough to have told him to shove them up his arse.

I'm effing speechless.

Get that solicitor NOW.

Sorry but he's a total fucking WANKER.

He has ZERO humility.

Happy, PMSL at horse with no name. Gerry Beckley (America) was one of my first crushes.

I adored their albums.

Still can't get over "a bag of mini eggs between them"

Maybees, ridding yourself of that tight wad wankst**n will be the best thing you'll ever do.

Always had money for drink and cigs Smartie

I LOVE that..... I'm FUCKING AMAZING AND YOU'RE NOT....

I'd like to have a banner saying that in 5 foot letters right accross my house for wanker yo see when he drives past. With any luck he'd loose concentration and crash into a lampost. Don't need him dead but 2 broken legs would be sooooooo delicious.

Nite x

Hope you're ok tea. x

Anyone else getting excited about saturday?

Just me?

Off to bed now, going to the sealife centre en-masse tomorrow on the bus. Adventure!

Maybees - you are right to feel so ANGRY. You had to try but defo right to move on now

Interesting actually that people's lack of generosity never amazes me as XH was just terrible at presents also and known as being incredibly tight. Always said it was because he had no money but eventually I've realised that it was just the way he was . Over the years I'd begun to think it was normal but realise now it was just that I'd forgot what normal was

Yep - I am looking forward to Saturday . You have mail Chairmum.

Just listened to about 5 versions of go your own way..... moving on to Beyonce your just a boy now nite smartie I am xcited about meet up and im not even goin x

Fleetwood Mac rock eh ! Got my RL sussed anyway classic tune.