Are you 100% certain your dp/dh would never cheat on you?

[thesteelfairy2]

if you are why do you feel that way?

I am truly interested in the answers to this seeing as Mark Owen has joined the long line of celebrity cheating ar*eholes.

Also when I first met my ex h I would have bet a £million that he would never cheat on me. Even though it was in my face I trusted him implicitly because of all the things he said and his reactions to other peoples infidelities.

I personally am of the opinion that all men cheat given the opportunity, don't flame me though these are just my personal experiences of men. I have been in the army and worked mostly in male dominated environments so have extensive experience of random men and their relationship habits.

'Never ever chear ' should be 'Never ever cheat' obviously!

Very sorry to hear that sowhathappensnow.

DH could never find anyone that could please him in the way that I do, ergo he will never cheat. Plus I keep him shackled in the dungeon attic 90% of the time.

Mal - that's a bit mean on all the posters who have been cheated on, don't you think. They didn't please their husbands enough so they got shafted !
I know you have got your tongue in your cheek to some extent but come on !

Well spare me the details please Mal, but fair play to you .

Spangles, I am not the fortune teller type, I don't believe in no ghosts (or woo or whatever) .

How can anyone be 100% sure?

I don't have a huge ego nor am I naive and I cannot predict the future.

Fair point, I suppose I was being a little thoughtless. What I meant was that after 28 years, he's conditioned to my body alone. Literally.

I hoped he wouldnt and it seemed that he wouldnt but as is predictable with nearly all the men I have ever had relationships with he did! My family were very shocked so were his. He told his whore throughout their affair that He had never had better sex than the sex we had (her words) so I dont think it has anything to do with that Malificence, although I think it crosses every cheated on persons mind! Anyway, best thing that could ever have happened for me, not for my little boy though who is still getting used to Daddy not being there anymore. But hey, they were happy at the time thats what mattered...pity it didnt last !

i worked in a team of 30 once, only 5 women. similar observations to thescecondcoming

Actually, I reckon the people who think I'm deluded and / or smug, would love nothing more than for me to be proved wrong.

Why is it so difficult to believe that there are men who wouldn't dream of cheating?

Would people challenge my husband in the same way if he said he knew 100% that I would never cheat? I doubt it.

Even if he knew 100% that I would never find out, he would still have to live with himself and the knowledge of what he'd done - that's how I know he wouldn't and couldn't.

Mal, come off it, if you've been together 28 years, I'm guessing you're at least 46. If you think that your husband has been trained like a dog to only ever to want to be with you.... well, I hope you don't get a shock one day.

Also, I hope you're not jumping through hoops to 'keep' him giving him blowjobs 24/7 so that you can be "100%" sure he'll never cheat!! Your post makes it sound like that.

Malificence, not doubting there are men who don't cheat, but i doubt that you can put yourself inside your husband's brain, read his thoughts and see in to the future. that's what i doubt.

I'm 43.

He has only ever wanted to be with me and vice versa.

I was being slightly ironic with my sex post, it was obviously lost on most people, I'm well known for my "saucy" posts .

Yes I can practically read his thoughts, and vice versa, after a lifetime together I imagined every relationship would be similar? I was quite peturbed to see they're not.

no of course not and i should hope that he wouldn't have that kind of certainty about me!

i have a massive respect for the FACT that I don't nor could I ever fully know let alone predict what my beloved partner would feel or do at any given moment in his life.

he is an individual, I don't own him, and I don't claim to be omniscient enough to KNOW that he would or wouldn't do anything.

however, I hope that if he seriously contemplated being with someone else he would let me know. Or if he was to be unfaithful again that he would be honest. I don't know that he would, but I hope that he would.

I think 'all men cheat' is facile in the extreme. All human beings are capable of hurting another thoughtlessly. All human beings are capable of putting a moment of overpowering desire ahead of what they know to be the 'right thing'.

I think a grown up honesty with oneself is very important. I don't for a second think smugly 'i'm incapable for betraying my husband'...frankly I act in ways that I would rather not almost every day about a myriad of small things.

however, I have enough respect for our relationship and value it enough that I would always try to stay away from situations that make me vulnerable to the potency of another's desire...particularly if I'm in a phase where I don't feel very fanciable for eg.

and I know many many men, my husband among them, who do just that...try to stay away from situations that might make them vulnerable to their own impulsive selfish selves.

If you had asked me this Q a year ago I would have been in the "trust him 100%" camp. Unfortunately I found some inappropriate texts sent to a female colleague, which now puts me firmly in the "you can never be 100% sure" camp.

there should be a comma before unfaithful...to my knowledge dh hasn't been! not yet!

"i can practically read his thoughts"

oh em gee honey. There's no getting through to you!!

IME (and I only know of 2 relationships that ended with affairs)it is always those who 'would never' cheat who do and the 100% sure partners who have to eat their words.My oldest friend is going or rather has gone through this.perfect family etc adoring partner and he had another woman for the last 6 yrs of their 19 yr marriage.Still loving her and telling her she's the only one etc.Even I was because I have seen them at close quarters and they were in love

i mean a comma before again...god i'm doing well here aren't i?

skimming the thread i'm v heartened to see that i'm not alone!

I can practically read his thoughts?You should be on telly then because I don't think you can

Maybe they feel a little bit stifled? It's nice to be trusted, but to have somebody who 100% trusted you because they knew you'd only ever wanted them and you could read their thoughts anyway.... that would make me cheat.! just to get some breathing space and draw a line around myself.