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Another woman fancies my fiancé

393 replies

Robsia · 28/02/2010 21:12

The week before my fiancé G met me (15 months ago, to put the time frame on it) he had a date with a girl called T who he met off the same dating site he met me.

He went back to her house afterwards and, to put it bluntly, she gave him oral sex.

Anyway, she was very taken with him (even talked marriage on the first date!) but he was less taken with her - found her tedious and boring in fact. When he met me, he never looked back. He gave her the excuse that he wasn't over his wife leaving him and was not ready for a relationship.

Since their first date, she has been ringing him daily at first, although it dropped to weekly after a while and is about monthly now. Most of the time he doesn't take the calls but occasionally talks to her out of 'politeness'. She still thinks there could be something there when he is over his break-up and the poor girl has no idea he is engaged to me!

This weekend we were at his house and he had gone out for a short while. The house phone rang and I answered it and it was a woman:

Her: Oh, I think I've got the wrong number.
Me: Are you after G**?
Her: Um yes.
Me: Oh he's just popped out for a bit.
Her. Oh. Er, I'll try again later then.
Me: Who shall I say called?
Her: Tell him it was T**.

I told him when he got home and he showed me a text she had sent him saying that she had rung the home phone and "someone" had answered and she hoped she hadn't got him into trouble.

Now - I have absolutely no doubt that he is doing NOTHING with this girl - I think she is the wronged (although a touch obsessive) party in all this by holding a candle for him all this time and he hasn't let her down gently.

Now that I have her phone number, I am tempted to call her and explain the situation as ask very nicely if she wouldn't mind not ringing my fiancé again.

What do you think?

OP posts:
AnnaSceptic · 03/03/2010 16:45

This thread is hilarious! Gutted I ignored it for so long.

So, in a nutshell, then, BigMac...

Years (a year? more?) later you are still in touch with a 'tedious and dull' woman who you allowed to suck you off on the first (and only) date. She has no idea you are engaged.Is that right so far?

Then your Mrs-to-be comes on here to moan about the other woman - not about you, her beloved fiance, who has 'forgotten' to tell the girl he used for a cheap blowjob that he is getting married - and now you are here, getting all hot under the bollocks about ...what exactly?

WTF?

SolidGoldBrass · 03/03/2010 16:53

Another of those blokes who thinks that WOmen's Lib has gone a bit too far, when women can refuse to take his mighty willy seriously and not shut up when told to.... Good luck with him Robsia. You might have to administer a dose of piss-taking at least weekly to make him bearable.

midnightexpress · 03/03/2010 17:01

Good grief, is he still here?

pagwatch · 03/03/2010 17:12

notwaving

you won't tempt me with a cup of tea. There is gin on offer on one of my otherthreads.

You will need to up the stakes.

BIGMAC2020 · 03/03/2010 17:58

Anna - Nowhere near, but keep trying.

SGB - No, another bloke that expects when they ask someone to leave them alone that they would actually respect that and not to have to disclose their personal life just to make that happen. So unless women's lib suddenly became harassment then I suppose the answer is "Yes".

Midnight - What's the problem? you not used to people daring to question how you treat new posters.

YearoftheDodo · 03/03/2010 18:02

If this was someone I was going out with, and I saw how childishly they simply could not live without having the last word, I'd be having a quick re-think.

Yes, Bigmac, I know you'll reply to that, but I don't need the last word to feel big and clever, so I won't be back.

But I hope Robsia is thinking hard.

said · 03/03/2010 18:02
BIGMAC2020 · 03/03/2010 18:06

YOTD - Then why do you all feel that YOU need to get the last word in then????? Doesn't that make you childish? There again this is YOUR forum isn't it?

I am getting bored with this now and it has been interesting on an otherwise dull day. All I can say is that maybe some of you should look at how you treat people and ask yourself if this was RL what would you really do and say.

It's all easy hiding behind usernames and false bravado, that includes me.

The difference is Robsia does actually know me and has done for quite a while now, you folks don't and thankfully never will!

SolidGoldBrass · 03/03/2010 18:20

I think Bigmac actually merits some sort of GOlden Sausage award for providing us with one of the best games of poke-the-piggy-with-a-stick in ages.

BIGMAC2020 · 03/03/2010 18:27

SGB - Let's just hope that when you need advice you don't ask for it here if it's all just a game.

kinderfool · 03/03/2010 18:28

After making my way through the entire thread and not thinking of any new way to say "what a load of arse" any more eloquently than other posters have I wasn't going to post, but have to mark my place so in future searches I remember to use the phrase 'poke-the-piggy-with-a-stick' more, after nearly choking on a wine gum reading it .

dittany · 03/03/2010 18:30

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BenHer · 03/03/2010 18:40

Playing "Poke-the-piggy-with-a-stick" is what got him into this whole mess in the first place.

SpicedGerkin · 03/03/2010 19:16
Grin
caramelwaffle · 03/03/2010 19:49

(sighhhhhhh) I stay away from MN for a little while and come back to THIS!

That scene with Samantha in the Sex and the City movie when she is wearing a fur coat and gets pelted with fake blood; she sighs and says "God - I've missed New York""

Well "sighhhhhhh - scent that blood; I've missed Mumsnet"

Janos · 03/03/2010 20:58

Hmmmm. Looks like you were spot on SGB!

Janos · 03/03/2010 21:03

"The difference is Robsia does actually know me and has done for quite a while now, you folks don't and thankfully never will! "

How do you know? You could be sat on here arguing the toss with your mum, sister, cousin etc

BIGMAC2020 · 03/03/2010 22:10

I doubt anyone I know would be that bothered to be on here.

said · 03/03/2010 22:13

What, unlike your girlfriend?

AnyFucker · 03/03/2010 22:14

BIGMAC

I thought you were keen for this thread to die, wasn't bothered about the last word and couldn't understand why people kept bumping it

so...

you leave it more than an hour since the last post and resurrect it again

BIGMAC2020 · 03/03/2010 22:17

and what is your point? I wasn't aware there was a timelimit.

AnyFucker · 03/03/2010 22:19

my point is in my post, don't be obtuse

and blimey, I only had to refresh once...were you, perchance lying in wait for someone to carry on your little tirade with ?

seriously, you need to get a life

BIGMAC2020 · 03/03/2010 22:25

And so do you lot!!!

AnyFucker · 03/03/2010 22:28

< looks round >

< kicks tumbleweed around >

not seeing too many people here, tbh

only me, and I don't count

SolidGoldBrass · 03/03/2010 23:18

Hi Anyfucker. fancy a pint? Or a fresh stick?